On a table with toddlers-ask to move?

[Rhica]

Aibu?

Going away next weekend for my sister in laws birthday. On the Saturday we are having a meal out. I have paid for babysitters to have a child free night (8 have a 4 year old and 1 year old) . I have zero support so having a child free night is a big deal for me. First time in 2 years and I am (or was) so looking forward to it.

Anyway they've done a seating plan and they've put me on a table with 2 year old twins, their parents and another adult. Aibu to ask to move. I just don't see the point in paying for babysitters when I have to sit with baby's. My brother said they are good kids. And I'm sure they are. But it's not like they are 8. They are toddlers!!

I'm so upset. I wanted an adult night hence paying for baby sitters.

(for context the restaurant is splitting the party into tables of 6 due to covid and its a large party of about 30. Only 2 children-the twins)

(also for context. My brother and sister in law don't have kids. They would be very vocal if I were to put them with kids on a night out too)

YANBU

@TableFlowerss

Tell them that you’re going hell for leather with the gin so the kids shouldn’t see it…

Yes. Do this 🤣🤣

It’s definitely most reasonable to not want to be stuck with other people’s children on your very rare night out!

Tell him again. Exactly as you’ve put it here. Tbh he should have thought of this without being told!

If he won’t budge don’t go

If he says he’s changed it and hasn’t , leave

Are there people going that you know well? I'm not into making polite chit-chat with random strangers if I don't often get a child-free night.

I would be seriously rethinking it - the whole thing is just for your DB and SIL benefit, without really considering what would be fun for their guests. Unless she's turning 1,000 your SIL doesn't really get to play queen for her birthday.

Just say something: you have organised childcare and have been looking forward to child free event - please could they put you on a different table.

Simple as that and don't let it go.

I honestly don't think I'd go... or I would go but I'd take my kids with me. I can't justify paying for a babysitter so I can have dinner with someone else's kids who I don't even know!!

It wouldn't bother me - on the basis that they aren't my two year old twins and I am not required to parent them

Explain this to them. If they do not want to move you, tell them politely that you will not be able to attend, then go have a lovely evening on your own!

I don’t understand why you can’t just say this directly to your brother?

If he won't move you, either do something else with your night or cancel the babysitter and bring your 2 with you.