To think I shouldn’t have to tell people in work what I am doing at a weekend

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Went to an Xmas market in london at the weekend - wore a mask the whole time, have taken LFTs every day before and since and was as careful as I could be- used hand sanitiser etc.

Someone in work had a go at me this morning and said I was putting them at risk by going - surely I shouldn’t have to answer to anyone for my weekend activities esp as I am being as careful as possible. It’s made me feel like some really shit, irresponsible colleague when actually I don’t think I have done anything wrong.

Aibu? I feel really upset

If you are following the current rules, then nothing wrong, at all. And so far visiting people, travelling, and going to shops is allowed, so enjoy it!
Your colleague is been over anxious.
And they have no right to make you feel bad.

@HelplesslyHoping

I'm with your colleague

I think you must be ops colleague. There surely can't be 2 of you.

@ShinyHappyPoster

I think YABU to be surprised that different people have different approaches to risks around Covid which is basically why your colleague is upset and why you're upset. You don't know why they're being cautious. They might be vulnerable. They might have close family members who are vulnerable. The government changing the definition of contacts and making track and trace redundant has increased the risk for lots of people with underlying health conditions Some posters might like to pretend 'that's it' and 'the end' but for families with vulnerable members that's not the case at all.

That's all very well but you can't expect everyone to live by the same standards as you.

If you're vulnerable and cautious you take what steps you can to protect yourself but currently what the OP is doing is totally legal and actually sounds pretty cautious. The colleague has no right whatsoever to try to police what other people do. If your health anxiety is sufficiently severe that you want to limit all contact with others then you need to take steps to shield/wfh or whatever. You can't impose your lifestyle onto others who have different perspectives on risk.

And as someone else pointed out upthread going to a market is hardly the riskiest of activities. There are people going to nightclubs/football matches/theatre/conferences/gigs etc. Did this colleague take all these people to task?

This person sounds very rude and a bit controlling. The health anxiety is understandable but seeking to police other people's perfectly legal behaviour is not.