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Anyones eles kids have December birthdays? And do they get those annoying 'joint birthday / christmas gifts?'

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KittyLetteItSnow · 14/12/2007 14:40

Which are no bigger / better than your other kids Christmas gifts, yet the june (ect) kids get a birthday present too?

What Im trying to say is I think its unfair that the child that has a December birthday gets one gift that is equal to the christmas presents the other kids get. Yet its for his birthday too.

But the other kids get a seperate present on their birthday, if that makes sense.

Id understand if it was bigger - then its equal but nope.

Its not his fault his birthday is close to christmas.

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Bocohohoho · 14/12/2007 17:19

DD2s birthday is 23rd Dec, and even we are guilty of this! She just doesn't need two lots of presents - she'll be 3, and i just can't think of anything.

I'm a really mean mother aren't I.

MissEm · 14/12/2007 17:19

My dd was born on New years day and its a nightmare, from the people who buy a joint present to those that actually forget.

Its not just xmas birthdays my goddaughter got some easter eggs for her birthday once, as they were the same date that year.

lilmissmummy · 14/12/2007 17:22

Having DD birthday on Christmas eve I cant really wait to put up decorations or anything like that as it is far too much work so we endup having balloons and banners as well as tree and mistletoe the house is so colourful.

Amusingly my DS was born the dy after Easter Sunday so we do religious holidays and birthdaysquite well together...

Good job there isnt too many more religious holidays or I could end up with loads of children!!! Although I am getting broody...

bonkerzaboutxmas · 14/12/2007 17:24

my DD is 2 next week and im determined this wont happen to her. We are having a party tomorrow for family and friends and they will all give her a present then so no risk of doubling up etc. Im sure when she is older she will use the closeness to get bigger better presents though, seems like good sense!!!!

idlingabout · 14/12/2007 18:03

My dp has always had an issue about this. Finally got his family trained not to do the 'joint' thing but then they still tend to wait until we see them at Christmas ( which this year is a couple of days after Christmas Day) to also hand him his birthday present. It is always done as an after-thought - ''oh, there's your birthday present''. Frequently it isn't wrapped either. They also send his birthday card and our Christmas Card in the same envelope - they are not short of money.Perhaps I should suggest he includes a Christmas card with their birthday cards - in July.

andfranksentthis · 14/12/2007 18:11

The NICE thing about a Christmas birthday is that there is so much more choice though. My dd2 is on 20th and we postpone xmassy things till after and NEVER give joint presents. My brother is 28th... and i remember for a few years he chose to celebrate it in Feb because mine is in Jan and he thought no one had any money to buy presents by then..

YuleLoveHekateAtSolstice · 14/12/2007 18:30

Not my kids..

I hated it. Not only did I get a combined gift from some people, but my parents also thought it would be really nice to celebrate my special day by putting up the christmas decorations.

So my sister got a big fuss, balloons, gifts and happy birthday this that and the other, in October

And I got to help put up the christmas tree, to hear my mum ask us BOTH if we were excited and to have half my gifts wrapped in paper with santa on it.

It's not fun.

Don't do it.

glaskham · 14/12/2007 18:37

my ds will be 3 on the 21st....dh's family live down south and we're in blackpool, they normally make a trip eraly dec, both kids get a big pressy to open then and another big one to open for xmas and they give cash to put in ds's trust fund....though we normally ask them to give same xmas pressies, ie 1 each, and then what they'd spend on another xmas pressie each for their trust funds and then a pressy for ds, as dd gets a pressy for her bday in april....so her trust fund will be lacking as she doesn't have a birthday just before xmas, and he gets one present less because it is!!-just doesn't seem fair to me!!

mumzyof2 · 14/12/2007 22:05

My ds was born 23rd December, but before he was born, I made sure everybody knew NO joint presents, if he gets one, I tell them straight, that that isnt what I want it to be, and why. And, believe me, I dont ever stick up to people, but I really dont like it.
All his birthday cards are presents are kept separate from the Christmas ones.

PhoeNixYouAMerryChristmas · 14/12/2007 22:18

My birthday is the 27th Dec, I can't really remember getting joint pressies but do you know what REALLY GETS ON MY BLOODY NERVES those cards that say 'On Your December Birthday' with christmas pictures on

Also now i'm older people forget my birthday

Flibbertinseljinglebells · 14/12/2007 22:21

Ah Manchita, DS1's party is on Sunday. I'm holding it in the play area of a huge mill shopping complex. The invitations told the parents that they could leave the kiddies with us and go shopping, I even blagged some discount vouchers for the shops when I booked the party.
I am stunned that of the 14 children invited, ALL have confirmed acceptance! Usually on mumsnet we are complaining that no one RSVPs and hardly any turn up!
On the other foot though, DS already has 2 presents for his birthday from his 'other' grandparents WRAPPED IN CHRISTMAS PAPER. very

PhoeNixYouAMerryChristmas · 14/12/2007 22:21

And getting pressies wrapped in christmas paper winds me up

PhoeNixYouAMerryChristmas · 14/12/2007 22:23

x posts Flibbertinseljinglebells lol. Is it so hard to buy birthday paper?

smartiejake · 15/12/2007 09:09

One of my friends ds has a birthday on xmas eve. They celebrated his birthday with a cake and cards but no presents. He then used to have a present day in june and a party with friends. Thought this was a good idea

smartiejake · 15/12/2007 09:09

smartiejake · 15/12/2007 09:10

So good I thought I'd post it twice!

SNOWBall4girlz · 15/12/2007 09:14

yes and yes
not read the whole threadbut my dd3 is 28th of dec and boy is it annoying

get my mil to take her out after new year for lunch and to pick a present to make it special

have to laugh though this year she said she is saving all her xmas presnts to open on her birthday ! she will be 5

hedgehog1979 · 15/12/2007 12:29

i had a friend at school who had a december birthday and they used to have a party in june with presents and stuff so that (probably) parents did not get too stressed at christmas. think that is prob what i would do but luckily pg with number one and not due til june

TheWiltedRose · 15/12/2007 12:31

My ds1s bday is on the 29th dec so its in between xmas and new year which can be very expensive but i always treat it as a seperate day and but him presants accordingly when i can!

TheWiltedRose · 15/12/2007 12:32

see what annoys me is my anniversary with dp id on boxing day coulda picked that one better!

MarsyChristmas · 15/12/2007 12:35

It's DS1's 15th today!

I won't allow anyone to buy him a joint gift (unless it's something that he's specifically requested that is a bit expensive).

The others all have birthday gifts and then at Christmas get Christmas gifts. So does he!

In fact we don't put any decorations or the tree up until after his birthday, normally around the 20th unless he wants it up earlier. Same with Christmas cards!

moljam · 15/12/2007 12:39

my ds2 is 19th.ive said if people only want to get one present thats ok but can they do same for dd and ds1 whos birthdays are in april.my mum said i cant not get them a birthday present!!

Santasmissyontheside · 15/12/2007 12:41

dd1 the 6th so to early for joint and its mine on 17thy and i never had joint my mum wouln't allow it

moljam · 15/12/2007 12:42

wrapping paper winds me up too!
ds2 is having party tomorrow.i know people will be passing round xmas cards!bah humbug

blueshoes · 15/12/2007 13:18

KittyLette, do you throw 2 parties though?

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