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What Would Drive You To Murder?

31 replies

WheelieBinPrincess · 27/10/2021 13:26

Just curious, because I think I’m on the cusp, and have come out to remove the temptation.

At home in the flat with the baby, who finally naps nicely in the day, and downstairs are doing a complete renovation, the place is gutted, with workmen there daily. Last few days the power drill and sanders and some sort of massive hammer thing has started up. I feel like I’m some sort of bizarre sleep deprivation experiment, being up most of the night as well. The health visitor trilled ‘sleep when the baby sleeps!’ In a jolly sing song voice and when asked how she would sleep through a power drill vibrating underneath her said ‘if your body is tired enough, it’ll find a way!’

Not sure who I hated more in that moment, her or the builders.

Obviously there’s no drowning it out with white noise or earplugs, it’s way beyond that. I’m living above an actual building site.

I’ve come out to a coffee shop that I have no interest in being in simply so I don’t commit a violence, all I want to do is either cuddle my baby on the sofa while I watch American Horror Story, or nap myself, and neither of those things are available to me, so I’m sitting here with my third coffee, baby asleep in the pram and wondering if they’d make a ‘women who kill’ documentary about me or if it would just be too boring, suburban woman on maternity leave kills man with power drill in a fit of rage. I think at least I could plead insanity or diminished responsibility.

I am being lighthearted, please don’t tell me off for joking about murder, I’m not actually going to do it.

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TenThousandSpoons · 27/10/2021 13:28

You could use the drill or the massive hammer so that would be handy. No court in the land would convict you.

MangoBiscuit · 27/10/2021 13:29

‘if your body is tired enough, it’ll find a way!’ Well she can fuck right off just for that.

Sorry, sounds really shit OP. Have you any idea how long it will last for? Or how long till the worst of it is over?

Iamblossom · 27/10/2021 13:30

I actually went over to our neighbour's house when I got home from playgroup with my sleeping baby, and asked them to ask their builders to stop drilling while he napped.

They did.

WheelieBinPrincess · 27/10/2021 13:32

I have been down to the builders, they unfortunately have not been moved by my plight because they say they are working to a tight deadline. I had the baby in my arms and everything! They said it’ll be weeks 😭 but the loud bits shouldn’t be much longer.

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Chiwi · 27/10/2021 13:32

Very seriously contemplated murdering the ice cream man when he sat playing his music outside our house for a prolonged period of time when my toddler had just gone down for a nap after a hellish morning while I was pregnant with hyperemesis. Decided it wasn't worth it because I wouldn't be able to eat the ice-cream because of all the vomitting.

MatildaTheCat · 27/10/2021 13:33

Ask a friend or family if you can come and sit round at their place?

Don’t drink any more coffee, you’ll be both twitchy and enraged.

MagicWorkout · 27/10/2021 13:33

A health visitor said that to you? Shock

I'm not sure anything would drive me to actual murder but I can fully understand why you'd like to.

You might be able to talk to builders and try and co ordinate their breaks with nap time?

EatYourVegetables · 27/10/2021 13:33

YANBU. The lack of sleep is brutal and the amount of patronising bullshit you hear as a new parent is astounding.

To answer your title question: at this point, really anything, easily. Grin

WheelieBinPrincess · 27/10/2021 13:34

No family anywhere near us sadly, it’s London so friends spread out all over.

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LadyCampanulaTottington · 27/10/2021 13:38

Cheap hotel for a couple of nights?

Noise is so disruptive in many ways. Our old neighbours used to play shitty French rap (we live in France) at ear splitting decibels. I used to occasionally put on my coat to go stab one of them but luckily DH always talked me down.

They moved out about a month into lockdown thank fuck. I came close to twitchy eye rage.

FuzzyPenguin · 27/10/2021 13:45

Loud eaters make me feel all stabby.

Warmduscher · 27/10/2021 13:49

On the plus side, there’s nothing quite like the sound of the silence that follows prolonged hammer drill action Grin

WheelieBinPrincess · 27/10/2021 16:43

Come back and the drilling seems to have stopped but the radio is blasting Ed fucking Sheeran though the floor, I can hear every word.

