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AIBU?

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Original poster

OH took the whole estates parcels in!

103 replies

gonetothecleaners · 12/11/2021 11:55

I had some things delivered today and the delivery guy tried all their doors so left them with OH. He's took in 8 parcels then just gone off to storage unit (where he works)and left me with them. I work from home and can't answer the door unless they come when I'm on a break.

AIBU? Or is he nob. I personally wouldn't of took them in 🤣

OP posts:
Hawkins001 · 12/11/2021 13:00

@gonetothecleaners

I don't mind taking 1 or two in but we're going to have people knocking all day now gives me anxiety!
I'm guessing if most of the neighbour are out then presuming they will be after five at a guess and are they all for different people ?
Theunamedcat · 12/11/2021 13:03

I take in my immediate neighbours parcels but no-one elses Grin

Bookworm20 · 12/11/2021 13:04

@gonetothecleaners

I don't mind taking 1 or two in but we're going to have people knocking all day now gives me anxiety!
A bit extreme 'all day'. Put a note on the door
FOJN · 12/11/2021 13:05

He did something nice... Then left for work and left the OP to deal with it!

Yup. If the partner wants to do the entire neighbourhood a favour that's up to him but agreeing to it and then making it the OP's problem is the issue for me.

I agree a note on the door is the way forward but I would be having words with OH about not being generous on my behalf in future.

Beautiful3 · 12/11/2021 13:06

"Djifunrsn"

"Note on door: had 8 parcels delivered for various people today but am on conference calls 12-5, please collect parcels between 7-8pm if possible."

Love that idea, it's perfect.

Original poster
gonetothecleaners · 12/11/2021 13:06

@HaroldSteptoesHorse I have call after call with very vulnerable people it's not really possible unless I am on my 15 minute break.

@Hawkins001 yes all for different people.

I'll have to go put a note on the door when I get the chance.

OP posts:
HaudYerWheestFella · 12/11/2021 13:08

Honestly do people really get themselves tied up about shit like this. Put a note on the door to say collect at a certain time, it’s not hard and not sure why on earth it would give you anxiety. It’s hardly a situation that’s so hard to ‘deal’ with, literally don’t answer the door or put a sign on.

MajesticWol · 12/11/2021 13:09

YANBU, he’s given you a job to do without asking!

I WFH and absolutely cannot answer the door while working. Even the knock on the door is a disturbance. I’ve put notes up saying I’m working & do not disturb, you’d be amazed how many people knock anyway!

DontTellThemYourNamePike · 12/11/2021 13:10

I think 8 is too many and the courier was a cheeky so and so to ask. You're not the local distribution centre.

You're stuck with it now though, so as other posters have said, a note on the door that you're WFH and Santa's Grotto will be open from (insert time here)GrinGrin.

SpinachIsAGatewayDrug · 12/11/2021 13:12

@FAQs

Put a note on the door for the time your husband returns for work for pick up Grin
Do this. Bonus points for calling him the neighbourhood Santa and saying he's off to the workshop and will be back at whenever.
KittenCatcher · 12/11/2021 13:13

Is it a block of flats, if you know who they are for can you pop a note thru their doors saying please collect from dh tonight at a time you know he will be home. He took them in so let him sort it out.

cheeseismydownfall · 12/11/2021 13:15

@HaudYerWheestFella

Honestly do people really get themselves tied up about shit like this. Put a note on the door to say collect at a certain time, it’s not hard and not sure why on earth it would give you anxiety. It’s hardly a situation that’s so hard to ‘deal’ with, literally don’t answer the door or put a sign on.
This sounds reasonable in practice, but as any regular reader of these boards knows, people are batshit about this kind of stuff. If the OP is clearly home and doesn't answer the door, she may well end up in the situation where people are hammering on the door, demanding their parcels, accusing OP of stealing their packages on the neighbourhood Facebook group etc. If is 8 households, there is a good chance that at least one of them will be a fucker about it.

The DP didn't "do a nice thing". The DP did the thing that was easiest for him (saying Yes to the delivery guy) then fucked off to leave the OP to deal with it while she is working.

