AIBU to want my daughters birthday party to be the same month as her birthday

[Danlsb]

My daughter is born a day before Christmas- ever since her first birthday my husband and MIL keep going on and on that she should have her birthday party in July! Apparently they feel it’s better because it could be outside, according to mil everyone with December birthdays does it and there is less other stuff going on ( I take turns hosting Christmas with MIL and help out with the school fete at the start of December). They point blank refuse to help every year until the actual day because I won’t listen to reason and are constantly negative about it- until after the party when they say what a great party it was!
I usually do the party to the weekend before her birthday so there is more Christmas prep time
I can see that there are advantages to summer birthday parties- although my DS has a birthday in August and the last few years it’s rained on the day of his party.
Like many children DD missed having a party last year ( she will be 8 this year) she asked for a disco party. She had an upsetting few months so I feel a party would be great for her and her fiends - I’m the one doing all the work for it at the end of the day
Aibu - she should have her birthday in the summer
Unbu - if she wants a party the same month as her birthday she should be able to have one

Both my DC have bdays near xmas. It’s never been a issue and we have always any celebrations on or around the right day
MIL can bugger off

DD is 26th Dec. We have always had a family gathering (including any friends/neighbours on years we are at home for Christmas) on the day.

As for her party, we usually had that in early January (once back at school and trying to avoid a close friend in school who was also early Jan) as before Christmas was too hectic in school and extra curriculars, but as soon as they were back in school was kinda flat so that worked well.

2 years we have had a summer event. Once she wanted to do sailing - which she would happily do in January but understood that others wouldn't be so hardy. And the other was a year that things went haywire early on so we hadn't organised anything, so had a summer gathering instead.

But mostly it has been within a fortnight of her actual birthday but when her DFriends would be around (there is a lot of travel goes on around us for Christmas break).

Thank you everyone your responses made me smile and reassured me that I’m not being unreasonable - although I was born in England we were brought up more with my mothers traditions so I’m not 100% sure when it comes to what is considered normal - my MIL is always telling me that I don’t do things the proper way 🤔

Oh, and for the 2 summer gatherings, we invited people to come and do things, not to a "party" - and said it wasn't a birthday party so no need for presents. But the DCs all knew that it effectively was her birthday celebration and brought gifts anyway.

I should have mentioned DD is now about to turn 16 and still prefers to celebrate in winter generally.

My DD was born Christmas Eve too. She's having her party December 4th this year as any later people have a lot of Christmas activities booked most weekends.

Oh no ignore the mad buggers, her birthday is in December and that's when she wants her party!

One of mine is a Christmas birthday and her parties have always been the most well attended - parents are often delighted to have a few hours child free the week before Christmas.

@TheLovleyChebbyMcGee

Watching with interest as current 32 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child and due on the 1st of Jan!

Now your daughter is old enough to have a preference it only fair to give her a view!

Absolutely - apparently her dad and Mil had been trying to convince her to have a summer party ( I was at work) which she had sort of agreed to so as not to upset him but then a few weeks later was in tears at bedtime asking why she couldn’t have a party for her birthday. So I gave her the options talked about pros and cons for each and she opted for having it in December.

My daughter is December and turning 6. It's never crossed my mind to celebrate her in any other month! I wouldn't have her party at any other time than near her birthday. I do find that people have plans more often on weekends in December but as long as her closest can come, she's happy so I give them a good 2 months notice!