To ask at what stage you’d want to be in a 7 year relationship?

[MrsSpringWater]

Just that really. 7 years into a relationship. Mid 20s to mid 30s age group. Where would you want to be ? Married? Kids? Travelling the world? Making memories?

Married with one or two children and a house after seven years together would make sense.

I met DH just before I turned 25, went on many holidays together, he bought his first house (I had my own). We moved into his when I was 26, engaged at 27, married at 29. Bought a house together 5 months after the wedding. At 32 (7 years in) I was pregnant with our first.

Depends on the person really, not everyone wants to get married or have babies or go travelling etc. What matters is that you're on the same page.

I've been with DH 8 years and we are married with a 3rd child on the way. We both knew early on that having a family together was top of our list.

I was married with our first house, plans for children at that stage.

We got a dog when I was 25 (our first big and scary step together), and were homeowners (a little flat) when I turned 26. At that point we were still going out drinking a lot in the city we lived in, but also starting to become more interested in quiet weekends away - eventually leading to us getting a camper van, which we had amazing times in for a few years.
I wanted to be married and in a management position by 30 and was.
We both really started to slow down in our early 30s. Didn't like late nights and drinking as much anymore. Nights out were replaced with cosy evenings at home. We smashed a massive amount of foreign travel and city breaks for a couple of years at this point because our finances were finally in great shape and we had an excellent dog sitter!
We relocated to a quaint little market town when I was 34. After refurbishing homes 1 and 2 and making good money in property, we're now in our dream home but with very low outgoings. I'm obsessed with living surrounded by beauty, and now spend my time hiking in the hills that surround us.
I'm 37. No plans for kids.

I donlt thing relationships can be catagorized into "stages".

Life is not prescriptive- we are free to live life as we see fit.

At 35 I was still child free, with a partner, unmarried.
We took a year off from work, rented out our house and were backpacking, having wild sex, living in bamboo beach huts, climbing volcanoes and scuba diving with turtles on distant coral shores.

Totally depends on studying and if had own house together. Seven years in DH and I were sofa surfing due to redundancy and no way have DC. Possibly married but really depends on situation. Too broad an age range. In an ideal world 20s traveling...30s married and thinking of children if you want them but life isn't ideal. We 15 year married now and over 20 years together one DC and a house in our 40s if that helps. Love my 40s

We were living together with no view to marriage, neither of us wanted kids. What does making memories even mean?

7 years into our relationship dh & I were married and had just had our first baby. That was right for us, however every relationship is different so it wouldn’t be for everyone.

@Chichichiwawa

After 7 years, marriage. If you're not sure about someone after that long, then what else is going to persuade you?

But then marriage was important to me. It's not for everyone.

I agree with this.

Anyone who can't commit fully after 7 sodding years must be looking over their partner's shoulder and waiting for a 'better' prospect to come along.

Don't be "Miss I Suppose You'll Do For Now".

@SudokuWillNotSaveYou thank you, you're right it is! But we keep on keeping on 😊

7 years in - we lived together and had a regular table at the pub.

14 years in - two kids, married, house, car, cat and can't remember the last time we got to go to the pub for drinks.

I'd expect to be at least engaged and living together, with kids or actively trying.

Completely depends on age though.

38, met 5 years ago. Moved in after 18 months, bought a house after 2 years, married on 3 years, had a baby on 4 years. If I was younger this probably wouldn’t have happened so fast.

However, in general terms, after 7 years I’d want to be happy, simple as that.

All this “you’ve got to have kids by X” and “got to be married by Y” is a load of bollocks. Everyone is different and everyone wants different things.

Well I was married with two kids by then, but each to their own.

By 7 years in I would expect people to be living together, and married if that's something they believe in. If they're a couple that want kids I'd expect them to be making plans by then.

To be talking about the future.
Are we buying property together, are we have children, are we getting married?
Unless both people are perfectly happy to go on living the same way indefinitely.

Meet at 33/37, married at 37/41, now 42/46 no kids, no intention of having them (we both have older from previous) enjoying travelling the world and planning a very early retirement in 2 years 🌍😊

I'm 5.5 years in and we are both in our twenties. We are married with 2 kids and w dogs . We didn't travel much together and I would have liked to have done that. Next big thing we want is our own house x

I was 27 with now DH at 7 years into our relationship. We were just buying our first house, wanted a couple of years living together before committing to engagement, then marriage and babies.

Married unless you’re mid twenties

Totally dependent on the person.

DH and met early 30s, now late 30s. Mortgage, marriage, childfree by choice, enjoying our lives and making memories.

I was newly married with DH and planning DC1 at 7 years into the relationship.

Too broad a question. In early 20's travelling, having fun. By late 20's many women would want someone serious, who is going to propose, marry and have babies.

Met DH just before I turned 21, moved in together after 3 months, got engaged at 1 year, bought a house together after 2 years, married at 3 years, and first baby arrived about 2 months after the wedding. By 7 years there could be another kid or two 😆

By "mid 20s to mid 30s" I think OP means they got together in their mid 20s and are in their mid 30s now?

I was 23 when DH and I got together. By 30 we were married and I was pregnant with our first DC. We did the travelling thing a couple of years before that. Personally I didn't want to put off having a family any later than that.