Sorry all for not coming back to the thread for a day! Just unexpectedly busy.
I'll try to respond to everything said.
Yes, to all about that, the chucking a toy at her thing-Walker is rather socially awkward. Partner thinks they felt very much so being left i a room with her, thus had to sort of 'do' something to distract themselves. I'd never do that obviously, she was unscathed but it isn't a nice thing to do is it.
badnomad Dog is 5, almost 6. It is possible she doesn't have the best eyesight anyway, her 'iris' of her eye 'leaks' into white of her eye, a condition that causes blindness (or partial) in humans. Vet offered to test her for it when she was a pup, but it was invasive and lengthy (as well as expensive) and I thought,what's the point really?
glitterybug Definitely going to book a vet checkup-she's due one for fleas/worms etc soon anyway so I am going to ask them to do it then. But, fine with everyone and everything otherwise apart from walker so doesn't seem a likely explanation.
I am liking the posts about walkers who dogs love!
Good point about Dog potentially nipping walker :(
flumpyfish Fireworks yes she hates them, but just walking with him.
tomatalllo yes, about dog not feeling confident with walker, hence why fine with me at night, that makes a lot of sense and my friend said the same thing when I told her about this situation. Walker is a very sort of 'hand wringing' sort of person, scared of a lot of things, anxious generally. Quite a likely thing for that to be the case. The power struggle thing rings true too unfortunately.
wetotterIt was my current partner not ex, who saw the toy throwing, I don't think she was lying.
I don't think it is ex's new partner only because dog she's never been here and dog hasnt met her all that many times, it really seems to be walker dog has an issue with.
Fudgeflake no neither would I! Or most people I imagine. Pooryou with that scenario! And yes it quite easily could be something like that couldn't it.
Loubilou09 how awful! Why would you have a job involving dog if (as it seems) you don't even really like them?!
Brollywasn'tneeded No of course not-it is a similar dymanic isn't it, I am entrusting someone to look after my dog and, yes..
All who've said a different walker is required, I've put some enquiries out today. It will be one awkward conversation but I certainly don't want dog to suffer.
rincewindshat dog cam is a good idea!Feels better than a surveilance one anyway! for some reason
suspiria777 I do pay walker fairly and other perks (they don't like where they live and like sitting in my house, for instance)!
girlmom21 I haven't mentioned it. Partner had already said something to them, to the lines of 'WTF you do that for dog was asleep?!' and walker very sheepish about it apparently. Dog does cower away from walker but only when about to go on a walk. Cower might not be the right word, more runs away and hides.
thechip difficult as I'm never around ex and new partner. I don't know if new partner put this idea in ex's head, but I am going to ask her.
potpouri23 just the walker. Fine with going out wiht me at night, which is a regular occurence.
So yes, enquiries made about new walkers. Vet check up will be booked tomorrow.
For those saying dog may be better off with ex, I think my OP may have been misleading as I do spend a lot of time with dog. 99% of my shifts are night shifts, and although I've been away with work recently that's only a less-than-once-a-year thing, I was standing in for someone else so it may not ever happen again really. My shifts are something like 2 on 3 off 3 on 2 off, so I am with dog all night in the same room while I work, walker will come in during the day when I am alseep to walk dog and sit with her for a bit until I get up.
It's getting abit too dark now but I would usually finish work and take dog out for a run-but even with that I run with her as soon as I get up most days too. On my nights off I often take her to the pub with me where she's made a huge fuss of,too. Although she's fine with ex she's much more attached to me, and ex is a lot lazier about walking her, so although I trust ex with her I think she's definitely better off her for the majority of the time.
Thank you so much for everyone's input and apologies again that it took me a long time to respond :)
In the meantime while I'm waiting for replies to my enquiries, I am considering setting my computer cam up as a surveilance camera. I've learned you can DL software that does that-but, I feel a bit wrong about it!?