Aibu to not attend work Christmas party

[user65309871]

I was really looking forward to my works Christmas party this year after been off work sick for just over a year and not socialising much during this time.
I returned to work 6 months ago and now work mornings as I can't manage full days and get tired in the afternoons.
Today I overheard some of my colleagues slagging me off that I only work mornings and go home during the busiest time of the day (afternoons). It's made me feel really useless and knocked my confidence a bit.
Now I'm thinking why would I want to spend an evening with them when they slag me off behind my back.
AIBU to not want to go to the Christmas party and socialise with them?

Can you not work some afternoons ? As in go in later In the day
Rest in the morning then work?

@123rd

Can you not work some afternoons ? As in go in later In the day Rest in the morning then work?

Not really my medication makes me feel fatigued in the afternoon even when I rest in the morning.

However, this is not your fault and its not as simple as saying A can work these hours but B cannot
Also. It seems like bullying to complain about this in your hearing and make comments hinting that you are making them work too hard in the afternoons in response to a polite good morning and I would be making a note of this behaviour in case you need to raise it with management.
They shouldn't be taking this out on you, they should raise the workload with management.
I wonder how compassionate they'd be to the childcare 3.00pm colleague if her request was granted as they seem to wish. I think they would simply add this to their list of grievances. Are they really overworked or do they just enjoy bitching about it? Since their gripe seems to be about being overworked I wonder why they are arguing that the other colleague should also be allowed to leave early.

In an ideal world your employers would be accommodating to The person asking for different working hours. However they might argue that she has other options. She can change childcare, look for more suitable etc..
However, this is not your fault and its not as simple as saying A can work these hours but B cannot

You don't have other options. You have a medical condition and the medication makes you exhausted in the afternoons. Your employers have presumably looked into this or they wouldn't have agreed in the first place. Its an entirely different situation.

Maybe its time to talk to HR about this, since this is probably not helping your health either.

They're stressed, OP. Not your fault but I wouldn't be too chatty either if worked to the bone. If people are leaving due to the workload, management need to look at things.

You obviously don't have to go to the party. I probably wouldn't.

Ok OP after your last post I amend where I stand… your co workers seem serious dicks. If you say morning to people and they say how busy it was yesterday then you should report it. It’s horrible and I assume makes you feel upset. Do you mind me asking…I presume you obviously get less paid as your hours are cut right? You don’t get full salary? If your working hours are official and your pay is adjusted accordingly then you have to go to HR! They have no rights to make these comments.

@Elisemum

Ok OP after your last post I amend where I stand… your co workers seem serious dicks. If you say morning to people and they say how busy it was yesterday then you should report it. It’s horrible and I assume makes you feel upset. Do you mind me asking…I presume you obviously get less paid as your hours are cut right? You don’t get full salary? If your working hours are official and your pay is adjusted accordingly then you have to go to HR! They have no rights to make these comments.

@Elisemum yes I took a pay cut and reduced my hours officially with a new contract.

You really need to go to HR they are being unfair and making the environment not a pleasant one for you to work in through no fault of your own. After all you are working part time because of your health and that's not your fault. They are making it a bad working environment and it's unfair. Even if it weren't for your health you have the right to work part time if your managers agrees and it is absolutely not fair for them to take it out on you. If they feel over worked they need to take it up with management.

@user65309871

Hi everyone thanks for all the replies

The conversation I heard without outing myself too much was that I was the cause of problems in the department due to the hours I work.
Another member of staff has handed in their notice due to a flexible working request been refused, they had asked to work till 3pm due to childcare issues. A few colleagues were discussing this and said user65309871 gets whatever hours she wants and that everyone should be working afternoons to make it fair and that because of the hours I work other people are leaving because of this.
It is busy in the afternoon but it can be busy in the morning its not like I am not needed in the morning.
Everyday when I arrive I always say morning and the only reply I get off them is that it was so busy yesterday after you left!

Do they realise that these are your official hours now? They don’t think you’re on a slow phased return - don’t get me wrong they’d still be rude but I’m wondering if they haven’t realised that you’re essentially part time and your bosses could use the salary saved to employ an afternoon worker.

That happened to me once when I cut down to a three day week. There was weeks of sniping before I snapped and asked a colleague what her problem was and it turned out she didn’t realise I no longer worked Mondays and thought I was just taking every Monday as leave (Monday was one of the worst days). Once she relaxed she directed her ire correctly at management

Once she realised*

Re reading I think @JustLyra has it. user65309871 gets whatever hours she wants

Makes me now read it as its not clear this is your contracted hours now?

@MichelleScarn

Yes my contracted hours are now 20 per week which I do over 5 days 9.30-1.30.

Do they know this and they are being ridiculous for being annoyed at you for not working outwith your contracted hours? That's ridiculous if so, extreme example..it'd be like me at my work saying to ward clerks, oh patients family not happy phones not answered at 2am.. you're NOT WORKING AT THOSE TIMES! It doesnt matter how busy they are , it's not on you!