That PIL have never met my parents?

[wineislife21]

DH and I have been together 12 years, married 4. We got married on our own and so our parents never met his in that way.

DHs parents care for BIL who has severe special needs and can be aggressive at times. My parents are split and my mum has remarried.

So to be honest we have kept them apart because it is just much easier that way. Neither have ever particularly complained about it, although my mum once mentioned it and so we felt a bit awkward at the time, but hasn't mentioned it since.

Is this unreasonable?

@wineislife21 We’ve also been together 12 years and ours have never met OP 🤷🏻‍♀️ DHs parents are divorced and his Dad is remarried. Mum is on her own but they’re all very social people. My parents hate other people, hate each other and are so antisocial it’s unreal 🙄

I recently invited them all round for a little family get together - just a few nibbles and cake for DSs 1st birthday - thinking it would be the first time they all met and would be nice to see them all with DS (had cleared it all with them about 6 weeks before).
MIL turned up that morning unannounced as she wanted DS to get her present “with no distractions”, and FIL & his wife declined the invitation last minute (that day 🙄) as it was a sunny day and they wanted to take their other GC out for the day. And my family came for an hour at the specified time, ate nothing and left again 🤣 so I guess we’ll try for his second birthday 🙄🤷🏻‍♀️

I’ve been married 20 years, our parents met on our wedding day and on our DD’s first birthday. PIL are a bit odd and don’t like socialising so we’ve never bothered trying to get them to do events with my parents. They’ve never showed interest in DD, so birthdays/Christmas have never really been a crossover either.

Been married for almost 20 years, been together for 25. parents never met. Although I have the best MIL ever: seen her about 5 times, and none in the past 15 years :)