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Anyones eles kids have December birthdays? And do they get those annoying 'joint birthday / christmas gifts?'

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KittyLetteItSnow · 14/12/2007 14:40

Which are no bigger / better than your other kids Christmas gifts, yet the june (ect) kids get a birthday present too?

What Im trying to say is I think its unfair that the child that has a December birthday gets one gift that is equal to the christmas presents the other kids get. Yet its for his birthday too.

But the other kids get a seperate present on their birthday, if that makes sense.

Id understand if it was bigger - then its equal but nope.

Its not his fault his birthday is close to christmas.

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ADDICTEDtosayingHAAAAAAAPYxmas · 15/12/2007 21:03

but wouldn't you rather they got say a really good £50 present than two £25 presents?

Nemostwonderfultimeoftheyear · 15/12/2007 21:06

So far we havent had this at all with dd1. She is 2 tommorow and we are having a bday party for her but then most of people who will be there wouldnt be buying her christmas presents anyway.

DD2 is 1 on 5th jan so dont know how that will effect her with most people being skint!!

AnnaKeyrules · 15/12/2007 21:24

dd's b'day is on Christmas Day, so it's impossible to really separate the two, but everyone is really good about not buying joint presents.
Mainly because I made it clear from the outset that it should not be done

bubblepop · 15/12/2007 22:09

2 of my lot have dec birthdays,no-ones ever thought of joint pressies in our house (HOOORAH THEY GOT SUMTHIN RIGHT FOR ONCE!!)

Krimble · 15/12/2007 22:10

DS has a dec birthday and only got 1 present wrapped in christmas paper complete with a christmas tag, the rest were porperly wrapped . DS didn't notice or care anyway. But I thought it was a bit crap.

Staceym11PipersPiping · 15/12/2007 22:23

my bros bday is 26th and mine is 1st jan.

we had the same (joint xmas and bday pressies) but as we were both so close to xmas then there was no 'he got more than me' (not that im saying thats what you're kids do) so it was probably slightly easier!

its horrible tho, i used to think that about other kids from other families!

SantasUnderGodzillasBumcheek · 15/12/2007 22:25

It was my DD's first birthday yesterday. We have got the Christmas decorations up already (when she is old enough we will ask if she wants us to wait, but she is loving the sparkley tinsel this year ).

She has had seperate birthday presents, wrapped in proper birthday paper (butterflies, fairies etc), and also some money set aside to treat her mid-year. DB and DS have sent seperate presents (so far so good!).

I have planned for this for months and I'm so looking forward to doing it again next year! Am I mad?

pollywollybauble · 15/12/2007 23:25

dd's is 30th and mine is 31st....nobody has done that joint present thing for dd but i must say when i was in my teens combining the 2 meant i got fewer but bigger prezzies that i would never have been able to have otherwise ...

we keep the chrissy decs up and add birthday ones (we're not into minimalism in this house!)

advantage of the 31st was that there was always a party on...

bookofchristmascarolsmum · 15/12/2007 23:37

My Nan's birthday was 1st Jan which she loved as she always had a party for NY and then when she got up again it was still her birthday (we used to go to the pantomine in the evening). Plus her DIL's dm's birthday was 2nd Jan so she always had 'one over' her .

My parents left birthday cards up until they fell down, regardless of whether they fell at New Year, Easter or Christmas. Looked a bit like a Victorian parlour with all the clutter but there was always something to look at.

ggirlsbells · 15/12/2007 23:38

my dd's is the 31st,she'll be 16 this yr.

She's never had joint gifts.

I think she's prefer her birthday in the summer though,and yes agree there is always a party.

bookofchristmascarolsmum · 15/12/2007 23:42

My dd has her birthday 26th of June so I couldn't have positioned it more centrally in the year if I'd tried.... but then you get the myths about summer babies not doing as well as winter babies.... swings and roundabouts.

But everyone should get presents for both Christmas and birtdays. Regardless of when they fall.

micci25 · 15/12/2007 23:46

my dd'sb day is the 9th i do find it hard affording x mas and birthday at the same time plus she is in a play for dance classes this year so i have all of that to pay for too but i have never had any one give her joint gifts! who is it who is doing it do you know them well enough to explain how unfair you think it is?

SnowMuchToBits · 15/12/2007 23:50

Ds's birthday is on the 5th, so early enough to avoid joint presents. I do make sure we put up his cards for a week and then take them down before putting up Christmas cards/decs though.

whispywhisp · 15/12/2007 23:52

DD1's birthday on the 30 Dec - our xmas tree is down and away by then so her birthday is separate to Xmas - we take her out for a special day out, just for her, at the end of the June - we call it her second birthday. It's not easy trying to hold a party in the Winter, hence why we do something mid way through the year.

saltcod · 16/12/2007 00:03

DS will be 1 on Christmas Day this year (YES, Christmas 2006 is one I won't foget in a hurry ), so have been reading this thread with interest!

I was quite upset about him arriving early (not due till early Jan) at first, as I really thought having a birthday on Christmas day was awful. But then, someone pointed out that having a birthday anytime around Christmas can be crappy, so in some ways it's better to go the whole hog & have it on the actual day! So now, it feels quite special.

Plus I get to make/eat a birthday cake on Christmas day which is fab coz I hate christmas cake/pudding! Also, whenever I give out DS's DOB, it always raises a smile... or a "ooh, Christmas Day!" comment (NO, really?!?)

PicknMix · 16/12/2007 01:15

Ah, a rant after my own heart (so to speak) my birthday is on Boxing Day but, up until I was 18 I always celebrated it on 26th June. Didn't even mention it at Christmas. My family used to buy 'I am Four' (etc) cards and write 'and a 1/2' on them and the badges that came on them!

Once I got to 18 my mum said I was too old and now my DH tries to make a special effort on Boxing Day as do my friends (but funnily enough, my mum now nearly always forgets my birthday!!).

Much nicer having a totally separate birthday in the summer - better outside parties!!

The birthday presents wrapped in christmas paper is now the worst thing for me but I'm used to it now!

AnnaKeyrules · 16/12/2007 11:16

oh, PicknMix, the b'day pressies in Christmas paper drives me mad (on behalf of dd who's not old enough to care ). It's not hard to find some plain paper, is it?

saltcod, dd's date of birth always gets a comment, too. I tried sweetening the pill for her this year by saying that not everyone gets a chocolate a day in the countdown to their birthday

She's still finding it a bit confusing, though, and told me the other day that Santa would bring her friends birthday presents (friends b'day is in March!)

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