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When did you meet 'the one?'

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RainbowBriteUk · 25/10/2021 20:42

I'm a few years from 40 and after years of a few long term relationships, more short term flings, i'm single. I always imagined I would find my one by now. I don't want much - someone funny, a bit of a geek, quirky and someone who cares for me as much as I care for him. I feel like i'm destined to be on my own forever!

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Ilovechristmasasmuchasiloveyou · 25/10/2021 21:51

I met him on-line when we were 20. Still together, married, 2 children and a mortgage 12 years later.
We're still very much in love and I've always known he was the one. ❤

TrussOnABus · 25/10/2021 21:55

20, he was 18. My mum met her partner at 47 after a divorce and three kids and she's never been happier. Have faith. Everyone's path looks different. Smile

321zyx · 25/10/2021 21:55

Met at 34, married at 36 - divorced at 58Sad........you just never know what is round the corner!

HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 25/10/2021 22:01

16, married him when I was 22, I'm now 38 and we've been together 21 and a bit years.

Keepitonthedownlow · 25/10/2021 22:08

Nice though these are I'm thinking the OP might appreciate hearing from those who met their partners later in life....

BeatieBourke · 25/10/2021 22:11

I really believe notions of 'The One' are nonsense.

That said, when I met DH I had a very distinct feeling of "oooh, this feels...important". It was important. I was at a point in my life when I was ready to do something more meaningful, and he was sincere, handsome and kind. We have a lot in common. He is also massively infuriating quite often (who isn't?) and in many ways we are chalk and cheese.

I have never felt he was made for me or vice versa. I can't imagine that feeling (and I have had it, when v young and naive) lasts much beyond the initial flush of young love.

It's more that we chose each other, we've stood by that choice (which has sometimes taken some work), and on balance its been an overwhelmingly good decision.

Karmatime · 25/10/2021 22:13

50 - old enough to have made mistakes and realise this is different. We’ve been together 5 years. I was very happily single, now I’m even happier and engaged.

bert3400 · 25/10/2021 22:13

I was 31, met at work . Stupidly happy still after 23 years together, can't wait for the next adventures to begin now the kids are older.

OwlinaTree · 25/10/2021 22:16

How old? About 24. I was engaged to someone else. When I saw him like I just knew - like the air shifted funny round him or something...

Took us a while to actually get together - still together now. Have faith op.

WhatTheEll · 25/10/2021 22:17

We just kind of knew? Both late 20's so had both had several relationships and knew what we wanted and what we didn't want. Sharing the same morals, values and outlook is so important. We've been together 8 years and I still remember when I met him thinking "I could listen to you talk all night". There were no silly "is he going to text me" games, it just flowed effortlessly. All I knew is that I wanted to spend all my time with - he said it was love at first sight. As soppy as it sounds, we were meant to be.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 25/10/2021 22:17
  1. I knew there was something about him from the minute l laid eyes on him.
MagpieMary · 25/10/2021 22:17
PatsyJStone · 25/10/2021 22:26

45

QueenDanu · 25/10/2021 22:28

I'm the one.

Or is it youtube? Youtube knows what I want. Maybe youtube is my one.

QueenDanu · 25/10/2021 22:31

@cardibach

Never as there’s no such thing.
Thank god for your reply!! I read the thread after posting and got a shock how serious all the answers are Grin
shockedNeighbour · 25/10/2021 22:31

I never thought he existed.

Luckily he does. He's not perfect but is perfect for me. 100% my soulmate.

Reading that back it sounds so sickly but it's true -I used to roll my eyes when people talked about "the one" or "soulmates" however now I have one it's all good!

HopelesslyOptimistic · 25/10/2021 22:34

@DuvetDayIsEveryDay

46.

The one for now - I'm cynical Grin

Absolutely agree.
StampOnTheGround · 25/10/2021 22:35

16 - together 12 years, married 2 and a half and first child due next year 🥰

samesign · 25/10/2021 22:35

I'm 40 not met the one yet, a few intense but short relationships one long relationship mr you'll do had kids with him. I'm happy on my own now but if he comes along he would have to be near perfect for me to call him the one.

Micsam89 · 25/10/2021 22:36
  1. Got together when we were 18, married at 20 and been married for 12 years so far 😊
Spunout · 25/10/2021 22:38

32,he's my one,but i'm not his so we are just friends now 13 years later.

thefirstmrsrochester · 25/10/2021 22:43

I went out on a date with the IT guy from work when I was 22, him 23. We are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary this Halloween. He is a pain in the arse mostly these days, but he’s the father of my three wonderful kids, so no regrets.

aimss4777 · 25/10/2021 22:51

17! Together a few years, broke up then found each other again a year later Grin

MeltedCheeseonTop · 25/10/2021 22:52

17 and feel so lucky to have met him that early.

StormBaby · 25/10/2021 22:53

I met my soulmate on POF when I was mid thirties and he was 30. Both divorced with children already. The moment we saw each other for the first time walking round that corner, we both knew we’d met ‘the one’. We’d have got married that day if we could, been together almost seven years now and married for three years