OH took the whole estates parcels in!

[gonetothecleaners]

I had some things delivered today and the delivery guy tried all their doors so left them with OH. He's took in 8 parcels then just gone off to storage unit (where he works)and left me with them. I work from home and can't answer the door unless they come when I'm on a break.

AIBU? Or is he nob. I personally wouldn't of took them in 🤣

but we're going to have people knocking all day now gives me anxiety!

No need for anxiety. It's not axe murders knocking (though I'm not sure if they knock???) it just your neighbours, who will be grateful you've done them a favour.
As you say you can't be disturbed for the afternoon, as others have suggested - a note.

I don’t think YABU…but then I’m probably quite biased. I also WFH and have taken a few parcels in for CF NDN over the last year. I say CF because he now gets ALL his parcels sent to my address as standard. I’ve started refusing them now but occasionally if DP is home he’ll take one in. Pisses me right off…he’s home, he just doesn’t like answering the door. So then we have to take them round as well!! I kept one of his for a week to make a point, nothing worked. So now I just refuse.

I feel your pain OP, it is annoying.

All these posters saying "just put up a note"... doesn't work round here!

@gonetothecleaners

Items for EIGHT neighbours? Fuck that!

Anyway, I don't care what a miserable c*nt I sound like, I HATE taking in packages for people. I don't mind helping people out in an emergency, but CBA with taking in peoples packages. Too much hassle. As a pp said, they never come for them, and you have the fucking thing stuck in your house, and you are responsible for it, and YOU end up having to take them around.

And no, I am not bone idle or un-neighbourly, I just HATE taking in neighbours packages. ALSO, I do NOT expect them to take mine in. Indeed, I absolutely do not WANT them to.

In this day and age, every delivery service has 'delivery options,' where you can select a 'safe place' for the courier to leave the package. So there is no excuse for palming off your packages on to other people, and expecting them to take responsibility for it, and then bring it to your house. Which many people seem to expect!!!

One of my neighbours is always having couriers drop her packages off at someone else's door, because they can't get an answer. Yet she is almost always in! (She lives opposite me.) She just can't be arsed to answer the door. I have seen couriers there knocking the door, and she is in coz her car's there. Sometimes I can see her curtains twitching and her peeping out.

There's been many a time when it's 10 am to 11 am, and she is still not up, and the courier wakes her, and she CBA to come downstairs. You just see her peeping out of the curtains in her bedroom. On quite a few occasions, I see the courier coming over to my house (obviously to drop off the package,) and I refuse to answer the door. She can't be arsed to answer the door to get her OWN PACKAGE. Why the fuck should I answer MY door and take in HER package for HER?

And anyone asking/thinking how am I seeing these couriers??? I hear the vans pull up, and glance out of the window to see who it is.

Oh and as for the #bekind and #benice brigade. Bore off eh?

Funny how this passive aggressive shit is never aimed at men!

@HaroldSteptoesHorse

Why does WFH mean you can’t answer her door?

Why don't you read the full thread? Ffs!!!

No need for anxiety. It's not axe murders knocking (though I'm not sure if they knock???)

Now that's a nice, soothing thought, @sillysmiles.

Fine to take packages. How nice of him!

Not fine for him to take in packages thinking 'Doesn't matter, it won't be me doing the legwork for this'

Note on door saying he'll be back for package handovers after X.

:)

Good idea to put a note on the door.

Your DH can deliver the parcels when he gets home from work.

Note on door and if you have an estate Facebook that as well. We have parcels please collect after 5 I’m in meetings.

8 is a lot. We're constantly taking in parcels for our neighbours, no one else seems to. We had 4 in a day for the one family last week. It's got to the point I'm now sick of it. Sick of them cluttering my house, sick of the multiple knocks on the door at inconvenient times. I wouldn't like to leave someone stuck but it's too frequent and will get worse when the Christmas presents start arriving.

Community spirit, stop complaining.

YANBU. If he wants to be "nice", he needs to do it on his own time. I'd put up the note and ignore the door to the best of my abilities; not easy when the dogs hear knocking and bark their heads off. He can hand-deliver the parcels when he returns from work. Maybe that will teach him not to do it again.

Just ignore any knocks and let your OH answer or deliver when he gets home?

If people knocking on your door genuinely gives you bad anxiety you should seek help for that. No way to live in your home.

He did something nice.

It really only counts as 'nice' if it's something he follows through on.

Volunteering your WFH wife to answer the door to people collecting parcels all day is many things.

'Nice' surely isn't one of them.

Unless , he puts a notice on the door to advise when he is next home and available to open the door and hand out parcels.

That would be 'nice'

Also, just because you think there's no need for anxiety doesn't magically cure OP's nervousness.

Some people do feel on edge when they constantly know, in the back of their heads, that there will be knocking at some point in the day. It makes it more difficult to settle in completely. Having this time 8, when it's not something that should be her responsibility? That's annoying!

Yanbu, I actually hate this so much although in my experience people wait for YOU to be the delivery man. Several times dh has took in parcels for the house opposite us and they NEVER come and get it despite having a note through that we have it. So we have to go and deliver it as they are too fucking lazy
And there was the other time we took a parcel in for next door of their new blinds in a HUGE HUGE box, dh had to eventually deliver it himself.
People and their parcels can get to fuck, i just dont take them in (dh is nicer than me).

This can be as bigger issue as you want to make it.
Personally I would put a note on door WFH till XXXXX on phone unable to come to door till then .

You never know when you might need them to do the same for you .
Imagine you WFH a parcel that you want arrives and you unable to get to the door . Wouldn't you be grateful a neighbour got it for you .

Is he Santa 🎅?

Hello Mrs Claus! 🤶

Ho, ho, hi, Merry Christmas and all!

Maybe he’s got something in his sack for you later OP 😉

... timeS 8...

@HaroldSteptoesHorse

Why does WFH mean you can’t answer her door?

If you're in the middle of a company Zoom meeting or call, you can't just get up to answer the door because a neighbour wants their delivery. I'd be annoyed too – eight interruptions because people have arranged for parcels to be delivered when they know they won't be in themselves is a bloody pain.

I never take parcels in for our NDN because they work from home too and can't be bothered to interrupt their work day to answer the door, yet expect me to interrupt mine! Or they arrange for parcels to come when they know they won't be there. It's so bloody rude, I'm not a sorting office!

8??? Sod that!

Re 'nice'

He didn't think about what would be a helpful thing to do for the neighbourhood, something he could contribute to society.

He caved to a delivery person and without asking, lumbered WFH wife with an extra task.

Don't get me wrong, I'm usually happy to take in parcels for neighbours, we all know each other within the cul-de-sac. It's the not being asked the assumption that I will be helpful that I find really unreasonable.

Happy to volunteer, not happy to be volunteered. Isn't everyone ?

@Teeturtle

You won’t take your neighbours parcels in? Why on earth not? I think you are odd not your husband.

I take in parcels on days when I can answer the door.

There are days when I'm in meetings where we have to be visible at all times to demonstrate legal quoracy and we can't leave the meeting, no matter how briefly (these are large meetings and run to a strict timetable). I can't answer the door at random times.

I doubt I'm alone in similar restrictions.

@MajesticWol

All these posters saying "just put up a note"... doesn't work round here!

They might still knock and chance it but they'll know why she's not answering