To not want to take this child to school?

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My friend has an 8 year old son and so do I, she works early shifts of a Monday so I always take her son to school as her partner has to go to work. I don't have an issue with this.

She texted me last night saying her partner has tested positive for covid and it's likely her eldest also has it as he has most of the symptoms, but her youngest is fine and can go to school.

AIBU to not want to take him? WWYD?

This is insane!!
There are people saying yes to walking outside with this child, but no to being in a car.
But you're all OK with this child being in a crowded classroom all day?
I don't care WHAT the current Government fucked up guidelines are, if there is Covid in the family home, the child should stay at home.

In a car? No. No way.

She might get huffy - too bad.

Young kids don’t need to isolate, by all means ruin another year of your child’s education but leave mine alone.

This is the kind of ignorance and selfishness that means 1 in 10 children in the UK have had covid in the last two weeks.

@CallmeHendricks

This is insane!! There are people saying yes to walking outside with this child, but no to being in a car. But you're all OK with this child being in a crowded classroom all day? I don't care WHAT the current Government fucked up guidelines are, if there is Covid in the family home, the child should stay at home.

I don’t think many people have said whether they’re ok or not about the self isolating rules. The rules exist and therefore it’s true that there could be several children in any one class with parents at home with covid. Even if you strongly disagree with the policy, it doesn’t help answer OP’s question to just say “well I don’t personally think he should be in school at all.” That’s not OP’s decision.

You could all wear masks and keep windows open.

I’d be saying no though.

I took my COVID positive friends daughter to football practice with my daughter last week. She showed my the negative LFT as I picked her up.

Of course she got it 2 days later and DD and now have it and have passed it to DH, just waiting on DS who has symptoms but currently negative.

Man, I regret taking her now!!

Of course it’s the OPs decision, because by bringing a child with likely Covid infection into a school she’s enabling the possible transmission of Covid in a class. And that isn’t OK as we all have personal responsibility.

If the child’s mother decided to take her, then that would take it out of OP having to make that ethical call.

It would help us all if she just said no.

I think I'd be inclined to listen to one of the previous posters.

28Isolateykatey

"I took my COVID positive friends daughter to football practice with my daughter last week. She showed my the negative LFT as I picked her up.

Of course she got it 2 days later and DD and now have it and have passed it to DH, just waiting on DS who has symptoms but currently negative.

Man, I regret taking her now!!"

This in spades. There's a chance it will be carried and passed onto your family. I'd say no, just in case it's passed on. If you're good friends she will understand.

I'd say no.

YANBU, tell them you’re not comfortable with it.

Good grief! Surely if one family member has tested positive they should all be isolating and getting tested?

You seem to have very weird rules in the UK.

I wouldn't do it until has child has had a negative pcr result, then I'd want a negative lft each day before i picked him up.

In Scotland the youngest could not go back to school without a negative PCR test. No way would I agree to take them in the car without that.

@FatBettyintheCoop, You're not wrong.
It's just beyond belief.

Is she working on the monday?

I wouldn't do it, he can stay at home for the day or 2 until he has a negative PCR test. If it was really necessary and you're okay with it, masks on and windows open after negative LFT.

@FatBettyintheCoop You're right, that's why a large chunk of our population are still shielding and why clubs and gyms are open but people can't go to hospitals for life saving treatment. It's a mess.

I'd take him. You could catch Covid anywhere. You might have had it already. The children will be at school together. I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I had to ask people to take my child to school, only a couple offered and they were people who walk to school. Totally reasonable. It's shit even asking though. I've bought the three of them a nice box of chocolates to say thanks. Two of them were just random parents off the whatsapp who I've never met. Really kind.

@Shakirasma

I wouldn't do it until has child has had a negative pcr result, then I'd want a negative lft each day before i picked him up.

Yes, we're doing that. She's had two PCRs in the last week and does an LFT every day.

They are good friends and play together every day I'm sure, so what is the difference as could get it either way, although testing negative. I would still take him.

@CherryBlossomAutumn

I think it’s bad she wants to potentially infect a whole class with Covid - many children are asymptomatic.

Children, like double vaccinated adults, do not have to stay at home just because a family member is positive.

We've also now run out of people who can pick up (drop off no issue), so we've been driving round to after school club, staying in the car, and they send her out to us. No other option.

But the child shouldn't be going to school anyway since the child would not be vaccinated?

I’ve done it. Masks for everyone in the car and windows open.

If you’re not comfortable doing it though, you just have to say and keep being consistent. The sooner you tell them the sooner they can try to make alternative arrangements.