To find evenings so boring

[Poppets14]

What do you do on an evening?
We have dinner, one of us puts dd to bed while the other clears up.
Then my husband puts some rubbish on the TV - I might read or look at my phone.
I sometimes end up going to bed about 8:30 just because I’m so so bored.

What do you all do on an evening?

I keep a note of tv stuff worth watching and call it back on catch up or binge watch.

Or go to bed early with saved up radio programmes to listen to dramas, docos etc (R4 or R4x obs)

But I agree, winter evenings are particularly boring and non-productive.

We eat about seven, then TV, reading, faffing on the Internet.

Tonight was:

My turn to cook/clearup
Watched Coronation Street
Emptied dishwasher
Watched Hollington Road
Played with cat
Watched Never Mind the Buzzcocks
DP went to bed, i’m off for half term so stayed up reading my book

@Poppets14

I don’t mind TV if there’s something worth watching but my husband always moans at the stuff I watch so it’s easier to let him put what he likes on. It makes me feel a bit down not knowing what to do- my mum says only boring people get bored 😳 I don’t enjoy exercise

Your Mum is right! You could... watch good tv, go out and do a hobby, read a book?!

Normally, Cook for or with partner
Choose something to watch- if we're tired 🥱 a series we've already watched and chat to each other
Or a film
Some nights we just sit a talk about very random stuff for hours / others we watch a film or series and sit on our phones ( we try to make the effort for phone free night once a week because we can become a bit to engrossed!)
If he wants to watch something I don't - I read or grab my iPad

We might on the rare occasion have a drink together during all of this.

Who ever cooked dinner gets to sit back a relax whilst the other tidies up and makes tea and gets desert/ treats...

Or else we go off to the bedroom for an hour or so lol 😂 and to be honest I'm surprised more people haven't mentioned this!

I very very rarely get bored. There's always something that needs doing or I find something I'm interested in. As a teacher I work most evenings so having time to be bored would be a luxury in the first place! But even during the school holidays I always find something to occupy myself in the evening, even if its just relaxing in the bath or watching netflix. I find there's never enough hours in the day to do everything I want to!

I read, also write quite a lot. I was painting some walls earlier, until about 10pm. i don't have an Iphone thing, and only watch a few chosen programmes on TV in the week. I don't have net flix and the like.

Omg Iv loved watching squid games on Netflix amazing guys with stick with it .

I am so, so bored in an evening. Trying to work out if its sort of pandemic related. I wfh and very rarely go out of an evening so very samey - and all 4 of us spend way more time on seperate screens than we did. So no shared evening experience beyond family dinner.
I know none of that is non fixable but feel too tired/ listless to do anything about it.

Omg guys thankful u guys are here.

I have totally got time on my hands from 10 pm my time till I feel I drop

I browse cookbooks for new recipes to try. I've been writing Xmas lists this week. I help ds with his homework.
Evenings are for planning next year's flower borders or what clothes I need for this winter. Or holidays. I read a lot. Manicure my nails. Just relax.

I never feel like evenings are long enough and I don't even have kids By the time work is done, tea cooked, kitchen tidied etc. there's not much left. I read, talk to friends or family on phone, WhatsApp, write letters, paint my nails, have a bath, talk to my cat, Netflix, watch YouTube, listen to podcasts etc. I do a yoga class once a week and volunteer sometimes as well. Occasionally I bake when I can be bothered. When I'm extra tired I nap. Love napping.

Watch TV, on phone, generally relax. It's great. I'm never bored.

Haha you sound like me! I just cook dinner, let the kids watch something on tv or ipad, eat, bath, story, bed. But I'm so tired at the minute with this weird bug I go to bed at half eight too. I
Sometimes we go to the park, but we have to drive and with the kids after school clubs soon it will be dark. I need ideas as well. I guess we'll just do more baking 🤔 my 7 year old is sewing and wants to learn, so maybe we'll do that.

You’re not bored. What you’re feeling is the emptiness of being married to a selfish prick.

Have to say I suspect this is true

I'm single now but when married we compromised/took turns who chose and/or one watched something downstairs on the "big telly" and the other watched their thing in the bedroom

This was some time ago so not only pre streaming but also the bedroom tv only got Bbc and itv so whoever had a thing they really wanted to watch on 4 or later in the marriage (told you it was a long time ago!) ch 5 they had dibs on the big tv

He was rugby mad but I wouldn't agree to him having ALL rugby related programmes on. Live matches great but we came to an agreement on not loads of pundits blethering, replays etc

@doodledeedum as I say I'm single now but mostly when married we were more active in the mornings that's why it didn't occur to me - plus being single now. Although of course there's self satisfaction on occasion. But you're right I'd have expected one of the younger coupled mners to have mentioned sex

I watch TV downstairs, usually a series on Netflix or if there is something I like on main channels I will watch that and if DH wants to watch crap like old films or sport, he goes upstairs to watch it, I find this works well

I also wondered why no one has mentioned sex with their other half yet!! An early night

We talk about each others day, what the kids have been up to, a bit of tidying, Netflix/prime series, Gaming, DH May do a bit of spreadsheet stuff, cooking whole listening to a podcast.
Or if we go out: visiting family, gym, walks when it’s actually daylight!! Decorating house, looking up Xmas presents for kids .. etc etc.

Mainly just catching up with eachother

@Finknottlesnewt

I signed up for the Open University.. so doing a law degree.. I'm 57 so won't be a lawyer but might be able to help a charity out when qualified.. beats pointless telly any day .

Wow! This is amazing, OP! I'm on my last year of law school! My second degree, so I started at 25! Do you enjoy it?

DH and I love evenings. We cook together (we both committed to eating as healthy as possible), then I shower and do my skincare routine, read for 30 minutes or so, and then we watch a tv series together.

I just finished my degree last week so now I am wandering aimlessly a bit. Kids are all in bed before 8:30/9.
Summers are spent by the lake, but it's the wrong time of year now.

I I hope it won't be like this forever! Before this degree I was self employed so evenings were spent planning/preparing.
Might start another degree!

Haven't read the whole thread but can imagine gaming wasn't a popular answer.. There are games for every type of person.. Racing, fighting, adventure, role playing games, spooky, farming, story based... The list is endless and anybody can start new ... But having a partner that doesn't share any interests in freetime together sounds depressing, itd be a dealbreaker for me, and bed at 8.30 sounds awful!

@StardewMelons

Haven't read the whole thread but can imagine gaming wasn't a popular answer.. There are games for every type of person.. Racing, fighting, adventure, role playing games, spooky, farming, story based... The list is endless and anybody can start new ... But having a partner that doesn't share any interests in freetime together sounds depressing, itd be a dealbreaker for me, and bed at 8.30 sounds awful!

I was going to suggest gaming!

I'm guessing by your username that you would be partial to a farming game

@TasteTheMeatNotTheHeat Oh I do enjoy 1 farming game, and no it didn't take away days/in hours of my life weeks

You need to watch what you want on tv too.

Tahoe up a hobby .. knitting, cross stitch, reading, drawing, baking

Usually end up watching Pop or Tiny Pop after Emmerdale