DS and DSS never follow things through!

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I am at the end of my tether with both of them! When they were younger they both brimmed with potential but as they entered their 30s they have definitely stalled. They talk a good game, long convos on collaboratig on projects but always hazy on details and following up.

Most recently they have talked about founding a company. That's it! The rest is sketchy as hell. They mentioned working investments, security, music media and research? None of it in any detail, when pressed on it by me they went on about doing some groundbreaking research on bees.

My DH is totally fed up with the pair of them. I want to help them but still feel quite let down their lives have so far totally stalled. Advice?

My DH is totally fed up with the pair of them. I want to help them but still feel quite let down their lives have so far totally stalled. Advice?

They are in their 30s & you are this invested in controlling their career Choices 🥴

Back the feck off before you drive them both away completely. It's their lives, not yours, they get to live it how they choose, not you & DH

I assumed you were going to talk about six year olds and a Lego project or something.

They’re well into adulthood and way way past the point you get to have a say in their careers. Unless they are asking you for help or money, leave them alone. They aren’t some project that you get to manage/drive.

Definitely leave them to it!

Um, I think you have to let them get on with their own lives at this point!
I was expecting them to be about 12 tbh.

They are 30. Let them be (unless they cant afford to support themselves, at which point you might need to interfere).

Unless they are expecting you to support their projects financially, I think YABU. At their age, their career decisions are up to them, not to you.

They are adults. Leave them to their harebrained schemes.

Is that you, Brennan’s mum?

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Is that you, Brennan’s mum?

First thing I thought Did you get them bunk beds yet?

Don't lend them the keys your boat 🤣

Im really glad you’re not my mum.

That sounds harsh, but as someone with mental health conditions the thought of being pressured by my parents at this age is just too much. It’s not on. Leave them in peace.

Go and watch Step Brothers everyone to make sense of this joke...

Do they live with you?

What advice could you need? They're in their 30s, they are adults, they can do what they want to do.

What do you mean by stalled are they still in NMW jobs or sth

Or are you upset they’re not investment bankers

You can’t make someone something they’re not. Being career focussed and singlemindedly working towards one goal doesn’t sound like your kids. They sound creative and energetic but lacking in drive, staying power and determination.

Do they have day jobs? If not then I’d suggest they are too spoiled and life is too comfy for them and that’s why they aren’t knuckling down. Stop providing all snacks and luxury items and switch the WiFi off during the day. That should sharpen them up.

My pal has loads of ideas too. One week she’s starting a new business. The next week she’s signed up to an evening class for something completely different, goes once them something more exciting comes along or life gets in the way and she never goes back. It’s such a waste of money. She buys lots of craft items to do craft fayres and never makes the stuff, branching off into some other project like buying a classic car she can’t drive and knows nothing about fixing up as she’s not into cars but thought at the time it would be a good idea.

It’s madness. And more money than sense in her case. Especially as she’s over 50 and no longer a child. ( although she had a steady day job so it’s up to her how she spends her cash ).

I just say oh that’s nice. Or somesuch. And step back as I know it will come to nothing. It’s her choice and her life. She’s an adult. As are your kids.

They still live at home, although we would love it if they moved out. They have had job interviews but there is a definite disconnect there. They did one interview in dinner jackets, they knew they were smart jackets but didn't quite realise inappropriate

You and DH need a hobby.

X post. Kick them out.

What about a nice wine mixer?
.. (hadn't even seen your username haha!)

FFS 🤦🏻‍♀️ 😂

How do they contribute to the home? Are they earning money and doing housework? If neither then I suspect you need to tell them the gig is up and they need to find their own place.

My uncle was like this. All these vague ideas for companies and businesses when the reality was he was just a lazy arse who sponged off everyone and ended up nicking money from my dying grandad.

Do they actually have jobs? They sound like teenagers.

Stop funding them. They either get jobs or sign on and survive on that. They have it too easy!