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To not request sleeping tablets for him?

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milksippingcat · 20/10/2021 20:08

My partner has trouble getting to sleep. His sleep pattern is all over the place, and he chooses to stay up late and sleep during the day when he doesn't actually need to.

When he does have to be up during the day, he takes prescribed sleeping tablets, maybe two or three times a month. On other days, he takes supermarket/ pharmacy sleep aids, but says they don't help very much.

We are due to go away for a short break next week. The doctor won't let him have any more prescription sleeping tablets. He's asked me to 'get some for him' from the doctor, under my name.

I've never had sleeping tablets. I can't imagine I can just request the pills on the app I usually get my medication, not without talking to my doctor, and even then I doubt they would just prescribe some for me after one appointment.

He's getting pissy with me because I've said no. Am I being a bitch?

(For background, his sleeping choices annoy me and make me feel neglected, so I may just be overreacting and feeling petty...)

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Wrenna · 20/10/2021 20:11

Yanbu, he needs to get sorted out.

WhatisanODP · 20/10/2021 20:14

GP won’t just prescribe them to you out of nowhere!

Gingernaut · 20/10/2021 20:15

Whatever sleep issues he has, he needs to sort them.

Deliberately staying up beyond stupid o'clock and then complaining about disturbed sleep would annoy me too.

He has to address his issues and lay off the caffeine.

DaisyNGO · 20/10/2021 20:15

I have sympathy for him but he won't get them through you, they will see through that immediately!

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milksippingcat · 20/10/2021 20:17

Thanks for the quick replies! Just the thought of lying makes me really uncomfortable. I have had a tough time with my health over the last few years and don't want to put myself in a position where I'm trying to get a prescription by lying about symptoms that may concern them for other reasons.

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SweetBabyCheeses99 · 20/10/2021 20:20

You’re absolutely not being unreasonable. I am wondering if him being “pissy” points to an addiction. Doctors are only supposed to prescribe sleeping aids when other methods have already failed. So there’s a reason he can’t have them. If he practices exemplary sleep hygiene and still can’t sleep then he might be able to get some more.

Lifeispassingby · 20/10/2021 20:26

Even if you can persuade dr that you need them, you can’t be prescribed sleeping tablets as it may affect other medication the dr might want to prescribe for you in future. Your DH is being unreasonable in asking you to do this x

ScottishNewbie · 20/10/2021 20:27

I would be worried about addiction also. At the very least he is morally questionable.
He should be respecting your boundaries and completely not wanting to put you in a weird position

TrufflyPig · 20/10/2021 20:29

You are not being unreasonable and he exhibiting classic drug seeking behaviour. He might have more of a problem than he realises.

simonisnotme · 20/10/2021 20:30

he needs to sort his sleep pattern out rather than rely on pills
if hes 'pissy' about it then tough it out (is he really worth living with ?)

MrsSkylerWhite · 20/10/2021 20:32

He’s an addict, don’t be complicit.

weltenbummler · 20/10/2021 20:33

Your partner has no right to expect you to lie for his own gain. I think rather than worrying that you may be unreasonable you should be very angry with him for his completely unreasonable demand. How dare he!

CottonSock · 20/10/2021 20:38

Is it zopiclone? My gp would only give me 28 days due to possible addiction.

DaisyNGO · 20/10/2021 20:39

@CottonSock

Is it zopiclone? My gp would only give me 28 days due to possible addiction.
Mine gave me 7.
Chloemol · 20/10/2021 20:44

No they won’t give them to you

He needs to go to the doctor and state he still needs help

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milksippingcat · 20/10/2021 21:16

Thanks all- I think the pissiness is him trying to guilt me into doing it. 😬

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LittleDandelionClock · 20/10/2021 21:17

Cheeky sod. Tell him to F-off!

LittleDandelionClock · 20/10/2021 21:18

@milksippingcat Does he not have a job?!

GoodnightGrandma · 20/10/2021 21:18

No. He needs to sort his life out.
Tell him to F off, and consider if he’s the one.

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 20/10/2021 21:19

I have zoplicone gathering dust at the back of the cupboard.

Are they addictive in the same way Valium is?

Or addictive in the way that we rely on them to sleep and then can't do without?

Reptar · 20/10/2021 21:35

I'll just point out to you that if the GP or anyone else worked out that you are giving your prescription meds to your partner, you could be in trouble.

FriendofDorothy · 20/10/2021 21:39

He's being an arse.
Tell him to go and discuss his sleep issues and his over reliance on sedatives with his GP to work out some better coping strategies.

TrufflyPig · 20/10/2021 21:43

I'll just point out to you that if the GP or anyone else worked out that you are giving your prescription meds to your partner, you could be in trouble

This. Depending on the legal class of the drug it can be a criminal offence too.

earsup · 20/10/2021 21:50

My GP absolutely refuses to prescribe any type of sleeping tablets....gives a leaflet for CBT....He could end up going private to get them tho...possibly more lax..?

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milksippingcat · 20/10/2021 22:12

Yes, I have no intention of lying. I don’t want to risk getting into trouble over supplying the medication to him.

He works, but not very much, and to his own schedule from home, so doesn’t have to be up during the day. Except, you know, to see me or do anything household related.

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