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AIBU?

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Am I being a bit OTT here?

54 replies

LookItsMeAgain · 10/11/2021 10:57

I'll start this off by saying that DS is 19 and is in college (which he gets himself to/from without requiring lifts) and he has a part time job.
Lockdown has been pretty shitty to him and his classmates (from secondary school to college as he had to do all of 1st year remotely).

So I do have sympathy for the past couple of years but we all had to endure lockdown in our own ways.

This is also not a thread about lockdown.

Now that we're coming out the other side, DS is socialising with his friends more and more which is a good thing.

This is where my AIBU is.

I bought a case of beer. Beer that I like to drink. I had a few bottles of it in the fridge and DS asked if he could bring this beer to a friends house. I said that he could, if he replenished the beer. This was about a week ago.
Last night he was going out and I mentioned that he could replenish the beer today as he has no lectures and no shifts for his work, so essentially has the day off. He said he had bought more. I said I didn't see it. He said he bought different beer to restock it. Beer I don't drink. I don't like the taste of it.

My question is should he go out today and buy the beer that he took of mine that I bought that I like to drink or should I just accept that he has bought 'beer' and it's of no consequence whether I like it or not.

YABU - He doesn't need to get the exact brand of beer that I like to replenish what he took, he's bought beer, be happy with that!
YANBU - He took your beer so should replace with the same brand of beer.

OP posts:
PinkFizz1 · 10/11/2021 15:20

Sorry to derail the thread but I absolutely HATE it when rude obnoxious people pull the ‘I just tell it how it is/I’m brutally honest/I have no filter’ card to excuse their shitty rudeness.

I’M an honest person that doesn’t shy away from the truth. But I’m not a rude arsehole. There’s a difference.

Brefugee · 10/11/2021 15:20

He should replace like for like. I only like particular beers and it wouldn't occur to my DCs to replace something with something I can't use (beer, chocolate, whatever)

If he doesn't replace it, where is the line?

minou123 · 10/11/2021 15:25

[quote bigbeautwoman]@girlmom21 I don’t do fluffy I tell it like it is[/quote]
Shush, the adults are talking

babytum · 10/11/2021 16:56

Yes he should replace your beer and on this occasion, no I wouldn’t let it go. We teach these young adults the importance of responsibility and respect and this starts at home.
There’s thread after thread here of people in anguish because their adult children have no respect for them, this happens because of a culmination of not following through on the basics. It’s not to do with money or the beer itself but having the respect to replace what was yours.

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