To ask if anyone else really doesn’t like their siblings

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And just doesn’t get on with them at all

We’ve mostly spent our adult lives living on different continents. A lot of people I know dislike their siblings and/or have no contact, though — in my circles, it’s certainly more common than siblings being ‘best friends’.

I don’t like my sister she made a malicious referral about me to social services, haven’t spoken to her in 2 years and never will.

My sister and I have nothing in common other than our parents. She's always been a bully so I decided to keep her at arm's length about 20 years ago.

Two brothers I love the other I have no real feelings for.

He was horrible to me growing up called me names which others at school then called me and generally made my life miserable.

When my Mum died he didn't come to the funeral. She did so much for him and his family. They live in Australia both with very good jobs he could easily afford to come home to say goodbye.

Asked me to arrange a live video of the funeral for him. I've never spoken to him since and never will.

Actually on reflection I think I might hate him.

I shared a small bedroom with my older sister & when I think of it now, I can almost feel her loathing of me creeping across the room like a fog. I had a bit of a run-in with a bullying neighbour & it actually caused a (very, very short but still frightening) flashback to being in that bedroom with my sister. It took until I was in my mid 40s to go nc & I only put it in writing a couple of years ago as she clearly hadn't really noticed or cared. She wanted to use me for something & I was glad to tell her no & btw don't ever contact me again.

@SickAndTiredAgain

I don’t really like either of my sisters. I don’t actively dislike them, we just have nothing in common. We never speak, again not through a big “I’m never talking to you again!” fight, I just can’t imagine texting them for a chat. I see them at our parents’ house at Christmas and we’re perfectly pleasant. If we weren’t sisters, and knew each other some other way, like colleagues, we wouldn’t be friends.

This sums up my relationship with my brother. It makes me very sad at times as we were close as children and played together all the time. But looking back and speaking to my parents we were always incredibly different. Whenever I try to build a relationship it falters so I've begun to accept the status quo. I'm friendly with his long term partner - again not friends but comment on each others FB posts etc . We go on the odd family holiday and do Christmas etc together but it we need our own space within that.

Glad I’m not the only one. No contact with my sister for 14!years. Evil, bully who destroyed my childhood.

I struggle with my sister, as someone else said, I love her but don't like her and don't like being around her

I have 3. I'm extremely close to 2 of them and the third is a prick of the highest order.

I don't actually think blood is thicker than water and I don't even think I love him in that 'you have to love your siblings' way. He's vile. My hatred has recently increased, he's getting married next year, no kids are invited - he's getting hitched in the area end of nowhere and as a single mum, this is a struggle for me as it is gonna have to be a 3 night minimum stay during my contact time. (I had a thread about it a few weeks ago).

That's not the reason I'm angry at him though - the other day I found out that the reason kids aren't invited isn't due to cost or numbers, it's because his fiancee has a wheelchair bound disabled 6yo niece with numerous learning difficulties and they're afraid the "grunting noises she makes" will disrupt the day, so are doing a blanket ban on life I told him he's a POS and now I'm not even sure I'm invited. I hope not.

My brother is a vile, entitled, lazy, selfish racist whom I dislike intensely.

My sister is very self-centred and hypocritical so often comes across like a bit of a dick, but with her there's no malicious intent behind it, she's just a bit messed up. I do actually love her dearly, but could never rely on her for anything.

I can't stand one of my siblings and it came to a head earlier this year when we had a big fall out (initiated by her). We never had much to do with each other and I refuse to budge until she apologies. The problem is that my parents and other sibling pander to her like he'll even though she's in the wrong so now I'm getting guilt trips from everyone else for the 'basics feeling'.
Just wondered how everyone else's parents react?

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Can't stand my sister, NC with her for many years, my brother however is awesome. It makes things difficult with my parents, but I know they don't really like her either. I have a very toxic family

I dislike my brother, he dislikes me, we’re both happier just having the obligatory Christmas text message each year.

My sister can be fun but she can also put me down and be nasty - sometimes it comes from no where. We’re also completely different. I used to be sad that she lives in another country but I think it might be for the best.

I like mine but I don’t think they like me. I’ve struggled with mental health issues and addiction in the past. Even though I’m clean and sober and have been for a long time I feel like they all hold back from me. I only have myself to blame but it still hurts, especially when I hear from my mum that they have met up among themselves and never invite me.

Don’t like mine, he tried to patronise me and I got endless snide put-downs when I last saw him. He competed with me about everything. I’m not interested.

I had two older sisters. The eldest one died 15 years ago so there is just my sister J and myself. I really don't like her, she and I have nothing in common and I find her attitudes really tiresome. I'd never say " I hate you ! I'm never speaking to you again !" but I just let the time go and I rarely call her or speak to her. We live in different cities so it's not hard to avoid her . Since our parents died there is never any reason for us to be in the same place, and that suits me fine.

My "db" is a bitter asshole. Spent ten years drinking himself half to death and now that he is sober , honesty he is worse. We don't speak and probably never will again. He was a nicer person on the drink and he was a nasty drunk.

My brother the rapist?
Not liking him doesn't even come close.

I can't stand one of my siblings. She's a vile opinionated hypocrite. And unfortunately I only have one sibling

I love my brothers, but don't always like them. One in particular can be quite good fun but has completely opposite political views to me and doesn't believe in things like quotas to increase equality. We've had to agree to disagree on a number of topics. The other is a nice person and good fun when around him, but is absolutely useless at keeping in touch (not just me, with everyone). It bothers me that if not for my efforts, we'd probably chat two or three times a year.

One of my cousins really dislikes her brother and the feeling is mutual.

This is because he embezzled money from their (dementia suffering) mother's bank accounts by saying he had bought things/done work for her when he hadn't. My cousin only found out about it when she found a bank statement that her brother forgot to take with him and saw the large purchases that were obviously for his family.

He also tried to trick my cousin into using their joint POA to change the deed on their mother's house into their names without paying his mother a thing for the house. He then said he would then 'buy my cousin out of her half'. Their mother was still living and the rent from her home was helping to pay her nursing home costs.

So yeah, she really dislikes him for being an ungrateful, dishonest piece of shit. And he really dislikes her for calling him out on stealing from his mother and for refusing to go along with his dirty plans to steal her house out from under her at half value.

I am close with mine although we are very different people. It’s their differences that I love.

Yep. I have one sister. Horrible creature.

She despises me,always has, tormented me growing up.
Created a smear campaign on my whole life,parents thought I was a drug addict at one point from listening to her lies!! They know the truth now and have a surface level relationship worh her for the grandchildren.

We don't speak at all now. I cut her out completely,eventually.

If shes not just pure evil, she's a narcissist.

OP, if you're struggling with the idea of cutting your sibling out of your life, its ok do so. Encouraged, where your mental health is concerned.