Sony to get think the word traumatised is used far too readily on mumsnet?

[RedHelenB]

Losing a oarent, having a serious accident fair enough, not for things like a parent telling their kid father Christmas isn't real or forgetting it was own clothes say at school.

Seems every post has someone traumatised lately.

I don't know - I'm shaking and crying just reading your post, OP.

Me too @AlfonsoTheDinosaurlfonso so much so, I think I might be traumatised 😁

You should put a trigger warning on this.

Trauma is definitely an over used word.

Concept creep happens a lot and eventually words lose their meaning

I need a hand hold after reading this triggering thread.

We are all here for you Toottooot

I'm traumatised just trying to make sense of the garbled thread title.

It's all over the internet. If you don't like it here, never go to TikTok, where everything is a 'trauma response' and anything from getting songs stuck in your head to worrying about what you said after a big night out is a definitive symptom of ADHD/ASD.

'Crippling anxiety' is the phrase that I most clearly associate with Mumsnet. Also emetophobia.

I am both devastated and heartbroken for you OP.

The sarcasm of some of these responses speaks volumes about many MNers' views on mental health issues. OP I agree, for the examples you gave, 'trauma' would seem like far too strong a word, but it's the fact that some people have chosen to turn this into a joke thread that's far more telling imho.

That was so funny @AlfonsoTheDinosaur that...
...
... I spat my tea out.

Oh, also, I spat the tea out so loudly that I woke the neighbour's sleeping baby. In the next town.

The sarcasm of some of these responses speaks volumes about many MNers' views on mental health issues.

I disagree, I think it reflects how tired people are of having mental health trivialised by every normal human emotion being pathologised.

I'm devastated for you op - you need a spa day

I don’t think it’s that bad on Mumsnet. The are definitely other sites where it’s worse where they all say they have depression, anxiety, ptsd etc. I know we all have our own issues, but I do wonder how healthy it is and how fair it is on those who are actually diagnosed and doing their best to manage their condition.
Late teens/ early twenties seem to be particularly guilty of finding things traumatic.

I kind of agree and disagree with @OhPatti, tbf.

Whilst we can never truly know what MH issues someone is going through, MN does seem to have more posters than you'd expect who aggressively post all over the place, then as soon as they are called out, blame it on MH/anxiety.

It's the same with the word "bullying".

Overuse and self-diagnosis does a great discredit to those genuinely suffering and in the long run means fewer people will be seen as credible.

I think it's because when we speak to friends, they get our mood, sad, fearful, etc, so we don't need to use excessive descriptions. But on the Internet we're competing with a lot of other people so we have to make ourselves stand out and as we don't have tone or volume, we use exaggeration in our words. Hence we get extreme sentiments that are not born out in reality.
The trouble is that the more we read words like traumatic, the more normalised it becomes so it's no longer a word that triggers emotions of sympathy or urge to assist, instead it becomes a 'meh' word. So when a real trauma comes along, we might not respond to it as seriously as we should.
Which is why I think the sarcastic replies are well placed because it shows that people are trying to sift through responses to see what is a serious trauma and what is more of a concern. Not everything has to be a mental health crisis. (Speaking as someone who has mental health problems.)

@FOJN

The sarcasm of some of these responses speaks volumes about many MNers' views on mental health issues.

I disagree, I think it reflects how tired people are of having mental health trivialised by every normal human emotion being pathologised.

Totally this

Traumatised, triggered, literally shaking and crying, mortified, disgusted... people on MN very much need to chill and get a bit of perspective imho.

I'm traumatised by all the OP's typos.

I think narcassist is used too much. Someone shows slightly selfish or thoughtless behaviour once and the op and the whole thread labels them a narcissist.

See also - someone i know got a bit aggressive when they had a stressful day and hadn't slept for 48 hours - "have you considered they may have dementia/a brain tumour/been bitten by a rare worm from a very specific are in the amazon rainforest that humans can't actually reach"

As pp have said - it's used too readily everywhere. My DS is 9 and asked me what it meant after hearing his friends using it. He's also asked me about 'OCD' and 'triggers' recently. It must be really frustrating for anyone who genuinely suffers these issues.

@OhPatti

The sarcasm of some of these responses speaks volumes about many MNers' views on mental health issues. OP I agree, for the examples you gave, 'trauma' would seem like far too strong a word, but it's the fact that some people have chosen to turn this into a joke thread that's far more telling imho.

Was it meant to be a super serious thread? I don't think so.

Something I hear in real life that I feel the same about is "it broke me/I'm just broken". In some instances, sure, you might feel like that. Child got a bad grade? New sofa doesn't match the carpet? Probably not

Can we add 'scream/screamed'?

I'm not surprised so many people are traumatised with all the screaming that's going on around them!

(Scream definition;

1. give a long, loud, piercing cry or cries expressing extreme emotion or pain."they could hear him screaming in pain"
2. make a loud, high-pitched sound."sirens were screaming from all over the city")

Sony to get think the word traumatised is used far too readily on mumsnet?
How did Virgin Media Compare?
Or is the V word triggering or judgemental or phobic when asked by a man.

Yes OP I agree. People don't have a bad day, it was traumatic. People don't have a heated conversation, they scream at each other. People don't get a bit upset; they are raging with anger. This need to be dramatic is