I recently had a birthday - not a big one. I’m past the age where I expect gifts from friends - a hbd message is fine. we sometimes have a meal with friends if I’m organised enough.
This one friend (who I love) is coming to visit tomorrow -unrelated to birthday- and must think that because it’s so close she must bring a gift, which is very kind of her, but unnecessary. I of course said she didn’t have to get anything.
She asked if I would like [thing], but I already have a thing.
My AIBU is now I’m being tasked with thinking of something for her to get for me, to give to me tomorrow. I tried suggesting a bottle of wine, “oh no something better than that” was response. I have reiterated several times that I just want to see her, no gift required. But she’s insistent and has now ‘left it with me’ to message her with something.
I don’t bloody want to think of something.
I’m knee deep in trying to think of Xmas presents for everyone, just had DS birthday, I just haven’t got the mental space to come up with my own birthday gift.
AIBU to think that if you’re hell bent on getting a gift for someone you don’t make it the ‘job’/problem of the recipient?
WIBU to just ignore these messages from now on?