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If you attended private/grammar school, what is your job role and salary?

539 replies

Z3lda · 31/10/2021 08:24

Extremely nosey I know and obviously no one is obliged to share. But I'm just intrigued as it seems many are quite desperate to get their children into the best private or grammar school, but I just wondered what kind of jobs and salaries students from these schools go on to actually have? I know that education provides children with far more than just a path to a specific job and salary, but I do think many send their children to these schools for this reason.

OP posts:
Boofoof · 01/11/2021 21:10

Early 30s, private primary followed by grammar secondary. Currently c.£52k in medical specialty training, will jump to c. £80k in just over a year.

Still close to lots of friends from school and our jobs/ pay vary hugely.

Idontbelieveit14 · 01/11/2021 21:13

I went to a state grammar school, I’m 34. I’m a TA in a special school. Salary is £14k pro rata. I had children very young and got my degree when they were small, with the intention of teaching eventually. I absolutely adore my job and am not sure I’d cope with the work/life balance that teachers have (my mum was a teacher!)

RandomBlueSock · 01/11/2021 21:36

To throw a bit of a curve ball to OP - I’m not “not answering the question” to be awkward, but wanted to say that the reason for private school isn’t necessarily anything to do with earning potential. In our partnership, one person went state, one went private and household income is very good but I’m not going to quantify here. We pay for school, but it’s got nothing to with our expectations of future earning potential and I don’t think most parents paying for private school think that way either? There’s a lot of negativity towards people with a private education as it’s assumed they have a silver spoon etc. This isn’t true as private schools are full of people who’s parents scrimp and save and make sacrifices to pay the huge bill. They’re not all loaded!! (Actually, anything but once the bill is paid) In the real world, chances are someone from a state school background will decide whether or not you get a job or a place at a university! It’s not about where you went to school as my least academic child who maybe won’t get great exam result is most likely to earn most money (and already does with various ‘schemes’!!) Lots if state educated people do very well - it’s not about the education it’s about the person and how hard they’ll work. A private school can’t give you a work ethic or motivation if you don’t have it.

Emmasonej3791 · 01/11/2021 21:54

Went to state comprehensive. Now a teacher. Head of dept. 48. 3 kids. On £64k in a state comprehensive school. I’m very happy with that.

Piglet89 · 01/11/2021 21:56

I’m 40 and attended a grammar school in Northern Ireland.

I earn £80K as a lawyer.

wishiwasonholiday30 · 01/11/2021 22:06

39 teacher in a private school £50k and have a PhD
Husband - local comp with terrible reputation, owns own business and £120k. All his friends have also done very well.

sunnyhoneybumblebee · 01/11/2021 22:31

35 years old, went to private boarding school. I'm a registered nurse on around £30k

PolicecarOnAToe · 01/11/2021 22:42

I went to a grammar school. I am now a TA at a SEN school. DH went to our local comprehensive and earns over 10x what I do. I am not doing what everyone (myself included) expected of me, however I love my job so I am happy. I have just turned 33.

Livinthedream84 · 01/11/2021 23:02

Degree, masters, pgce and went into teaching. Couldn’t cope with the stress. I now work for a digital marketing agency earning just over 20k sometimes life’s about good mental health now money

heefer · 02/11/2021 04:59

Me: state school, post-92 Uni, 1st class BA, 12 years banking industry experience, PGTLHE, PhD, now work in HE £70k

DH: state school, good uni, 1st class BSc, £75k

heefer · 02/11/2021 05:00

Meant to add - both early 40s

OompaLumpaLabrador · 02/11/2021 05:17

Attended a state primary then an academically selective private secondary on an assisted place. RG uni.
Love my job and earn about 60k working 3 days a week, term time only.

malin52 · 02/11/2021 05:33

Me. State comp. Two degrees. Now FS lawyer. £200k.

