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My "lift buddy" has let me down again!

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ChristmasseyHarrisey · 11/12/2007 08:27

We have a friend whol lives nearby and we both go to the same college - I'm ful time, she's part time.

Every week we give her a lift in for her one lecture, and always turn up on time etc. We never reconfirm or anything, we are always at her house at 8.30 and that is that.

Dh is working (paid! not college) for the next 2 weeks. Today is "results" day, and 3 days ago she said she would take me in to college and drop dd2 at nursery on the way. So this morning I called to say when does she want us round to hers (I wasnt expecting her to come here) and she said that as I didnt call last night then she thought the arrangement was cancelled and she hasnt got time to take me in and take dd to nursery as well. Dh is away to work with the car - which is why I made this arrangement with my friend.

So .. now I have to take dd2 to nursery on the train and bus, and will be late for college, and my friend got a lie in instead.

I feel hacked off with her. We made an arrangement and she let me down. I know its just a little thing, but she does this sort of thing a lot - its always on her terms, and its OK to let me down. We never let her down.

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DingdongmerrRADLEYonhigh · 11/12/2007 08:51

I would be annoyed too, that's really inconsiderate of her.

I would stop giving her lifts whatsover if that is how she wants to play it


SantaBeClausImWorthIt · 11/12/2007 08:52

Then stop giving her a lift. If she can't be bothered to help you out - and that's a pretty lame excuse - then she is no friend and doesn't deserve your help.


MamaG · 11/12/2007 08:52

what santa and radley said


ChristmasseyHarrisey · 11/12/2007 08:58

I know thats probably what I shoudl do - just seems a bit petty "you didnt give me a lift, so I'm not giving you one, nar nar" etc ...

Also her dd is very good friends with my dd1.

I just feel like she should stick to plans, the way we do!

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pennymae3 · 11/12/2007 09:00

shes not a friend hun fancy doing that to you
i wouldn,t bother with her again


NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 11/12/2007 09:02

Harrisey - that is very annoying - if it's any comfort she may feel really bad too - perhaps you rang as the cat was swallowing the canary, the toast was burning and the window cleaner dropped by to see her hunting for a bra without holes in

All the best with the results!


ScottishMummy · 11/12/2007 09:02

Firts things first good luck with your results - are you nervous. Oh fingers crossed and all that

Next it is a shame she is abusing your good nature - thing is you are helping her out! ditch her she is unreliable


ChristmasseyHarrisey · 11/12/2007 09:03

I wish that was the case - but she was still in bed! Her dh had got their kids up adn was taking them to school.

Anyway, I need to get off MN and get dd2 to nursery!

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yomellamoHelly · 11/12/2007 09:24

Maybe she really needed a lie-in? Her dcs don't sleep .... whatever. I think if there were no mitigating background I'd stop the lifts. Still do play-dates etc. but consider it your dd's friendship, not yours.


bozza · 11/12/2007 09:27

So if she really needed a lie-in why didn't she at least let harrisey know last night? Out of order IMO.


PortAndLemonaid · 11/12/2007 09:33

It doesn't need to be "you didnt give me a lift, so I'm not giving you one, nar nar", just "as you didnt call last night then I thought the arrangement was cancelled".


Bouncingturtle · 11/12/2007 09:33

What and she couldn't have rang you yourself to check arrangements last night? Sounds like she couldn't be arsed. So YANBU.
Good luck with the results!


nametaken · 11/12/2007 12:54

YANBU stop giving lifts right now - your daughters will still be friends.


ChristmasseyHarrisey · 11/12/2007 18:47

Just thought you would like to know my results were great.

Had to take dd2 with me rather than nursery due to the time it takes on Public Transport but she was a little star and everyone loved her, so it didn't matter.

I came top= in the hardest course, which made me feel very good! I am

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ScottishMummy · 11/12/2007 19:18

congratulations really well donebig pat on the back and big grin for you


SelfishMrsClaus · 11/12/2007 19:24

Massive well done to you Harrisey!!!!!!!!


SantaBeClausImWorthIt · 12/12/2007 00:00



ChristmasseyHarrisey · 12/12/2007 01:14

I feel especially good as dh is also on my course and he is mega-clever - top all the way. Except today, whe I did better than him for only the second time in 4 terms!

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gibberish · 12/12/2007 01:48

Well done!

Your friend is inconsiderate to say the least. Introduce her to my friend - they should get on like a house on fire!

And will hopefully spontaneously combust.


sunnydelight · 12/12/2007 02:57

Congratulations on your results!

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