To ask how you budget for nieces and nephews?

[PinnyPencher3]

Christmas related but applies to birthdays from here on too I suppose.

How do you do it in your families when you have 3 kids (for example) and your siblings have 1 child.?

Do you spend £20 on their kid, totalling £20, and they spend £20 on each of yours, totalling £60? Or do they spend £6.67 on each of yours?

The numbers are just an example of course, just wondering your opinion on the matter

I have 3 nephews all older than my 1 dd. I usually spend about £25 - £30 on each. My sister spends roughly the same on dd - though sometimes a bit more. I only do Xmas and not birthdays after their 18th. It's obviously worked out more expensive for me over all the years, but they are lovely and I don't begrudge this. I guess dsis had to spend much more money overall

We spend what we want to, which is around £30. They receive presents of a range of values.

I just spend what I spend. I don’t spend an equal amount on them all. I just get that what I think they will like.

At what age do you stop buying for nieces and nephews? Or do you do it for adult ones as well?

My eldest is in her first year of work and will still get her something whilst the youngest in her family is at home/university but not sure what to do once they've all graduated.

I spend about £5ish for each child. Sometimes I "club" together the budget for siblings sets so they get something to share instead.

I have no idea what my siblings spend on my DC but they all have more income than me.

Just buy them what you think they would like and what you can afford .

Why should children be penalised for being in a larger family?

The gift is not the ‘price.’

I spend the same on all nieces and nephews. Dc in larger families aren't less important, and gifts aren't meant to be a fair exchange.

Just ask your siblings what they would prefer to do!

One of my siblings spends “per family”, and one spends “per child”. I just adjust what I do according to what they do (it helps that the niblings - my autocorrect wants to call them Nibelungs which is quite apt! - are all different ages, and we don’t spend Christmas with them all in person).

We have one DC and two DNs I spend roughly the same on each of them as their parents spend on DS around £40 each (around £50 for birthdays), I wouldn't expect DB to spend £80 on DS! In general though I try to buy what they'd like rather than an exact to the penny amount so if one gets a present that's £36 and the other £45 but both will be loved equally I'm not going to worry. I wouldn't spend £5 on one and £50 on the other.

I budget 40 for birthday and Christmas. Sometimes it's a larger b'day present then a smaller Christmas or the other way round. Sometimes it's roughly 20 for each. Depends what I find that I think they'll like. All birthdays are close to Christmas though so it's easy to plan.

I don't have any children, but for the last 30+ years have bought birthday & Xmas presents for niece & nephew, godchildren & friends' kids depending on what I thought they would like. For closest godchildren, could be up to £100 each. Then a big blow out/ lasting gift when they turn 18 and then I stop. By that stage, they all earn much more than me! I would have hated to have had to calculate the value of gifts coming in & out.

I have two kids and my sister has 3. We have a limit of £20 per child. I don't spend less because she has one more than me. Seems silly.

My brother has one DC and I have three. I'd spend more on her than he spends on each of mine, but not three times as much. So somewhere in between the examples in your OP.

I only have one niece and I am lucky to be in a place where I can afford to spoil her. It’s usually around £100 for Christmas and £50 for her birthday

We have a set budget per child, I wouldn't change it if they ended up having another child.

I spend £10 on each child or give them £10 as they got older. I have decided to stop when they are 18. The same applies to birthdays. The adults don't buy for each other

I buy something I think they'll like and want.

They buy something they think mine will like and want.

Budget is irrelevant as we all have very different budgets.

This is rather odd and not something I have ever come across in either of our family's. We have 3 children and we both have 2 siblings each, none of them have children yet, some of them never will. They just buy our children gifts, I don't get this spending £6.31.50 so you've spent the same, how utterly bizarre? We have bought presents for other relative's children before we had kids, we didn't expect to be reimbursed through more expensive gifts for us as they had children and we didn't. You just buy each person a gift whatever your budget is, this isn't reduced if they have more kids than you.

We have a pre xmas family get together and set a limit, usually of £15

I have 2 DC and 1 DN. We don't discuss budget but I suspect we spend approximately the same per child rather than per family. I wouldn't feel offended if they wanted to spend less because I have 2 though. Money isn't particularly tight for either family though, I'm sure it is a bit more complicated/fraught if it is.

Surely no one calculates by how much is being spent back on them? I have no children. I still buy for my nephew and god children.

In our wider family, how much you spend depends on the income of the giver, not the number of siblings of the receiver.

Only buy for 2 so £20 each, as i dont do birthdays . They ate 17 and 15. Love cash!

I spend £40-50 each on my 2 Nephews. My Sister spends around the same amount on my 1 child. I wouldn’t expect her to spend double to equal what I spend on her 2.

we sort of do it where families with kids we buy for the kids, maybe a sweet tin to share
single, childless or much older relatives we buy for as adults,
its just how we've always done it.