We would like our dd to be christened next year and have been discussing godparents. This came up in conversation with dh's family today who it seems have their own preferences for godparents, including dh's sister. She wasn't one of our choices though. I really wanted people who are actively involved in dds life and take a real interest in her as that feels right to me and more meaningful. My sister in law doesn't show much interest. She's not local and only calls us occasionally. Doesn't have her own children yet as she's really career focused. She's a lovely person but I don't really want her to be a godparent. Then on the other hand, I don't want to cause bad feeling with dh's parents.
Then on my side of the family, I chose my cousin to be son's godparent a few years back. I wasn't going to choose her for my dd but my parents said I should as she's struggling with infertility and it would be nice for her.
AIBU not to follow family views on this or do we risk upsetting people and go for who we want?
I wonder if we should go for friends only as godparents then we don't have to bring family into it at all. The christening is special to me as I do have a Christian faith, it's not just an excuse for a party. So I want to make the right choices.