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AIBU?

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To not post pictures of my partners sons face on fb?

57 replies

Beachbreak2411 · 22/10/2021 22:00

We’ve been together almost 4 years; he and his kids have known my dd for about 2 of those years. The kids get on brilliantly and we have lots of lovely days out (his dd doesn’t see him much now because of other commitments and he only sees his son 1 day a week). He got really angry with me tonight as when I put pictures on fb I don’t put his son on, or if I do I don’t put his face in. I thought I was being respectful. He says his family think I don’t care enough about his son. I intentionally only put pictures up where his face isn’t showing. Am
I being unreasonable not to post pictures of my boyfriends child? We don’t live together and won’t do because I can only afford to rent a 2 bed house for my daughter and I and he still lives with his mum (at 43) and his kids sleep on the floor of his room

OP posts:
youvegottenminuteslynn · 23/10/2021 00:07

his dd doesn’t see him much now because of other commitments and he only sees his son 1 day a week

Just saw this and that you don't live together.

Honestly OP if you don't break up then you are letting your daughter down HUGELY.

Stop it.

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 23/10/2021 00:27

Do as @AcrossthePond55 says. She's speaking sense.
Good luck xxxx

MagnoliatheMagnificent · 23/10/2021 10:26

I think you've seen the light. Consider how his behaviour affects all of you, hopefully today you'll be able to have a serious conversation, maybe let him know he's being unfair to his own children as well as yours, then set him free...

cricketmum84 · 23/10/2021 11:02

Just read your other post and JC yes you need to get rid!!

Please follow the good advice that others have given you.

He is a violent and abusive bully. Do you really want your DD to grow up thinking this is what a relationship looks like?

bluebeck · 23/10/2021 11:18

@AutumnLeafy

He can put pictures of his own son on Facebook instead of policing yours
This absolutely!!!
youvegottenminuteslynn · 23/10/2021 11:51

Have you got the man who scares you, burns your belongings and hits you out of you and your daughter's house yet?

He doesn't live with you so there's no reason for him to be there now. Don't let your daughter down by staying with an abusive man.

You're training her to be abused herself in future, whether that's being bullied and hit by him or by her future partners... or both. I know I'll get shit for being harsh but you need to acknowledge that you aren't staying in a relationship with him FOR her, you're staying in spite of her.

She should be reason enough not to be with a man you know is violent and a bully. Isn't she enough?

Cuntness · 23/10/2021 12:09

Jesus, OP.

Please leave him.

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