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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To expect DH to be apologetic/grateful?

42 replies

Gingenius · 13/11/2021 17:24

We’re having our kitchen ripped out next week and the ceilings have been freshly plastered so this weekend is our only opportunity to paint the ceilings before the new kitchen is fitted. I’ve said this a few times to DH and got a few non committal grunts from him so I knew he wasn’t keen, but as I said to him I can think of better ways to spend a Saturday too. - it’s just one of those things that has to be done. I arranged for Parents to take the kids for the day so we could crack on. DH has been in a foul mood said he was too tired and spent all day in the bedroom and didn’t help me at all. I was seething but I guess fair enough he has a busy job and is often tired at the weekends. Now that I’ve picked the kids up and cleaned up the kitchen a bit we need to cook tea: asked DH to do it cos I’m knackered. He’s reluctantly putting some chips in the oven and is giving me the silent treatment. I was expecting him to gush about what a great job I’ve done with the painting and offer to cook me a lovely meal. I’m so disappointed but AIBU?

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HippeePrincess · 13/11/2021 17:26

He’s a dick, is he always like this?

HoseMeDownWithHolyWater · 13/11/2021 17:26

He's a lazy cunt.

AutumnLeaves21 · 13/11/2021 17:27

What a prick. YANBU.

MichelleScarn · 13/11/2021 17:27

I hate to ask but would affect my response, age of kids and do you work too?

Gingenius · 13/11/2021 17:29

Aged 2 and 5 - I work 3 days he’s full time… @MichelleScarn

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hopingforabrighterfuture2021 · 13/11/2021 17:30

Who voted YABU?!

OP- that’s rubbish of him.

BruceAndNosh · 13/11/2021 17:30

I would have got fish and chips takeaway.
I might have made a mistake with the order and forgotten his battered cod

FreeBritnee · 13/11/2021 17:30

He’s sulking because youve made him look bad. You have yourself a man child OP. Commiserations. .

Gingenius · 13/11/2021 17:32

@FreeBritnee I think you might be right 😩

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Thwackit · 13/11/2021 17:32

Why is he giving you the silent treatment when he got his own way and did bugger all? Rude of him.

SpookyPumpkinPants · 13/11/2021 17:32

Unappreciative, selfish, lazy git ... and I expect they're his best bits!!

Come here & paint my kitchen ceiling (haven't ordered new kitchen yet but need to!!) snd I'll take you out fir dinner & tell you how fabulous you are & what a great job you've done!!

Your parents probably lived having the kids, but that's not the point either is it? They were doing you both a favour do you could 'get on' not so lazy bones could lay around all day

ChocolateCakeYum · 13/11/2021 17:33

Urgh very lazy of him and rude.

hettie · 13/11/2021 17:34

Is he like this on other issues? Ditch his sorry arse- lazy shit. I honestly can't believe someone in a long term relationship would do this to their partner....

MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 13/11/2021 17:34

What is he sulking about?

Sexnotgender · 13/11/2021 17:36

Ask him what the fuck his problem is. YANBU at all.

FusionChefGeoff · 13/11/2021 17:36

Twat

seastargirl · 13/11/2021 17:37

Just order a take out and ignore him, he's being an arse!

NewbieAlert · 13/11/2021 17:42

He gave you the silent treatment?
After you organised childcare and did all the painting alone.
While he lazed around?
And now he can’t be arsed to put some chips in the oven?

Nah. YANBU.

MichelleScarn · 13/11/2021 17:44

@Gingenius

Aged 2 and 5 - I work 3 days he’s full time… *@MichelleScarn*
You work work 3 days, with a 2 and 5 yo at home I sincerely doubt you've been lounging about at home. He's a dramatic lazy sod then! So when do get your hide in bedroom time!!
MichelleScarn · 13/11/2021 17:45

Agree with take away for you, sod him!!!

5keletor · 13/11/2021 17:45

I wouldn't expect him to gush about it and convey how grateful he was, no, but to say it looked nice wouldn't have gone amiss. It's his other behaviour that sounds off, I couldn't put up with an adult sulking in their room like that and being put out at putting some food in the oven.

Doomscrolling · 13/11/2021 17:47

Order yourself and the kids a takeaway.

Bagelsandbrie · 13/11/2021 17:50

My now ex dh did something similar to this - went to bed and slept for the whole day when we had a day off to paint a bedroom. It was actually one of the things that made me want to split up with him. I always felt like he saw stuff like that as my job; as if it wasn’t his house as well. It’s selfish and lazy.

Lampzade · 13/11/2021 17:55

@FreeBritnee

He’s sulking because youve made him look bad. You have yourself a man child OP. Commiserations. .
This
Gingenius · 13/11/2021 18:22

Thanks everyone, was actually thinking people might offer an alternative view of the situation but it seems pretty unanimous. I would confront him about it but I can’t be arsed and I’ve got painting to get on with… will save it up for another day.

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