Ex boyfriend 1 - private school. Architect. £90k

Ex boyfriend 2 - private boarding school. Academic. £60k

Friend 1 - private boarding school. Publishing. £40k

Friend 2 - private boarding school on an assisted place. Quite high up in Google. £huge

Friend 3 - private school. Admin assistant. £unknown but seems low given her lifestyle.

RachaelN · 02/11/2021 05:58

Shows the other side of the coin.. no need to be rude surely

User13489089768 · 02/11/2021 06:58

Attended a private school and now self employed with 100K per year.

The majority of my friends went to become business consultants (200K-500K+), doctors (100k+), working for international organisations like the United Nations (50-100K tax free) or working for tech companies like Google and Facebook (150K+).

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 02/11/2021 08:21

Have a friend who's 18yr old daughter is working in a private member's club for her gap year, on 28k.
Dh and I were musing on whether a state school kid would get such a job.
Firstly, name of school helps on the cv, that alone opens many doors.
My sister was on 26k after state school and Oxford. It has to do with drive and opportunity.
State and no uni for me, I'm on 24k which could be more if I did more hours.

Whatamess582 · 02/11/2021 08:26

Currently SAHM with €0 salary. Confused
But before I had kids I was heading up a Marcoms department for a FTSE100 company. That company, despite its success was run by people with very ordinary run of the mill CVs and school careers and middle of the road universities… if they went to uni at all. I then changed my job and became a commercial manager for a charity. There were all sorts there but mostly Cambridge and Oxford Graduates sign incredibly impressive CVs.

I went to a private school as did most of my friends. They now range from top medical consultants, to directors of hedge funds, radio producers at the BBC, to SAHM, script editors for TV, chief stewardesses on yachts, art gallery curators/owners, travel agents, magazine owners,

I think what private school gives you shouldn’t be whittled down to a job and salary. The experience of going to a private school is greater than just that. It gives you confidence, connections, social lubricant (as one person described it to me), an all round education in arts music drama public speaking sports AND academia. And of course, some can help you develop that ‘British exceptionalism’ that public schools do so well. It introduces you to more than just good grades and financial success….. it gives you the ability to transfer skills and to understand that a job doesn’t have to be for life. Usually smaller classes, more personal attention….

cowshindtail · 02/11/2021 09:02

I'm nearly 65 and went to an all girls grammar school where I was bullied.I've been a non tax payer most of my life due to earning

honeylulu · 02/11/2021 09:17

I think what private school gives you shouldn’t be whittled down to a job and salary. The experience of going to a private school is greater than just that. It gives you confidence, connections, social lubricant (as one person described it to me), an all round education in arts music drama public speaking sports AND academia. And of course, some can help you develop that ‘British exceptionalism’ that public schools do so well. It introduces you to more than just good grades and financial success….. it gives you the ability to transfer skills and to understand that a job doesn’t have to be for life. Usually smaller classes, more personal attention

Yes but if you don't then earn a decent salary you won't be able to afford private schooling for your own children to have that all round exceptional "experience" . Touche.

Hoppinggreen · 02/11/2021 10:49

@RandomBlueSock

To throw a bit of a curve ball to OP - I’m not “not answering the question” to be awkward, but wanted to say that the reason for private school isn’t necessarily anything to do with earning potential. In our partnership, one person went state, one went private and household income is very good but I’m not going to quantify here. We pay for school, but it’s got nothing to with our expectations of future earning potential and I don’t think most parents paying for private school think that way either? There’s a lot of negativity towards people with a private education as it’s assumed they have a silver spoon etc. This isn’t true as private schools are full of people who’s parents scrimp and save and make sacrifices to pay the huge bill. They’re not all loaded!! (Actually, anything but once the bill is paid) In the real world, chances are someone from a state school background will decide whether or not you get a job or a place at a university! It’s not about where you went to school as my least academic child who maybe won’t get great exam result is most likely to earn most money (and already does with various ‘schemes’!!) Lots if state educated people do very well - it’s not about the education it’s about the person and how hard they’ll work. A private school can’t give you a work ethic or motivation if you don’t have it.
Absolutely correct. One of my DCs is at Private school largely so she didn’t get bullied for being clever The other is there for small class sizes so he can’t fly under the radar and get away with the minimum This is based on the State option available to us by the way not ALL state schools before anyone gets outraged at stereotyping
Xenia · 02/11/2021 11:16

