Is £80-£90 a week grocery shopping tomuch?

[Newmumlake]

My partner has recently had a go at me that our weekly shop is far to expensive.

I usually shop at Asda using the click and collect service.

I will spend £80-£90 on groceries for 7 days. This includes 7 lunches, 7 dinners, snacks, cleaning products, baby produces, and dog food.

Is this too much?

We spend this on 2 adults

My partner has recently had a go at me that our weekly shop is far to expensive.

How much you spend on shopping isn't the problem. That's easily solved with planning. Him 'having a go at you' rather then sitting down and raising an adult discussion however; that is a problem. Is he always like this?

@gingerroot

I spend this on two adults

Easily, me too.

2 adults here and no cheap supermarkets (we have Co-op or Waitrose to choose from).

We usually do one big £60-£70 shop per month that includes things like washing powder / toilet paper / cleaning supplies and then top up with fresh stuff by around £30-£40 per week.

The above doesn't include alcohol or pet supplies though.

Just get him to go shopping then! So many men seem to think you can feed a family and doggy for 50 quid or something. Food prices have increased hugely since the pandemic . My own dh likes steak once a week. Was amazed when I said it adds about another 50 quid a month!(having a few vegeburgers now ) lol

That sounds fine to me! For us it’s 2 adults and 2 children (4 & 2) and we spend £70 - £90 depending on what we need. Some weeks I’ll need more cleaning stuff or toiletries etc. If it’s just a general food shop it’s usually around £70.

Anyone preaching at me about how to do the food shop can shove it well up their arse

Yet another shitty “relationship” on MN 😔

There’s nothing wrong with him being unrealistic and out of touch - or even being right if although it’s not a ridiculously huge amount, your budget is too tight for that.

But there’s everything right with him having a go at you.

Fine to say, “can you* cut it back?” and listen to your answer.

But having a go at you? Fuck that shit.

*I’m going to assume there’s a good reason why the shopping falls to you. The one with the vagina.

*everything WRONG!

It sounds perfectly reasonable to me

My DH does the shopping and he spends about £80-£90 for 2 adults and a cat.
He's makes the effort to go and do it and I'm just pleased that he does. I wouldn't dream of criticising.

Two adults and a dog here. Our weekly shop is about the same as yours. Things have gone up a lot recently. Give him the list and make him do it for once, then he can see.

If he doesn't tend to do the shopping, chances are he has no idea what things cost currently. I do all our food shopping but recently DH came with me and we pottered around Lidl. We are lucky enough not to have to meal plan/strict to a budget all the time (though I do generally to avoid waste). DH was gobsmacked when we got to the till and had spent £80. "But I thought Lidl was cheap?!" - yes, in Sainsbury's this would have cost £100-120, in Waitrose £150+, he just had no idea how much prices have gone up.
Shopping online can be useful as you can cut and add as much as you like to get the final outcome you are after, but it does mean you miss out on the reduced items that I find can really bulk up a shop if you are lucky.

We buy all our meat online now through a high welfare provider at about £80p/month, but I will still easily spent £50-£60 a week in lidl for two adults and that doesn't include alcohol, dog food, cleaning supplies (sometimes toilet roll) and then do top up shops in our local shop (village shop, or Sainsbury's) at about £15 a week. And we eat out/cafes at least once at the weekend. We do have fully stocked cupboards though. Oh and all our dairy comes from the milkman (yoghurt, milk, butter and eggs) at £30 a month. God this is adding up

Challenge him to produce a meal plan for seven days, and the supermarket shop required to produce it.

Let's see what his attempt would cost.

It's pointless to argue out of context if what you are all eating.

Two adults and a toddler here - we're about £60-£70 a week from Asda, so yours sounds perfectly reasonable.

There's 6 of us and I would say we spend around £230 - 250 a week.

We do our main shop at Waitrose with top ups in the week at m and s.

Milk eggs and juice from milkman

Meat from local butcher's

Organic weekly veg box from local farm

We spend around £40. For two no pets or kids. No toiletries and very few cleaning products as I have an online sub. Maybe a small top up shop for bread, fresh bits etc. We use aldi. We also have a take away or meal out once a week.

Every now and again it may be more when I add cupboard stock ups.

Food shops are very personal.

Sounds not too bad, although it depends on whether you can afford it I suppose.
We spend about £120-£130 per week for a family of 5 and dog, but I have two adult DS and a teenage DD, so they eat a lot! I can only keep it to this budget by doing most of my shopping at Aldi, and buying the dog food online.

Sounds good to me. I spend about £150 for dh, dc aged 9 and me and in struggle to get it any lower than that (and I shop at Aldi).

Putting the OPs issue aside, if you struggle to spend less than £150 pw in Aldi for a family of 3, you're not trying very hard and there must be a lot of luxury in your spend or a lot of waste. That's a lot to spend.

My ex-H used to be like this, its because he never understood what stuff actually cost because he would open a cupboard and it would be there, he didnt need to go to the supermarket to get anything.

If he thinks he can get it cheaper, let him crack on with it!

£120-140 a week for four of us, including al toiletries, pet food and cleaning stuff. A couple years back it was £90-100. Prices have shot up.

That’s shopping at Asda/Tesco. Can’t do Aldi as they are not good for allergies.

@BarbaraofSeville

Putting the OPs issue aside, if you struggle to spend less than £150 pw in Aldi for a family of 3, you're not trying very hard and there must be a lot of luxury in your spend or a lot of waste. That's a lot to spend.

Ds has autism and is very restrictive in what he will eat. I’m mostly vegetarian and don’t like red meat whereas dh wants to have red meat with more or less every meal. It means I mostly cook 3 separate things most nights. So that’s really where we fall down ….!

What is it with these men who expect to live on steak every night and at the same time expect a family grocery shop to be less than the cost of their meat alone, before food is bought for the rest of the family or the cost of non food items is added?