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Original poster

To ask if I should throw DP's alarm clock out the window.

33 replies

BloodyAlarms · 15/11/2021 09:32

Every bloody morning at 7am his alarm goes off not once, not twice but three times.

Three. It obviously wakes me up but if it was only once I could probably go back to sleep. Its also the loudest, most annoying noise. He says he needs it to go off three times because he falls back to sleep. Why they hell doesn't he get up at the first alarm?! I don't need to be awake until 8.30am (no kids).

AIBU to throw it out the window ?

OP posts:
Reduceddutiesboredom · 15/11/2021 09:43

My DH used to be the same. His phone alarm would go off at 6.30, regardless of what time he actually had to get up at, he’d press snooze for up to an hour. Eventually I gave up, switched his alarm off after the first time and went back to sleep. He was late to work every day for a week, but now he gets up at his first alarm and I don’t want to punch his face in every morning!

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 15/11/2021 10:03

I did this once Grin DH would wake before the alarm and get up, but forget to turn it off. I was doing all the night feeds and was shattered. I have him one warning, and next time he forgot I just launched it. It made a lovely crunch.

Aqua55 · 15/11/2021 10:06

Obviously violence is the answer to such a small problem Hmm

Original poster
BloodyAlarms · 15/11/2021 10:09

@Aqua55 Grin

OP posts:
Original poster
BloodyAlarms · 15/11/2021 10:10

It's so annoying. I need my sleep!

Not sure I'd have the balls to launch it @JesusInTheCabbageVan.

OP posts:
JesusInTheCabbageVan · 15/11/2021 10:11

@Aqua55

Obviously violence is the answer to such a small problem Hmm
Well we were all happy with throwing, but if you prefer violence that's fine Smile OP, do you have an axe or similar?
TaraR2020 · 15/11/2021 10:13

I voted yanbu because I completely sympathise, I'm torn though because I also need more than 1 alarm to wake up!

girlmom21 · 15/11/2021 10:13

Change his alarm after he's gone to bed. One alarm for 8:30.

That'll learn him Grin

Amberflames · 15/11/2021 10:15

OH has the loudest alarm imaginable set on his phone. Not usually a problem as the lazy bastard he hardly ever gets up with the kids so I’m usually already up. But the two days a week he gets up early for a run it gives me the rage.

Claims he doesn’t know how to turn it down.

OP get him a smart watch with a silent vibrating alarm. They’re amazing if you get up at different times.

GrumpyPanda · 15/11/2021 10:16

More effective to throw DP out of the window...?

BillMasen · 15/11/2021 10:21

@Reduceddutiesboredom

My DH used to be the same. His phone alarm would go off at 6.30, regardless of what time he actually had to get up at, he’d press snooze for up to an hour. Eventually I gave up, switched his alarm off after the first time and went back to sleep. He was late to work every day for a week, but now he gets up at his first alarm and I don’t want to punch his face in every morning!
Blimey

If I posted that my partner had to get up before me but I turned her alarm off and made her late because it annoyed me, and that was great as it meant I didn’t want to punch her, how do we think that would go down on mumsnet?

girlmom21 · 15/11/2021 10:25

@BillMasen but you didn't so it doesn't matter.

lightand · 15/11/2021 10:32

@Amberflames

OH has the loudest alarm imaginable set on his phone. Not usually a problem as the lazy bastard he hardly ever gets up with the kids so I’m usually already up. But the two days a week he gets up early for a run it gives me the rage.

Claims he doesn’t know how to turn it down.

OP get him a smart watch with a silent vibrating alarm. They’re amazing if you get up at different times.

Can you tell me the make please?

My DH and I are literally on day 1 of using an alarm which is supposed to be silent. It is not. It vibrates, but vibrates with a hummm.
It may work out to be good enough, but too early to tell yet.

Reduceddutiesboredom · 15/11/2021 10:32

@BillMasen
I like to think people understand sarcasm.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 15/11/2021 10:37

It is annoying for someone’s alarm to go off over and over

I’m a night owl so a bit torn - I both would hate someone else’s alarm waking me up when I don’t have to get up until what (to me) would be a more natural time, but also would (and do) need several alarms to wake me at 7.

I’m lucky I’m on my own!

Aqua55 · 15/11/2021 10:38

[quote Reduceddutiesboredom]@BillMasen
I like to think people understand sarcasm.[/quote]
I must remember that for my new domestic violence joke book

Renoqueen1 · 15/11/2021 10:41

Yanbu. Throw it out the window!!
This takes me back a few years to my DH pre children. Three bloody times he let it go off, from 5.30am every ten minutes, and insisted it was plugged in on the other side of the bedroom to ensure he was actually awake.

BillMasen · 15/11/2021 10:49

[quote Reduceddutiesboredom]@BillMasen
I like to think people understand sarcasm.[/quote]
You stated what you’d done (turned your partners alarm off and made them late) then joked about domestic violence.

Presume both of those things are ok though, it’s a man you’re joking about…

FranklySonImTheGaffer · 15/11/2021 10:56

FFS Op was clearly being lighthearted / sarcastic and has no intention of breaking the clock or being violent 🙄

I'm afraid to say I'm the person who presses snooze in this house - but I'm a light sleeper so have the volume down so low DH doesn't even stir.
I think I'd definitely be having a conversation about a smart watch with a vibrating alarm if I were you OP.

Reduceddutiesboredom · 15/11/2021 10:59

I don’t think making a flippant joke is the same as condoning violence.
For the record I do not think any form of violence is okay. Physical/ mental/ emotional etc are all wrong.

Apologies if I have offended anyone regarding my tasteless joke.

However, partner was aware I was turning his alarm off, partner is always aware that I was on an altered schedule because of work/ studies/ placement and already have difficulties sleeping. He knew an alarm going off every 7 minutes for an hour meant I could not fall back asleep and lack of sleep had a negative impact on my mental health. He’s also self employed and him being 10-15 mins late to his yard isn’t a big deal - he’s later than that on mornings that he goes for breakfast before work.

kwiksavenofrillsusername · 15/11/2021 10:59

Get him a smart watch for Xmas. You can set vibrating alarms on your wrist, which would hopefully wake him up but not you.

The vibrations are strong though! The first time I woke up from my watch alarm it freaked me the hell out.

HeyArnoldHey · 15/11/2021 11:01

Yes I get this at 4.30am . Around 6 alarms!

Lightningrain · 15/11/2021 11:10

DP used to do this and it infuriated me.

I spent about 5 years explaining that he’d get at least 30 mins extra of quality uninterrupted sleep by setting one alarm for when he actually needed to be up. He eventually gave it a try and now agrees with me so there is hope!

If I pressed snooze multiple times I’d worry that I wouldn’t realise which alarm I actually needed to be up with, or inadvertently turn it off instead of pressing snooze. DP did this a few times and was late to work as a result.

Pumpkinsonparade · 15/11/2021 11:13

I read an article that said alarm on snooze is actually bad for you...

Pumpkinsonparade · 15/11/2021 11:14

Here..

To ask if I should throw DP's alarm clock out the window.