To ask if anyone else really doesn’t like their siblings

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And just doesn’t get on with them at all

I haven't spoken to my sister (technically half sister but wasn't raised that way) for almost 7 years. In that time I've had 2 kids she's never met. So no, we don't get on lol.

Love my sister but don't have anything in common with her. She had a tough time in the last few years so ive been there for her. She obviously feels like she is an amazing sister and Auntie to my son but the whole public demonstration of affection over Facebook is just not my style and makes me cringe. Its all very performative.
I don't allow any pictures of my son on Facebook duecto his dangerous birth family living nit to far away she is aware of this and put a full album of Birthday party pictures along with lots of pictures of our house on Facebook. Several local friends recognised and let me know.
Its more her lack of thought.

I love my stepbrothers and would do anything for them, but my only full sibling I absolutely cannot stand.

I have met many vile men in my life but he definitely inherited our dad’s worst qualities and is 100% up there in terms of horrible human being. I wish he was a piece of shit just with me but it really is with everyone.

He did something unforgivable 4 years ago and I have fully cut him off since. What a relief. Our entire family (minus my mom as he is her golden child) is absolutely no contact with him and he has pretty much been blacklisted from the family. So that should tell you the type of individual he is.
Honestly I feel sorry for him as I can’t imagine one can be happy living the way he lives but his behavior towards me (and others) has made it impossible for me to ever develop any sort of warm or positive feelings toward him.

Honestly, it’s hard to admit, but if he was to drop dead tomorrow, I am not even sure I would go to the funeral as I would feel such an hypocrite going when I feel I wouldn’t mourn his loss at all and more so be internally sorry he wasted his life.

Not my sibling but my dad and us have gone NC with his sister, she is beyond batsh*t crazy, has made multiple false claims against family and friends, deals, is an incompetent mother and a toxic human being, his brothers however are fully in our lives and lovely people.

I wish them both well, but I haven't seen either for years, and we hardly ever speak. I don't think either of them are bad people really (although they have both hurt me deeply in the past) but we come from a very difficult family situation and the past really just weighs too heavily on our relationship to allow anything resembling a healthy friendship.

My sister and I are NC with each other and she is also NC with our mum. Reason for this is because I had children and she didn't?
She is 12 years older than me and doesn't have children. Everything was fine until the children /grandchildren came along. My sister (their aunt) became jealous of the attention they were getting and said there was no point in seeing us anymore!! That was 7 years ago. She's dead to me I'm afraid

I dislike one of my brothers. We were very close as children but since he became an adult he completely changed. He is a horrible person and I only see him if he is at my parents when I go there. He is just incredibly selfish and nasty. If my parents go before me I doubt I will ever see him again.

My other brother is a sweetheart though and I see him more (not loads just a couple of times a year)

NC with sister for 4 years after enough of her way or the highway and all about her.
Final nail in her coffin when I was in hospital and she didnt check in with my dc.

My sister is cold, callous, and selfish very much like my narc mum. NC with both. Would be lovely to have the ideal sibling relationship, but It wasn’t to be.

Firstly, we were modeled in the traditional Scapegoat and Goldenchild roles of two extreme versions of Narc parents. We were pitted against each other, so there was no way we could have ever been close. I imagine if there had been more kids, it would have been like “ Lord of the Flies.” While I understand that my DB is entirely a product of our very fucked up parents, and there is absolutely no way he could have ever been functional member of society unless he had broken away from them, but it is not safe for me to be around him, either emotionally or physically. Even if he was capable of moderating his behaviours and respecting my boundaries - (highly unlikely) There is too much resentment based on my history with him. His violence, aggression and theft was always justified, minimised and disregarded by my parents, and of course after they died, he assumed that I would become his parental figure, and provide for him and his wife - (despite being on a pension and the vast majority of my parents estate being held in trust for him) and became aggressive when I pointed out that I had three young kids and refused that responsibility. There is now a restraining order in place.

I get on very well with my brother, though he lives 4 hrs drive away so only see him every few months. Close growing up and still are. If I met him and didn't know him, I'd want to be friends with him and my sil. We're quite similar personalities. Sibling rivalry does creep in as he's successful and happy, but I try not to let that get in the way.

Not rtft but it worries me those saying they have nothing in common with their siblings so aren't close as adults. We have a very small extended family so I'd love my 2 sons to be close in future, but they are completely different personalities.

I love my youngest sibling, they are an amazing person and though we don’t speak often, we get along very well.
Unfortunately not with the rest of them, due to my sister that has hated me for as long as I can remember (golden child) and she has turned the other siblings with exception of the youngest against me. I’m NC with her, I rarely speak to the ones that are close to her. We’re polite when we see each other but that’s about it.

