Husband being selfish?

[Silverclasp]

I work from home and my husband works shifts outside the home. As childcare a family member minds our daughter in our home (we pay her obviously).
Anyway today my husband is on a 5pm - 11pm shift in work. Even though DH was off during the day I still organised childcare for today so he could get a rest in the morning. I got up with toddler at 7am and started work at 8 when the childcare arrived. The person minding her has done us a few favours this week so when I noticed I had a quiet afternoon I said she could head home after she put DD down for a nap at 11.30 (since both me and husband were here for the afternoon I figured we could just share the toddler duties). When DD woke after 50 min I gave her lunch and played with her etc Then at 1.30 I asked him to look after DD while I caught up with some work and he refused saying he wanted another hour to himself. He basically said that I shouldn't have sent the childcare home.
Now I prob should have run it by him before sending her home but seriously, he got to lie in bed watching netflix all morning and didn't have to look after his child until 2.30!!!!
Am I being unreasonable in thinking he's being a selfish @sshole?

I did the same shift when mine were small. I have to admit, it was tiring going to bed so late and getting up so early. I did need a rest in the day I used to grab a couple of hours while they napped. I didn't ask my mum to help but I would sometimes rope dh in if he was around. After all, he did get a couple of hours rest in the evenings while they were in bed

@Nanny0gg second sentence of OP

[quote Polmuggle]@Nanny0gg second sentence of OP[/quote]
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@Nanny0gg yes she's paid.

It usually works out as my mum doing childcare 3 days a week. My husbands shifts change week to week but generally he's off on a Thursday so he looks after DD, and I'm off on a Friday/Sat/Sun so I look after her those days. Sometimes DH has weekends off but if he doesn't and instead has another day off during the week he will ask if my mum will still look after DD that day so that he can get things done but usually just walks the dog and rests that day.

You cancelled the childcare… YABU

@Hesma

You cancelled the childcare… YABU

Oh OP, your husband is here. waves

[quote Silverclasp]@Polmuggle I know I was just thinking that lots of women have husbands that don't help out at all and started to feel guilty for complaining about him but really just because the the bar is really low doesn't mean I shouldn't get annoyed about something selfish he did[/quote]
"... husbands that don't help out"...

Not a dig at you, OP, just a general observation that it often gets framed this way. It really shouldn't be seen as helping out. Two people living together and bringing up kids shouldn't be helping out, they should be sharing the jobs. It is so frustrating!

YANBU, OP

It’s not fair on you or your mum, but could you stop using your mum for child care? That might stop the dickhead being lazy.

A ransom lasagne is nothing when he does fuck all childcare and you and your family member are default parent.

Was that a typo or is a ransom Lasagne what you meant to say? I love it either way