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Red eyes were pointed out at work

44 replies

rainonsunday · 26/10/2021 12:23

I’m having a bad time at home and I’ve been upset/quiet. I was crying in the car park (in my car by myself) and went back to the office. My colleague pointed out my eyes and stated “what have you done to your eyes they look really nice”. We wear masks at work when waking around.

Was she being a bitch? I had my eyebrows and eyelashes dyed a few days before. Not sure how red my eyes were.

I thought everything was fine until I explained the tip to a friend.

OP posts:
SweetMaryHell · 26/10/2021 12:24

She complimented you? How is that being a bitch? Unless I’ve misunderstood

SantasLittleHoHoHo · 26/10/2021 12:25

I think you / your friend are being over sensitive here! You'd had both your eyebrows and eyelashes done recently, if the comment is about your eyes looking nice it is 100% about the beauty treatments you'd just had done!

SummerHouse · 26/10/2021 12:26

To be honest, crying absolutely can actually enhance your eyes. On top of that you have had eyelashes and eyebrows done. I think this comment was said in honest praise. Any reason to think it wasn't?

anon12345678901 · 26/10/2021 12:27

I don't see how she's a bitch when she gave you a compliment. If you have had your eyes and browns done and wear a mask then the focus will be on your eyes. It's not surprising someone would notice.

Butteredtoast55 · 26/10/2021 12:27

Also being teary can make your eyes really sparkle afterwards. Just take the compliment fir what it is.

MushMonster · 26/10/2021 12:28

I doubt your colleague was being shady here.
Your eyes were most likely shiny, but not red, so making the trearments more noticeable indeed. You must eyelashes long and thick enough to produce a breeze!
Just do not worry, but stop crying at work/ car parks.

Seeline · 26/10/2021 12:29

I don't think any of us can really say without being there!

Why do you think she might have been being a bitch - does she have form for nasty comments? If not, it seems a bit strange to leap to that conclusion. If you had just had your brows and lashes done she is likely to be commenting on that.

StrongSunglasses · 26/10/2021 12:30

One of my friends growing up always said she loved my eyes after I’d cried (having issues at home), and I never knew how to take it but I do believe she was just being genuine but that it sat badly because it was borne through my upset.

MissDollyMix · 26/10/2021 12:31

My eyes go super blue after I’ve been crying. She was probably giving you a compliment. Sorry you’re going through a hard time at the moment Flowers

over2021 · 26/10/2021 12:32

My eyes look super bright and very very green after crying. I don't think your colleague was being a bitch- if she were being a bitch she'd have asked you if you'd been crying in front of everyone I work with one of those!.

Blackmagicqueen · 26/10/2021 12:32

I think your colleague thought your eyes looked nice and sparkly and that coupled with the tinting was complimenting you! When we're low it is easy to turn everything negative.

mountbattenbergcake · 26/10/2021 12:33

You're over-estimating how sensitive people are to noticing red / crying eyes.

I doubt she even realised you had been crying let alone made a comment to draw attention to them by passive aggressively calling them nice.

Put it down to your dyed brows and lashes and look into 'reframing'.

Blackmagicqueen · 26/10/2021 12:34

I also agree with a pp, a bitch would have shouted 'have you been CRYING? Oh why!??? (Que fake sarcastic concern) infront of entire office! Your colleague was being nice.

RincewindsHat · 26/10/2021 12:37

@MissDollyMix

My eyes go super blue after I’ve been crying. She was probably giving you a compliment. Sorry you’re going through a hard time at the moment Flowers
Same, my pale blue eyes get much more vivid after a cry and look almost glowy. Maybe yours do the same and that's what she noticed.
MakeMineALarge1 · 26/10/2021 12:39

Really?????
You're accusing your colleague of being a bitch because she gave you a compliment.
I think you need to look at yourself.
If that is your first thought then I'm sorry the issue is with you.

OverweightPidgeon · 26/10/2021 12:43

She may have realised you’d been crying and wanted to make you feel better.

FlippinFedUp21 · 26/10/2021 12:45

It was probably because you've had your eyelashes and eyebrows done and she noticed something looked different. Highly doubt it was because you'd been crying. Do you think it might just be because you knew you'd been crying so felt self-conscious?

notacooldad · 26/10/2021 12:55

My colleague pointed out my eyes and stated “what have you done to your eyes they look really nice”

Was she being a bitch?

🙄

StringsnThings · 26/10/2021 12:57

You've had your eyelashes and eyebrows done? You have done something to your eyes...

Probably this combined with a more shiny look made them look nice. I doubt she meant you were crying

ApolloandDaphne · 26/10/2021 13:07

She didn't point out your red eyes at all, she said they looked nice. How can that be bitchy?

DappledThings · 26/10/2021 13:09

Agree with everyone else. No reason to think her compliment was anything other than than compliment and not a veiled insult.

SparrowNest · 26/10/2021 13:14

If you’ve just had eyelashes and eyebrows done, it seems far more likely this was a genuine compliment than a veiled dig. It would be a weird way to get at someone for having visibly been crying.

maddy68 · 26/10/2021 13:14

She thought you looked nice. How is that being a bitch?

CustardySergeant · 26/10/2021 13:16

Your title is wrong. That is not what happened at all is it?

Thefaceofboe · 26/10/2021 13:27

I have blue eyes and crying makes them really really bright so could have been that?

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