To say no to a third child due to climate change?

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My DH wants another (3rd) baby. I think not, with climate change being one of my main reasons. I am already worried for our two DCs lives. Emotionally I could be persuaded but all the facts suggest its a bad idea.

AIBU?

You can say no to having another child for any reason. He can either accept it or leave.

Personally I would agree with you ... I chose to have a single child for many reasons ...... but it is something you will have to discuss with your DH. I would consider you are very fortunate to have two DC, why is he so keen for a third?

Why does he want a third child?
I would say you can refuse for any reason

Yanbu to not want another child for that reason, especially already having 2 to think about.

I've stopped at 1 child and I wonder if I've done the right thing by bringing him into this world. I actually feel quite guilty about it.

Definitely not unreasonable. I worry so much about my children's future.

YANBU

No one knows what position they're going to be in in 5 years or 10 years let along what state the world is going to be in in 50 years. Two kids are more than enough for anyone IMO.

You can not have a child for any reason you want. It’s your body - any reason is a good reason. (And for what it’s worth I think climate change is a really good reason.)

Sounds to me like you've had the two you wanted and now would like some guardian brownie points to go with them.

If you want a third, I’ve had no kids so we can share if you want. Don’t be so ridiculous. If you can only afford 2 stick, if you will feel bereft forever and can afford it, have 3. Sorry, COP26 shows your 2 or more kids isn’t the issue so crack on it don’t!

What a pointless, virtue signalling thread. If you wanted to help the environment you’d have had zero kids. You clearly don’t care.

As others have said, any reason is a valid reason.

However if OH said no to another child for that reason, I would find it really difficult to accept I think. I don't know why as it is a really important and valid reason.

Yea, o would say you are being unreasonable. That's a pretty hysterical desicion really.

If you just don't want a third, fine. I'd be pretty pissed off at a partner not wanting to for that reason. Frankly, I'm not even sure I believe it; it strikes me as virtue signalling when you just don't want another - which is fine btw.

I wonder if I've done the right thing by bringing him into this world. I actually feel quite guilty about it.

I feel the same about my one DD.

I think the OP is saying they are concerned about the lives the children may have. This isn't virtual signalling, this is something all new potential parents need to be thinking about. What lies ahead for these new humans?

I am the same , I wanted 3 but felt it's extremely unreasonable to have more than 2 .

I also worry so much about the future of my kids sometimes I wish I hadn't had any and adopted instead as it scares me so much what they are going to have to face.

The point is it’s very difficult to imagine such a conversation taking place outside north- west Europe.

Those three countries have particularly high birth rates and ecological concerns of their own, but could have been selected from anywhere within Africa, south/south-east Asia and to a lesser extent South America where cultural/religious/economic concerns carry far more weight than climate change.

Yes completely reasonable. I think more than 2 is too too much in our current climate.

Completely reasonable. I too decided not to have a 3rd and climate change was also a major factor

Yeah I would have felt guilty having a third myself. We did consider it but decided not to.