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To go on holidays anyway?

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ChimneyPot · 16/11/2021 14:01

We are due to go on holidays to the Maldives just after Christmas. It is for my 50th, totally my choice of holiday. There will be me, DH, 3 older teens and DS in primary school.

DH has broken his leg and is very likely to still be in plaster then. This would mean he would be on a fabulous beach/snorkelling holiday and unable to get his cast wet.

We have insurance and could cancel but I don’t know when we could reschedule it until. Eldest is away at university and others have state exams in 2022. So it would probably have to wait a year if not 2 years.

DH will go with whatever I want to do.

Am I being unreasonable to decide we go on the holiday?

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dreamingofsun · 16/11/2021 14:04

sounds a bit grim to me for both of you. Isnt sand going to be an issue too? I would think of something else i wanted to do - even if just weekend somewhere as city break and then reschedule for a few years time. there arent any issues around flying?

Chenga · 16/11/2021 14:07

I mean, how would you feel if you were the one on the cast? It sounds dreadful for him. the long flight, basically just having to lay there the entire time.

I would cancel and do it another time.

SarahMused · 16/11/2021 14:07

Is this an above or below knee cast? I can’t imagine flying with a full cast on for a beach holiday even if you were allowed to. Go without him or reschedule.

TotallySuper · 16/11/2021 14:13

Rearrange it I'm sure you can find a date in 2022 that will work for everyone.

Thethreecs · 16/11/2021 14:17

We had this one year, not same destination but florida. We thought it would ruin the holiday but it didn't. The hospital doesn't allow a full cast when flying due to swelling when flying, so you either get half a cast or air boot.

It was my ds and he opted for an air boot, which meant he could remove it for swimming, he even swam with dolphins with no issues.

Water is so good for leg injuries. Now he won't be climbing etc but there's tons to do.

The airports were fantastic, we arranged a wheelchair to be at the aircraft door, any airports that had steps they arranged a lift off the plane. Ds was brought into his seat on the plane using an Isle chair.

A little bit of changing plans and arranging help where possible makes things alot more easier.

Also be sure to amend your insurance as it won't cover any issues out there, if there's any. It's usually only a few pounds.

Fernando072020 · 16/11/2021 14:26

I'd rearrange. For such an expensive holiday, I'd want my DH to enjoy it too, even though it's for your birthday

IntermittentParps · 16/11/2021 14:31

Go without him
Go without DH on a big birthday intended to include the whole nuclear family? Aye right.

Thethreecs has some good suggestions. Would you be able to do the air boot thing for your DH?

tanstaafl · 16/11/2021 14:34

I’m not being daft but he didn’t have a broken leg when you took the insurance out?

If not, you’ll be ok to claim.

Datsandcogs · 16/11/2021 14:45

Please rearrange. It would be a wasted trip if not everyone could enjoy it fully. Your DH is being extremely generous to say it could go ahead. I’m sure that there are other things that you could do to celebrate all together that everyone can participate in.

CrimbleCrumble1 · 16/11/2021 14:48

Could you go in July or August?

FeatheredHope · 16/11/2021 14:49

The very long flight would be the biggest concern for me with his leg in a cast!

Sirzy · 16/11/2021 14:49

If it was you with the broken leg would you still want to go?

Personally I would postpone it. It’s rubbish but it is what it is.

PicaK · 16/11/2021 15:20

God sand in the cast - shudders. Rearrange.

MaggieFS · 16/11/2021 15:24

It would be such a waste. I'd be so disappointed to delay but for this sort of holiday it seems the best option. Unless there's anyway he won't be in a cast by then? Are you even allowed to fly in casts?

Boood · 16/11/2021 15:28

He’d be so hot and uncomfortable on the beach with a cast, not to mention bored. Being in and out of the sea is the whole point of going to the Maldives. It would be like torture for him.

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ChimneyPot · 16/11/2021 15:51

You are all so much nicer than me!

I am really struggling with the thought of cancelling.

It is a half leg cast and flying business so should be ok for that bit.

DH doesn’t swim so would have been limited anyway. It really was primarily for me though the kids would all love it too.

Moving to summer is not an option so next possible date is Christmas 2022.

Insurance is rolling annual insurance we have had for 20 years so definitely predates broken leg.

We will have to talk to consultant about possibility of a boot by then but definitely don’t want to do anything that could impede full recovery.

If a boot isn’t a good option I will just have to get my head around cancelling. Sad

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IntermittentParps · 16/11/2021 15:55

DH doesn’t swim so would have been limited anyway. It really was primarily for me though the kids would all love it too.
Ah, that changes things a bit. Personally I like the idea of a holiday spent lying in a hammock on a beautiful beach, reading and enjoying the view Grin but had for some reason assumed your DH was a water baby and would be missing out.
Go for it then, if you and he think he'll still have a good time.

ittakes2 · 16/11/2021 15:55

We were going on holiday abroad when my son unfort broke his arm. At first he had the hard cast but when we went for our follow up and asked about taking the cast off in Australia - the doctor offered to put a roll on roll off cast on so we could just take it off all together in a 1 or 2 without needing to go to the drs. Could you ask if they do something like this for legs?

ittakes2 · 16/11/2021 15:55

By the way, I would not go as I would not want my husband to be uncomfortable and reduce his enjoyment.

Sirzy · 16/11/2021 15:58

If you do go you would need to tell your insurance because it would become a pre existing condition so may be tricky if their are any complications while away if you haven’t told them

SleepingStandingUp · 16/11/2021 15:59

I think if it isn't going to actually what he'd have done much anyway as he doesn't swim then I'd def go
. He can sit around relaxing, it's not like he's sitting in the corner of a bare room swaying

OhMrDarcy · 16/11/2021 15:59

For the Maldives he will have to climb onto and off boats to get to your island - will he be able to manage stepping down 2-3 big steps into a rocking boat? And your lodge/room might be a long way, like a 10-15 minute walk, from the restaurant you'll have three meals a day in.

I'd reschedule to be honest.

Stompythedinosaur · 16/11/2021 16:06

I would rearrange it too, much as that is disappointing. It doesn't sound much fun for you dh.

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ChimneyPot · 16/11/2021 16:06

@OhMrDarcy I hadn’t thought about hopping on and off seaplanes. That might make it impossible anyway.

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ChimneyPot · 16/11/2021 16:12

DH is definitely not a water baby, that would be me but he would have planned some gentle snorkelling with a buoyancy aid in calm waters and a glass bottom boat excursion or two.
Those would be out with a cast and he would be left with the views and the fabulous spa.
It would be really frustrating.

Will definitely check if alternatives to cast are safe option.

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