Playground mums

[Vicky1110]

Hello, not AIBU but not sure where to post.

Dropping ds off at school this morning I saw one of the other mums in her car and it looked like she was crying, and her DH walked off towards home. And I'm just wondering should I message her and see if she is ok? I'm guessing most people will say no because she would talk to me if she wanted to, but just wanted to see what people thought (i.e. whether you would want someone to ask if you were ok or stay out orlf you business).

For reference I know she doesn't have work today and saw her drive towards her home, and she has briefly explained some issues that she/they are having at the moment.

So I guess YABU - stay out of it, don't message her.
YANBU - message her to see if she's alright.

Tia x

Just to let everyone know, I did message her and she said she was fine but thanks for asking.

And then at pick up I think she intentionally avoided me. So I guess you win some and you lose some 🤷

@vicky1110 yes but she probably appreciates someone caring

thanks for update.
it's better to try and not succeed than to not try at all.
you did the caring thing, hopefully she knows that

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba @sillysmiles

I think I made

Sorry not sure what happened there, I think I did the right thing. I'd rather show that I care than ignore something like that.

@Vicky1110

Sorry not sure what happened there, I think I did the right thing. I'd rather show that I care than ignore something like that.

I think you're quite right, OP. You've extended a hand to show you care, and she had the choice to take it or not. Maybe she IS fine and you just saw a split-second wobble. If she ISN'T fine, maybe she has close friends who she will lean on. And she knows now that you care, so perhaps she'll feel she can turn to you.

You sound lovely OP. I would have messaged her too, she's probably avoiding you as she might feel embarrassed. If she's a decent person she'll come around - sounds like she's having a tough time.

You were trying to be kind, your motives were good.

Next time you see her, behave as if you never sent the text and move on.

She knows you are there.

I was really upset in the playground once. A mum from
My other child’s class took me back to hers for coffee. She was really nice even though we weren’t really friends as such.

She may have misconstrued it thinking you were being nosey, but don't worry, you did the right thing.