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How to politely say no to this friend

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HowToGrowASpine · 21/10/2021 10:40

A friend of mine has recently been telling me about these new dietary drinks she's been taking and I've noticed she's now aggressively promoting them on all her social media pages. She mentions them to me every time we meet up which is a few times a week.

I initially feigned interest 'that sounds interesting, I'll have a think about it', and after further prompting I informed her of a minor medical ailment which I didn't want to impact by taking any new supplements. A few days later she thrust her phone in my face from a webpage saying it was perfectly healthy for this ailment, but later when I googled it I found more articles (from more reputable sources) advising against taking them saying they could be damaging.

I'm a little upset my friend keeps pressing me on this despite my obvious health concerns, as she would no doubt have seen the scores of negative press around this, but was still happy to try to force them onto me. I've never been into diet fads and don't complain to my friends about my weight or needing to lose weight, so it's not like I baited this onslaught.

I want to politely ask my friend to stop pressing me on this but in a way so not to hurt her feelings as she's quite a sensitive person. I value this friendship and really enjoy her company, but lately I dread going over and facing this high pressure sales pitch type environment.

I have issues being assertive so welcome any advice you can give me.

Thank you.

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daisychain01 · 21/10/2021 17:26

She's no friend pushing you to buy a product even though you've said you could have a reaction to it.

Therefore there's no need to spare her feelings or worry about offence when she's paid scant regard to your needs. Be candid. Tell her you're not interested and not to bring up the matter again. This time don't give her a reason that she can pick apart and prove you "wrong"

No = No

notangelinajolie · 21/10/2021 17:37

Just say, 'nice try, but no'.

Stovetopespresso · 21/10/2021 17:39

"sorry I don't mix friendships and money"?

AtleastitsnotMonday · 21/10/2021 17:45

“Look, I’ve heard everything you have told me about x and it really isn’t the thing for me.”

Then the next she asks “as I said last time (repeat above) Do you not remember?”

Then the next time she asks repeat again. If she has the balls to ask again after this say the above again but finish with “I don’t wish to worry you, but I’m getting a little concerned there is a problem with your memory. Do you think it might be worth checking in with your gp.”

Next time repeat above again. Do not get drawn into any other conversation, just repeat, repeat, repeat.

NeonTetras · 21/10/2021 18:27

Tell her you've been told by your GP it is dangerous and you trust your medical professional.

Also, if you want her to snap out of this, send her links to information about MLMs, links that detail the pushy steps of pyramid selling, in depth, step by step, so she knows YOU KNOW what she is doing. It will stop her, and, it just might save her when she recognises herself and her organisation in those articles.

NeonTetras · 21/10/2021 18:32

OP, this is a really good link (even mentions weight loss) to send your friend: www.refinery29.com/en-gb/multi-level-marketing-friendships

Redarrow2017 · 21/10/2021 20:37

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