Poor baby will have a mum in police custody before the day is out.

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JesusIsAnyNameFree · 27/10/2021 16:52

Well that's not on. They really don't need to be bothering you with the music as well. The work may be necessary but loud music isn't. Why are people so disrespectful?

AngelsWithSilverWings · 27/10/2021 16:55

That sounds bloody awful! They should at least turn the music off. I hope it gets easier.

Going by my extreme reaction the other night I think it's going to be about Parmesan cheese .

My DS16 loves the stuff and has been told many many times that it's not for snacking on. The number of times I've gone to get it out of the fridge to add to whatever I'm cooking or to grate up to go on the table and found the empty packet is ridiculous.

I've explained time and time again that it drives me mental but he just won't stop doing it. He has been known to eat an entire pack in a day.

Singlebutmarried · 27/10/2021 16:58

Currently, DH banging away upstairs ducking his hobby implement (not allowed to say bike are we Grin) and I’ve got a horrible sinus infection.

Each whap of the hammer on the bearing sprocket wotnot is going right through me.

Singlebutmarried · 27/10/2021 16:58

Ducking. That should say fixing.

BenjiMcSchmenzie · 27/10/2021 17:06

That sounds horrendous OP.

I will murder the next person who parks across our dropped kerb. I could write a whole book of parking threads all by myself; they are a weekly (often daily) occurrence Angry

HarrietsChariot · 27/10/2021 17:10

Two things, persistently noisy neighbours and people who deliberately block roads or disrupt public transport to make some kind of political point.

Technically it wouldn't be murder though, because a) neither group are actual human beings and b) the provocation would be so great it would be manslaughter at worst.

manipulatrice · 27/10/2021 17:12

I feel your pain OP.

I had a neighbour who decided to do home reno at either 4am or 10-11pm at night and I was in the newborn phase and husband worked away.

I think I was a week on having asked nicely for him to be considerate with his drill thing for breaking up concrete when I lost my shit, went over there at midnight and smashed the plug for it with some of his drive way concrete he had broken up.

I don't recommend this btw, but you have my sympathy.

Redcrayons · 27/10/2021 17:14

Do you have a friend who’ll lend you their house during the day? I wouldn’t mind if you and your baby came to snooze in my house for an afternoon.

RuggerHug · 27/10/2021 17:20

Is there anyone who will let you stay at theirs even for a night or 2? Or an Airbnb nearby? I remember it all too well OP. You will get through it.

WheelieBinPrincess · 27/10/2021 17:21

People can just be shit can’t they? I was literally standing in front of them earlier holding a six week old baby and saying I understand they have to work but it’s utterly awful for me having to live above it. I don’t know if the music is travelling so badly because it’s empty and airy down there with big high ceilings but I’m at the end of my rope with it. They are keeping within building reg work times which makes me think I don’t have grounds for complaint.

The naps I could I have had today, the baby has slept like a dream 😭

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WheelieBinPrincess · 27/10/2021 17:24

We don’t drive so decamping somewhere else would be a bit of an undertaking on my own with the baby, my family live hundreds of miles away and I wouldn’t impose on my friends in that way. It’s a pricey area for air bnb and hotels and DH needs to commute to work. And this could go on for weeks, we don’t have the money to faff around paying for unnecessary accommodation.

Probably the easiest thing to do is plot to kill them all and make it look like a terrible accident 😆

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Crazycakelady17 · 27/10/2021 17:29

It’s awful soon as they piss of fans your DP (if you have one) gets home go to bed for a few hours you may feel a bit better
Sympathies with you
Mine is minor in comparison DH is a clean freak he hoovers 3 times a day well he also has about 10 cups of tea a day he leaves them next to the kettle when used on a slate thingy all piled on top of one another It drives me mad I have to move them I don’t know why it gives me the rage
I left it once and there was 9!! Yes 9 used teabags for a clean freak it just makes me rage he’s not lazy I don’t know why he does it