Best friend has no children by choice. I have two. We are in a social group made up of mostly couples. One couple recently broke up, I am close to the woman as we had our DC's at the same time. She is genuinely a lovely, fun and kind person.
Her dp just moved out, six months after the birth of their first child. He was constantly drinking and not taking part in family life. She wanted to make it work, he didn't.
My best friend see's nothing wrong with his behaviour, when I asked her if she had seen him and whether he was going to try again, she just said 'oh he's not been happy for ages' and that they would both be happier apart. I pointed out that it might be slightly easier for him to be happier, back in his mums house, down the pub every evening compared to my friend who is now raising two kids on her own and on mat leave.
We agreed to disagree and I thought it wouldn't come up again but tonight she sent me a pic, completely out the blue, of him and her (and others) drinking in a bar with the caption 'out with this hero' I feel so angry that she doesn't get why I'm not his biggest fan and why I'm not 'celebrating' this man being free of his responsibilities?
My best friend and I both have shit dads who continually chose booze over family life whilst our mums raised us, working full time stressful jobs and it's made me see her differently that she's on his side.