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 12/11/2021 13:18

Put a note on the door explaining you're working and to call for the parcels at (the time your OH gets in from work). He can deal with it.

Cocomarine · 12/11/2021 13:22

@gonetothecleaners

I don't mind taking 1 or two in but we're going to have people knocking all day now gives me anxiety!
If this genuinely makes you anxious, I’d seek help with that. Not a snarky response.

If I found my husband had taken in 8 parcels, for sure I’d comment - probably make a sarcastic but good natured comment about not being the local delivery hub.

Most people, if they were out before, won’t be home until evening. Note on door would work. But also… I work from home, sometimes on calls. I just ignore the door. End of. No anxiety about it.

HaudYerWheestFella · 12/11/2021 13:26

@cheeseismydownfall yeah maybe you're right, I can only go off what my own neighbours are like and I can confidently say nobody on my street would bat an eyelid at a door sign saying to come back later. Perhaps I just live on a street where everyone is normal. Who knows.

ParkheadParadise · 12/11/2021 13:30

There are 6 houses in our cul-de-sac. I'm the only one who is at home during the day.
I take in all my neighbours parcels I'm on first name terms with the delivery drivers 😂😂 Personally, I wouldn't refuse to take in a parcel for any of my neighbours they always come for them.
I have a bike and toy kitchen in my spare room. I'm keeping them for a neighbour till Christmas Eve.

Hullabaloo31 · 12/11/2021 13:33

[quote HaudYerWheestFella]@cheeseismydownfall yeah maybe you're right, I can only go off what my own neighbours are like and I can confidently say nobody on my street would bat an eyelid at a door sign saying to come back later. Perhaps I just live on a street where everyone is normal. Who knows.[/quote]
I'd actually like to be told what time was good to collect! I'd know they were expecting me then, and not eating their dinner or being interrupted.

TillyTopper · 12/11/2021 13:34

Just put a note on your door. He's done something nice and it's really useful to have a neighbour return the favour later!

gamerchick · 12/11/2021 13:37

@BasementIdeas

Just pop a note on the door saying that you are working from home and will only be answering the door at x times. Not sure what the issue is?
This.

I do it, every Christmas my passage is like a depot. I understand how much pressure the drivers are under and they know I'm a safe place.

Just stick a note on the door and have extra words with husband about leaving you with extra work and disturbances.

girlmom21 · 12/11/2021 13:39

When he comes home ask him to go and try to deliver the parcels so you don't have them blocking up your hallway.

KylieKoKo · 12/11/2021 13:41

I never understand this mumsnet thing of thinking that accepting a parcel for a neighbour is somehow a terrible thing. I have always done this for all my neighbours and they have done for me. Surely it is just what neighbours do.

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 12/11/2021 13:41

@HaroldSteptoesHorse

Why does WFH mean you can’t answer her door?
Because meetings? WTF.
Nidan2Sandan · 12/11/2021 13:43

I remember in my old house, one Christmas I felt like the neighbourhood sorting office. The post man and all the delivery people knew I was a SAHM so chances are I would be home.

I remember my whole stairs and hallway being full of parcels Grin. I didnt mind, it's nice to be neighbourly and certainly a good way to get to know them all.

I will always take parcels in if I can, i think it's nice to help the neighbours out

AuditAngel · 12/11/2021 13:44

@ParkheadParadise

There are 6 houses in our cul-de-sac. I'm the only one who is at home during the day. I take in all my neighbours parcels I'm on first name terms with the delivery drivers 😂😂 Personally, I wouldn't refuse to take in a parcel for any of my neighbours they always come for them. I have a bike and toy kitchen in my spare room. I'm keeping them for a neighbour till Christmas Eve.
You are lovely. I wish you were my neighbour.
SophieKaczynsky · 12/11/2021 13:45

I frequently take in parcels for lots of other houses in our road. I don't mind at all. But then everyone is always very appreciative and comes to collect them. If they weren't and they didn't collect I probably wouldn't be as helpful