Sony to get think the word traumatised is used far too readily on mumsnet?

[RedHelenB]

Losing a oarent, having a serious accident fair enough, not for things like a parent telling their kid father Christmas isn't real or forgetting it was own clothes say at school.

Seems every post has someone traumatised lately.

Absolutely agree, it's overused, exaggerated and self diagnosed mostly. I suffered PTSD and was really traumatised after something which left me very ill and bedridden for a long time and then had a friend who told me oh yes she must have PTSD too etc... can only laugh about it now 😂 but when you are seriously suffering, like I did, it it's not much fun to see others trivialising it.

I'd like to know what "Sony to get think" means though 🧐 does anyone actually know what the whole sentence is supposed to say?

LTB

Screamed at me or screamed in my face seems to be another favourite, as in, the woman in the shop screamed in my face.
No wonder the writer was traumatised!
Visions of various shoppers screaming in each others faces while the rest of the shoppers shake and sob at being traumatised by such displays.
( I've never actually witnessed a screaming shopper tbh )

I'm so sorry you're going through this OP

OP, were you so triggered about the word 'traumatised' that you couldn't be arsed to read your title and edit it to make sense? What did Sony do?

Personally I don't care if someone says they're traumatised by something I wouldn't be traumatised by, it's their life. How can I tell if I'm not them? Doesn't affect me.

I'm more at people throwing the word 'aggressive' around at any poster who isn't posting as nicely as possible. Me thinks the person calling people 'aggressive' is actually triggered or traumatised without using the word.

To be fair the wider definition of the word "trauma" refers to any level of disturbance. A small graze to your knee is a trauma to the skin for example.

I agree that the word trauma does seem to have been used more to refer to a more serious disturbance of equilibrium whether mental or physical. And that seems to have come full circle with people using the sensationalised version to refer to some quite minor disturbance. So I see what you mean.

But those suffering severe trauma don't have a monopoly on the word itself. It can be quite validly used by those suffering a minor trauma. Plus of course one person cannot really assess how one event might affect one individual.

Similarly those suffering diagnosed anxiety disorders now seem to think they have a monopoly on the word anxiety. They don't. It is a state of being anxious and the scale is very broad. Everyone feels some anxiety at times. It's entirely natural. They aren't saying they have a full blown anxiety disorder.

I think I'd rather people were aware of the concept of trauma than not, even if it's overused. I've just been diagnosed with PTSD after years of playing down various incidents as didn't want to seem dramatic (even just to myself).

Was it meant to be a super serious thread? I don't think so.

Probably not, but there's some real bitchiness mixed in with the lighthearted replies. I would also point out that this topic is triggering for some, but I expect I'd only get laughed at.

I'm traumatised by everyone's ex (or soon-to-be ex), who is abusive.

@honeylulu. I think there's a difference between physical and emotional trauma, though. Medically physical traumas can be minor injuries. But psychlogical or emotional traumas are from serious events and have a long lasting impact. Now of course discovering there is no Father Christmas might cause trauma to the odd child, but the overwhelming majority of children aren't still struggling with the discovery years later. In other words they're upset by the discovery, not traumatised, but they process it and move on.

@Shallwegoforawalk

I'm traumatised just trying to make sense of the garbled thread title.

So sorry about that.

@OhGiveUp

Screamed at me or screamed in my face seems to be another favourite, as in, the woman in the shop screamed in my face. No wonder the writer was traumatised! Visions of various shoppers screaming in each others faces while the rest of the shoppers shake and sob at being traumatised by such displays. ( I've never actually witnessed a screaming shopper tbh )

Yes that's another one.

You’ve all just made me piss myself. I literally just rolled around on the floor, in my own urine, and now I’m completely mortified.

@OhPatti

Was it meant to be a super serious thread? I don't think so.

Probably not, but there's some real bitchiness mixed in with the lighthearted replies. I would also point out that this topic is triggering for some, but I expect I'd only get laughed at.

Have you honestly just thrown around the word ‘triggering’?

