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Original poster

Just want to have fun

33 replies

Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 19:31

I’m sitting in my kitchen listening to music and I love just dancing along. Our kids are out for the whole weekend so just me and my husband are here. I’ve made dinner and we’ve had that but now just want a bit of together time. He is now in the other room watching the cricket. I would quite like if we could have some time together. He doesn’t want to. I’m having a drink but not rowdy. He’s not a big drinker. But should this matter? I just want to be together

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TotallySuper · 30/10/2021 19:34

YANBU but can't you just go and grab him for a dance? I love a kitchen dance and neither of us drink.

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 19:37

Yes exactly I just want to dance. When I say I’m having a drink it’s I’ve just popped a bottle of Prosecco

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SpangoDweller · 30/10/2021 19:38

Ask him?

Restart10 · 30/10/2021 19:38

Yanbu, enjoy your dance and drink.

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 19:39

Yes I have but he just wants to watch the cricket. He’s tired

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 19:41

@Restart10
I am dancing in the kitchen. Some good music but feel a bit sad as would like to be with him

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 19:45

Has anyone else experienced this? Are we incompatible?

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BrilliantBulb · 30/10/2021 19:45

If you’re drunk dancing in the kitchen I can kind of see why he doesn’t want to join in. Maybe suggest that in an hour you do something together that you’ll both enjoy.

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 19:47

@BrilliantBulb no not drunk dancing. As I said just opened a bottle of Prosecco

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Obsidiansphere · 30/10/2021 19:50

Yanbu…he sounds very dull…

SpookyS · 30/10/2021 19:52

I don't think either of you are wrong, you just find different things fun.

I'd rather watch the cricket than dance tbh!

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 19:57

@SpookyS yes you are right we are different but I suppose a bit of give and take in a relationship maybe?

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 20:00

Maybe I’m pxxd off a little bit as he has told me today that he is giving up work. He is self employed. So basically I will be supporting him

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itsgettingwierd · 30/10/2021 20:16

@Stronger2021

Maybe I’m pxxd off a little bit as he has told me today that he is giving up work. He is self employed. So basically I will be supporting him
That should have pissed you off.

That's something that should be discussed.

If he's tired and wanting to be alone and giving up work is there more to this? Is he depressed possibly?

TotallySuper · 30/10/2021 20:18

Huge drip feed! Did you have a choice in this? Can you afford to/do you want to support him? If not tell him to fuck off and keep your money in a sole account.

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 20:20

@itsgettingwierd
Yes maybe as it’s so out of character. Thank you. I’ve missed something maybe. thank you

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 20:24

@TotallySuper yes sorry it has become a drip feed because I didn’t really realise why I was so cross.

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Oftenithinkaboutit · 30/10/2021 20:26

@Stronger2021

Yes I have but he just wants to watch the cricket. He’s tired
And that’s fair enough

Me too.
A dance in the kitchen would be LAST thing I would feel like

Curling up on sofa… precisely what I fancy

JSL52 · 30/10/2021 20:28

Sorry, I know you're trying to enjoy yourself , but he can't just decide to stop working.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 30/10/2021 20:32

I would want to watch the cricket if I was him.. it was amazing today.

Grab him after, when it’s finished, don’t let him watch anything after

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 20:33

@JSL52
Yes I know. It was so out of the blue. I love my job and he knows I will never stop working. It’s so presumptuous

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georgarina · 30/10/2021 20:33

Wait what? He can't just TELL you he's giving up work and you'll be supporting him.

WTF?

georgarina · 30/10/2021 20:34

What was his reasoning? Or did he just announce it to you and leave it?

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Stronger2021 · 30/10/2021 20:34

@ThroughThickAndThin01 Smile

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Oftenithinkaboutit · 30/10/2021 20:39

So you’re feeling like this

Bit also really want to dance with him in the kitchen?

Confused