The Maid on Netflix needs to be watched. (Potential TW)

[Dogscanteatonions]

Mostly posting here for traffic but I've been in tears watching this as it's made me Realise how abusive my exh was and how difficult it was to tell people or even admit it was happening because he never actually 'hit' me.

The verbal/emotional abuse was terrible when he was drunk and boy did he drink and often.

The gaslighting if I dared mention it, the utter fear I lived in of saying the wrong thing, how fucking careful he was to do everything 'but' hit me. The pinning me down, the bruises, oh he was so fucking careful that if I'd tried to tell someone it would be hard to describe anything he'd actually done.

I'm posting here so I can just have a rant. I'm glad I'm not with him but I know so many women are going through this.

Does it show how impossible it was for her friends to relate? One of the things ive struggled with most is the judgment.

It shows how compromised she was by her family’s lack of insight into what constitutes abuse. It doesn’t really focus much on friendships in that way although where it does, they still her down badly.

I literally wrote about my own friends’ lack of capacity to handle different family abuse not 5 minutes ago on another thread cooda I’m so sorry you have experienced that too.

@Muttly

Does it show how impossible it was for her friends to relate? One of the things ive struggled with most is the judgment.

It shows how compromised she was by her family’s lack of insight into what constitutes abuse. It doesn’t really focus much on friendships in that way although where it does, they still her down badly.

I literally wrote about my own friends’ lack of capacity to handle different family abuse not 5 minutes ago on another thread cooda I’m so sorry you have experienced that too.

Which thread? If you dont mind sharing. I lost so many friends. I still feel so embarrassed by their opinions of my marriage.

@TenThousandSpoons

I’ve just watched all of this. When Sean went to AA and really seemed to have changed it was so understandable that she went back to him. Then when she realised she was back to square one

Andi MacDowell was brilliant.

When he walks in with the beers and just sits down and opens one like he's obviously done a hundred times before. There's not even a discussion. You can feel the futility of it all

It was incredibly powerful. I wasn’t emotionally abused but I found myself left suddenly with nothing, no income, nowhere to live and struggling as a single parent nearest family 4 hours away.

I had nobody to mind DD so I could work. I used to hide her in her buggy behind the counter during my night shift at a 24 hour petrol station. It was the only way I could feed us.

The sheer frustration as things stacked up and went wrong. I almost yelled at her mother a few times. The utter desolation when her father refused to help her. It was amazing.