I get that there's a lot of misuse of the word triggering/triggered but I think the way some people laugh about and dismiss people who use it legitimately is so shit and ignorant.
Some people do need trigger warnings, some people are triggered by certain things and it's certainly not something to laugh and roll your eyes about. As a PTSD sufferer myself I agree with @OhPatti some of the responses are bitchy and ignorant.

@withpeaceandlove

I get that there's a lot of misuse of the word triggering/triggered but I think the way some people laugh about and dismiss people who use it legitimately is so shit and ignorant. Some people do need trigger warnings, some people are triggered by certain things and it's certainly not something to laugh and roll your eyes about. As a PTSD sufferer myself I agree with *@OhPatti* some of the responses are bitchy and ignorant.

In all seriousness, if you find this topic disturbing it's probably not a good idea to participate in it.

@politics4me

Sony to get think the word traumatised is used far too readily on mumsnet? How did Virgin Media Compare? Or is the V word triggering or judgemental or phobic when asked by a man.

@withpeaceandlove

I get that there's a lot of misuse of the word triggering/triggered but I think the way some people laugh about and dismiss people who use it legitimately is so shit and ignorant. Some people do need trigger warnings, some people are triggered by certain things and it's certainly not something to laugh and roll your eyes about. As a PTSD sufferer myself I agree with *@OhPatti* some of the responses are bitchy and ignorant.

I do agree with you to an extent. It's good that we're more aware of trauma and neurodiversity. However the extent of self-diagnosis and medicalisation of typical emotions and quirks minimises the severity of these conditions and also damages individuals' own resiliency. I wish that there would be more support for people to get short term support through troubled times, regardless of a diagnosis, rather than the current system which tends to ignore minor issues until they become severe, and requires people to have a medical diagnosis and show severity before being able to access help (which itself can focus on medication rather than counselling and lifestyle and preventative support).

I think to some extent it's just entered the lexicon now, and people don't always really mean it. Kind of like the way "repressed" is used just in a normal way that isn't quite what it means in psychology.

I don't mind that so much, but it's the people who think their normal, but difficult life experiences are trauma that needs some kind of medical response that are annoying. A lot of it seems to be about a desire for attention, along with a general tendency to medicalize everything.

People on MN very much need to chill and get a bit of perspective imho.

This in spades. Then again, 90% of the threads on AIBU wouldn't exist if this happened.

Have you honestly just thrown around the word ‘triggering’? grin

Have you honestly just laughed at me for suggesting that yes, people being sarcastic and dismissive about the topic of trauma can be triggering for some?

Just wow.

I'm on the fence about this. Having gone through the pandemic, I think a lot of people are a bit burnt out and on the edge. Things that may have 'got their goat' or stressed them out a bit before might seem now to be genuinely traumatic.

Also, I do read things on here that make me think 'oh get over yourself' but then the back story comes out that they are pregnant with triplets and living in a caravan or whatever and then I think that the trauma they speak of is just a nominated trauma in a chaotic life. Sort of like the final straw.

@OhPatti

Have you honestly just thrown around the word ‘triggering’? grin

Have you honestly just laughed at me for suggesting that yes, people being sarcastic and dismissive about the topic of trauma can be triggering for some?

Just wow.

To be fair it was a smile, not a laugh.

On a thread where people were highlighting the overuse of extreme words to describe situations that didn’t warrant it, you threw in another one of those exact same type of words. The irony made me smile. Hence the emoji.

@LobsterNapkin

I think to some extent it's just entered the lexicon now, and people don't always really mean it. Kind of like the way "repressed" is used just in a normal way that isn't quite what it means in psychology.

I don't mind that so much, but it's the people who think their normal, but difficult life experiences are trauma that needs some kind of medical response that are annoying. A lot of it seems to be about a desire for attention, along with a general tendency to medicalize everything.

Yes. Those are good points.

Plus - as a general observation and not just relevant to MN - it would be helpful if people learnt to self-soothe and to accept the occasional bump in the road without needing a handhold or validation.