To ask how you budget for nieces and nephews?

[PinnyPencher3]

Christmas related but applies to birthdays from here on too I suppose.

How do you do it in your families when you have 3 kids (for example) and your siblings have 1 child.?

Do you spend £20 on their kid, totalling £20, and they spend £20 on each of yours, totalling £60? Or do they spend £6.67 on each of yours?

The numbers are just an example of course, just wondering your opinion on the matter

I have one niece and no children of my own, but we still buy her a gift for birthdays and Christmas.

It might be more of an issue if I had many nieces and nephews and little money to spare. If we couldn't afford gifts, we'd just do a smaller token gift, probably.

I bought presents for my older sister's children, and then when mine were born many years later she didn't buy presents for mine. Simple.

We spend £10-£15 ish on each child for Christmas - there’s 9 on my side and only 1 on DH’s and we have 1 DC.

Similar for birthdays though depends, before I had my own DC and before Covid I used to take the birthday niece/ nephew out for a treat/ outing of some kind, that would generally cost more but it was quite a nice thing to do and the parents appreciated a bit of childcare (though only one child at a time!) and no extra ‘stuff’.

It’s only my DD’s second Christmas - I think people spent a little more on her last year (as I tend to for a first Christmas though that’s daft really as it’s when they’re least bothered) but no doubt will spend similar to me per child this year.

The budget in our family is per child. We don't penalise those who have more siblings! It's not about each family swapping precise amounts of money, it's about giving.

We have a set amount per child, irrelevant of numbers of children.

I have one child. I have 2 best friends that we do xmas presents for the kids and we have always done 15.00 per child. One of them has two but she has never spent more on mine. Dont really bother me. We do all ask what they want but now adays all older so cash or a voucher with some chocolate. My brother has two. I spend 20.00 each on his kids. He does give my son 50.00 but he is a high earner but I dont expect it.

I wish I had a neice or nephew makes me feel quite sad to not be an aunt

My dh has always spent around £50-70 on his only nephews birthday they spent less even when we had our child despite being higher earners. They spend no more than £30 on each of our children, previously had 2. We now have 3 so let see. They have 2 and I will be expecting dh to match the amount they spend on ours.

I don’t calculate like that, I set my own budget based on what I can afford and the age of the child and don’t care/notice if it’s not reciprocated. Sometimes I can afford more, sometimes less and I’m happy to spend a bit more on a particular gift if it’s something I know they really want.

For birthdays I just buy what I think they'd like.

For Christmas, I tend to budget £10 for each as I have 11 of them so 110 in total. However some are babies and some are teenagers so I may spend less on one than another but it usually evens out.

I couldn't care less if they spent more or less on my kids. At the end of the day I buy them gifts because I want them to enjoy what I choose. If my child enjoys a £3 colour book and there's would a PlayStation game, then why does it matter? x

I don’t really budget as such but spend about 30 - 50 on each of them. My sis has 2 kids and I only have one but I don’t ask what she spends on mine. Probably roughly the same. She loves my DD though and is great Aunty so I’m definitely not complaining!!

I don't have nieces or nephews

My sister spends £5 on each of my children (her nieces and nephews). I'm sure she spent more when I just had the one. So £15 in total per family for children- tbh she spends £5 on me too so it's £20 per family. If she had a child I would spend £15 on them in total in the family.

As it is she gets a 'double present' from all of us which is more than she spends on all of us together but that's accidental as I go for what I have sneakily found out she really wants! So I guess she gets £30 present & sometimes DCs also make her something that costs (like painted pottery piece ) or something from a craft set that has taken weeks to make.

So I guess reading other PPs there's a lot of variation

In summary family overall budget.

Otherwise you could have a family of 4-5 who get all the goodies and single person of 1 really unfairly treated!

I come from two large families on my parents level and traditionally only godchildren were bought presents by aunties/ uncles
No way could my own aunts and uncles afforded to buy all their nieces and nephews presents 28 at last count and that'a not including obvs ...

Again £5 budget except for big birthdays and that was for god children of which everyone only has 2 or 3 maximum