Friends who want to go nightclubbing/bar hopping

[Dobermansdinner]

I did the whole clubbing/bar hopping thing in my 20s and some of my 30s - I’m now so bored of the scene and feel like that ship sailed a long time ago.

I would rather meet for a coffee in Costa and/or go shopping; or have a cuppa/bottle of wine at the house and/or go out for a meal. In other words, I’m not interested in shouting over music to make myself heard and drinking my drink at the speed of light so we can move on to the next pub. Been there, done that.
I’m mid forties and just feel too old for it but also feel as though I’m boring at the same time, as some of my friends think the opposite to me. I inwardly groan when someone organises one of these nights out and invites me cause I feel bad if I keep declining. But at the same time I can’t really see the point as you’re not enjoying each other’s company as you can’t really hear each other!

Anyone else?

I used to be in nightclubs Thursday/ Friday/ Saturday/ Sunday…. 😂

Now I’d have to be dragged in. I wouldn’t judge anyone who still wanted to do it though. I’d just expect them not to invite me on those nights out and drop them if they got arsey that I didn’t.

All of my friends enjoy different things, you compromise on things you both like to do surely?

@TooExtraImmatureCheddar

I love dancing. I wish someone would invent a club where the dancing starts earlier than 11, it’s not filled with arseholes spilling drink down your back, the toilets aren’t minging and it’s not filled with 18 year old freshers. Actually, there used to be something called the Feminist Disco which sounded like that - wonder if it’s back up and running?

there's a club night in Glasgow that would fit your brief. It's called Hip Replacement

We always start a night out in quieter places for a good chat. I can't stand walking into a loud bar sober.

@ShinyMe

Every time I go to a gig (well, went I suppose, haven't been back yet) I used to wish they did afternoon ones! I can't be doing with standing around in the rain in a football stadium or a sticky floored club for 3 hours waiting for a band to decide to start! They should at least have giant cushions and bean bags to sit on while you wait.

This is one of the best things about living in London. Sone of the clubs I go to often do start in the afternoon - Printworks do a lot of day sets (including All Day I Dream etc) - and things like Imaginarium, Rumpus, Crossbreed, Warm Up and the like absolutely have dedicated rooms with sofas and chill out zones and a tea bar

I love dancing, just not in clubs. It’s great when you get to do it at weddings and parties.

I’m with you @Dobermansdinner I stopped going to nightclubs when I left uni at 28 (went as a mature student) Since then I’ve been to one nightclub in 13 years and that was for my hen do. It was fantastic but just because it was a novelty, wouldn’t want it to be a regular thing.

Well no-one's forcing you to go dancing are they?

I love it every so often, and would go more frequently if more of my friends wanted to and I'm 51.

Mind you I can't think of anything worse than sitting in a spa and lots of groups of women appear to like doing that.