honey, yes that is the interesting bit. The first private school people in our family I think were about the 1870s (anyway may be that was because everyone had to pay then) before that side of the family c fell on to harder times. Other sides of family not even at school until after 1870. Then we have a boarding school pupil - my uncle and his cousin - he was only 4 and his girl cousin was 12 in about 1922. Then they fell on harder times so he went to a state grammar from where he and his brother (my father) went to Durham to read medicine in the 1930s and in my father's case 1950s (although it was founded in the 1500s so probably a pretty good school near Durham for the state sector in those days). Their cousins and their children however stuck with boarding schools. Then my father and mother sent us to day private schools from age 4 and all of us since the have been at fee paying schools including my grandchildren so far.

Whether everyone in this next generation will choose fee paying schools or not will be interesting. My son who drives a van if he ever marries I presume will not be able to afford it.

The post honey quotes above is a useful one and some of those features are what we have got out of private schools although I was very shy as a child but despite that did speech and drama from about age 6 as my parents paid extra for that and I went on to give 1700 legal talks around the world so I suppose someone who is still intrinsically shy as I am and prefer my own company was able to do all that public speaking, occasional TV stuff and of course getting on with people in meetings. That is not to say you cannot get that our of comprehensive schools (and state grammars obviously are on a par with most private schools on these things too).

Otherpeoplesteens · 02/11/2021 11:28

I think what private school gives you shouldn’t be whittled down to a job and salary. The experience of going to a private school is greater than just that. It gives you confidence, connections, social lubricant (as one person described it to me), an all round education in arts music drama public speaking sports AND academia. And of course, some can help you develop that ‘British exceptionalism’ that public schools do so well. It introduces you to more than just good grades and financial success….. it gives you the ability to transfer skills and to understand that a job doesn’t have to be for life. Usually smaller classes, more personal attention….

All very true, except for the British exceptionalism comments. Certainly most boarding schools have a significant international cohort and a therefore a much more globalised perspective on the world. In my experience it's the state-educated folk with few foreign friends and acquiantances, and have never travelled beyond Med holiday resorts, who believe Britain is best, that we can't learn from foreign experience, and that we are exempt from international norms and customs.

To answer the question, I'm 45 and a SAHP on a salary of zero. Was a boarding school scholar, from overseas. BA and MA from Russell Group unis, MBA from Ivy League grad school, have commanded £1000 a day as a consultant in the past but finding every door slammed in my face at the moment.

And I've met people who in one breath are proud that they'd never employ a privately-educated individual 'because it's unethical' and then in the next tell me that I should go and get a job.

Florianus · 02/11/2021 12:10

Yes but if you don't then earn a decent salary you won't be able to afford private schooling for your own children to have that all round exceptional "experience" .

Many private schools have means-tested bursaries for parents who cannot afford the full fees. Eton, for example, has an annual budget of over £7 million which funds 250+ bursaries and scholarships.

Waferbiscuit · 02/11/2021 17:30

This has been an interesting but depressing read. What I've learned from this is not that a private education guarantees high salaries but rather that men, irrespective of how poor or good their education, will make more money than women!

Male privilege wins every time!

Xenia · 02/11/2021 17:56

However it is not always just male privilege. I earned 10x my state school educated husband - he was went a very bad grammar school in an area I think which had 4 equally bad grammar schools in Yorkshire in those days. Many women choose to marry men who earn more or choose to work full time - choices denied men. In a sense men not women are the losers for that.