Hate my brother. Ive got to the point of no return with him. Makes it interesting as the family business forces some contact, but hopefully not for much longer.
He is a selfish liar; former coke addict but I think another cycle is on the cards so it won't be former for much longer.
He's helped himself out my parent's pockets for years and years. They still think he's amazing, it's so frustrating.
My sister is like a split personality- can be great but is inherently selfish which I find hard. I'm fed up being the family scapegoat and can't wait to get out. I will have contact with sister because of her children, neither of my dc like my siblings - understandably unfortunately.

Very close to one of my siblings. Get on well with my youngest too, but there’s a big age gap there. Unfortunately, with my remaining sibling, it’s a sad situation. If not for my parents it would be NC between us; as he still lives with them, I cannot avoid him so it’s an uneasy but neutral LC for the sake of our parents. I don’t trust him and vice versa. He has said very hurtful things to me in the past and vice versa. For all that we have said in the past that we do/will, neither of us can really forgive and forget. We just do not get on and, now, never will.

I'd probably do anything for any of my siblings, but apart from my DB (who is a wonderful man) I cannot stand them. One is a narc. One is a crazy TRA. The other is ok but is totally under the thumb of narc, which gaslights me and I can't see them.

Seriously I just can't.
My adult children actually live together and are best friends so it does happen!

My two adult children hate each other. Their values and temperament could not be more different. Used to feed them in separate rooms when they were little. Upsets me but that’s genetics for you.

I used to be very close to my brother and am married to one of his best friends but we had a huge fight a couple of years ago and haven't spoken since. It felt like it came out of nowhere but once the shock and upset wore off I realised the relationship had been deteriorating for a while. People change I guess.

I can't stand my brother. He is a textbook narccist, he is never the victim, he's always picked on and he is a master manipulator. He cheats on every partner he has, has multiple kids, a failed marriage but constantly preaches about amazing he is. Posts inspirational quotes constantly that make him sound intelligent.

He broke into his ex girlfriends house (left his DD sleeping in bed alone at age 6) climbed through his ex's bedroom window and dragged her out of bed by her hair. His ex girlfriends son called the police, social services got involved and he was not allowed contact anymore. He says his ex girlfriend is at fault and blames her for not being allowed contact. Doesn't even register in his head about what he did to her that night. It's all her fault.

He stabbed someone at 13, then again at 17. He torments my mum constantly and I'd be glad if he died.

Don’t speak to any of my family
They are all animals and I got sick of being the scapegoat who could do no right but my druggie brothers could never do any wrong

Sod em-it’s been ten years of utter bliss without them

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Don’t dislike them at all, but have very little to do with them and can go months without speaking to them. One of them I’ve probably not spoken to for almost a year.

Same. I don't think I've spoken to my sister in years; her choice, not mine. I stopped reaching out after a while, it's exhausting flinging love and care into a void.

My parents eldest daughter (I refuse to refer to her as anything other than that!), was an evil bully but only to me. She physically attacked me constantly but always manged to portray herself as the victim. The day she died I cried, not with sorrow, as everybody assumed, but with relief.

One brother I love to pieces the other one I'll never speak to or see again as long as I live (fingers crossed anyway) He's verbally abusive and calls it telling it like it is eye roll, he's a horrible bigot, he hates everyone, can't stand to see other people happy or enjoying themselves, he's just vile in every way imaginable.
When my dad was in a dementia care home he turned up and threatened the other residents for looking at him funny, the police had to remove him.

I have two older brothers. One of them I'm fine with although we don't have much in common. The other bullied me relentlessly when we were growing up. He called me fatso constantly, taunted and belittled me. He once gut punched as we were crossing a road and I was winded and literally had to roll off the road to avoid being run over. I was 8. In adulthood I have never met him and not felt belittled and mocked. In my 50s I decided enough was enough and went grey rock. I never see him now and it actually feels great. So empowering!

Finally went nc with identical twin and younger sister about 8 years ago. Both narcissists and nasty cruel bullies. Both put me down all our lives and started doing same to my kids.
Didn't want my kids to constantly never feel good enough like I did. Always having to apologise for whatever slight I had committed.
Nah. Best thing I ever did. Finally I'm free. I got married, had a kid, passed my driving test. All things my sister's told me I would never do. Because nobody would ever want me/I wasn't clever/rich/good enough.
It's more common than I realised. Two of my best friends are nc with siblings.
Life's too short to be the shit one. The one you keep in a box to make yourself feel better.