To feel sad and annoyed by my friend who has dumped me?

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deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 13/12/2007 11:30

I feel like i am being unreasonable.
We saw each other every day then she began to be "off" with me it got so bad i stopped seeing her.
we said Hi and chatted small talk at school til one day she looked me in the eye then looked away totally blanking me after i said "hi" to her cheerfully.
i cant sop thinking about it, thinking about what it is that i have done wrong. I am pulling my self to bits about it.
I cannot and will not talk to her about this but need to have some one sensible talk to me about it.

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GColdtimer · 13/12/2007 14:20

If people behave oddly with my dh, he thinks it is something he has done and worries about it.

If people behave oddly with me, I think it is something to do with what is going on in their lives and try not to take it personally.

Not sure if that makes me arrogant and my DH sensitive or whether it is just a far healthier way of looking at it.

And, as my mum often says when people behave like this, she is probably jealous....

thehollyandtheivy · 13/12/2007 14:28

To be honest, I still feel a bit bad about it, but she was a bit over the top getting in touch every day and wanting to spend time with me about 4/5 times a week. She'd ring by 9am every sat and sun and one day a couple of weeks ago she rang six times whilst I was at work to see if I wanted to go to the cinema that night. I was in a really serious hospital/social services meeting all day and couldn't get back to her and I like to keep my mobile on in case the nursery calls regarding my dd, so it was very embarressing when she kept on ringing. I should explain I work full time, am 18 weeks pregnant (the first 14 weeks of which I had dreadful morning sickness) and I have a 3 year old dd. I like to spend my spare time with my family or resting (at the moment) and I explained this to my 'friend' but she still wouldn't give me a break and kept hassling me to spend time with her. So I'm ashamed to say I've given her the cold shoulder. I'm sure you've not behaved like this at all, but I was wondering maybe it is just because you have little in common any more. I've sort of decided as well that I don't really have anything in common with this 'friend', our kids don't particularly get on so what's the point? I know that's a bit harsh but I have such limited free time at the moment, I really am only spending time with people I like and get on with. Sorry for the long post.

newy · 13/12/2007 14:50

I really sympathise. I had this friend who sent me an email (we lived a distance apart) telling me what a bad headache she had had for about 3 days. Then suddenly I heard nothing, I sent her a few emails saying I was really worried about her and then sent an email to one of her friends but nothing. About 3 years later she sent me an email asking how I was. She said she was a bit embarressed about her boyfriend (who she was no longer with). He didn't seem that bad to me. I replied saying I had been worried and was glad she was ok but then she didn't reply so I left it. It was truely bizarre.

I think we all sometimes dump friends subtley or unsubtley but its not nice to be on the receiving end.

mustsleep · 14/12/2007 11:13

sorry for breathing manchita, but i don;t get to go out a lot and facebook is a nice way to stay in touch with the people that are real friends

lupo · 18/12/2007 23:10

Just had exactely the same thing done to me, met twice a week or three years, then kids started at diferent schools and she more or less dumped me straight away and canceled whenever I invited her over...sad thing is my ds often asks about her dd..

oh well her loss I guess

lupo · 18/12/2007 23:11

oh well her loss I guess

lupo · 18/12/2007 23:11

oh well her loss I guess

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