6.5 yr old nighttime bedwetting and daytine wee confusion

[Tiredmummy2019]

Hi

Just wondered if someone could advise. My daughter has been wearing pajama pants every night for over 2yrs now (some light pants but never dry more than dat at a time, sometimes leaking cos she pulls them up too high) and as she's approaching 7 we decided to try a new night time tactic I'd heard of from other mum's which is going cold turkey - no pants, just nighty, brolly sheets with wings and toilet visits last thing and first thing...anyway after a week she still wakes up wet bed no idea she's wee'd, figured no stress, matter of fact approach, washing daily changing her brolly sheets etc etc...found it strange she wouldn't wake up with wee running down her leg but figured it would happen eventually.

Anyway my main concern is just lately she has started saying she has tried at the toilet, says she didn't go, then later see wee in toilet, tonight I challenged her and could tell she wasn't lying, she honestly thought she hasn't been! For now we're asking her to check toilet n if looks yellow, then to treat it as if she's been to follow basic hygiene and prevent infection. But I'm concerned with fact she doesn't realise she's been, could it be she's not feeling the sensation? Hence maybe why she's not dry at night either??

#Puzzledparent

Yeah we try that technique bit seems to stress her out more...

Some children wet the bed and it can be hereditary. Get in contact with the school nurse and ask for a referral to the children’s bowel and bladder or continence team. They can provide alarms or it may be that she needs medication

Hi, I was a bed wetter and it continued to adulthood! Eventually after moving in with my boyfriend at 21 I sought help. By then Desmospray was available so I used that for a while and underwent surgery to stretch my bladder. Totally dry since.

My mother just used to shame me through childhood about it, please don't do that and seek medical advice.

I would never shame her, I understand it takes time so hoping after 5 days she understands the need to go back to bedtime pants...

It's really not that uncommon not to be dry at night at her age. She either produces the hormone or not. I think they sometimes do a. Few tests at 7. Bit still very normal. Sometimes hyper mobility can impact too.

Well again tonight she was adamant she hadnt wee'd til she had her wet pants and the yellow in toilet pointed out to her...

My DS(6) has been referred to the Enuresis clinic by the GP and the nurse’s advice is:

-No drinks 1.5 hours before bed
-Drink minimum 1.3-1.5 litres daily (not including milk) - this helps stretch the bladder so that at nighttime the brain doesn’t automatically release urine because it’s capacity is small
-No Apple & black currant as it stimulates the bladder
-At bedtime do teeth and toilet, stories, and then back to try and do a second wee before going to sleep
-The body needs to produce the hormone otherwise it’s futile expecting dryness at night
-You can try the night alarm or medication, however she said the alarm has better success because it’s training the brain more
-Encourage the child to share responsibility for changing the sheets/bedding, their pj’s, and showering before school so they don’t smell of wee.

And 7 years is not too old otherwise enuresis clinics would not exist! If either parent was a bedwetter then the child has an increased chance of bed wetting too (which has happened in our case - I was still bed wetting at 13). Some children are very deep sleepers and can also not hear the alarm, in which case parents should quickly wake them and direct the child to the bathroom.

Hi we are trying to get her to drink more, probably only drinking 4 child cups a day atm so maybe she's not drinking enough...as half term atm it's worth trying to get her to drink more...

How does the alarm work?