To not do Xmas presents?

[FurBabyMum02]

So about this time of year the stress begins, what do I get everyone for Xmas? Every year when asked my parents say 'oh we don't want anything you don't need to get us a gift' so last year I didn't, we wernt able to see them with covid and I did make sure to double check they were serious, which they were, so we didn't. And actually it was lovely, we did zoom etc and valued time 'together' over gifts and it was somehow more valuable for the fact that presents wernt involved.

So this year AIBU yo want to extend this to everyone? Barring children obviously.

Is it to late to have this conversation so stick it out 1 more year and raise it after Xmas?

Thing is DHs family is huge and very into gift giving, they seem to really enjoy it, but they are also all lovely and hugely value time together and I'm hoping would be receptive to a conversation that highlights that this surely is far more important.

What would your reasons for not giving gifts be and how would you approach the conversation?

We only do children nowadays.
MIL always wants expensive presents and it just got to expensive to the point me and DH couldn't afford to get each other something little and took the day away from what it was really about.
I don't feel the slightest bit guilty.

This is a great idea and I'm going to suggest it to my family that we stick to buying for the kids only. My BIL is extremely difficult to buy for and you never get a thank you, it's a waste of money. However, I can't see my DH family going for this, my MIL loves shopping.

I only buy gifts for kids and for my secret santa recipient who I spend about £150 on.

Really simplifies Christmas. Would recommend 10/10.

obv that's a family secret santa and now a work secret santa

*not a work secret santa

I don't think my work secret Santa spent £1.50 on mine last year. And it was a waste of £1.50 because I threw it away.

I so hope we don't do it this year!

We have been doing that since 2015. We lost the last of elderly relatives, was sick of spending on my sister to get rubbish regifts back, so just stopped.
My son in law is still doing presents with his family but has asked for money because there is literally nothing he want. It all becomes a bit pointless.

It's too late for this year. I've already bought quite a bit and would find a no presents request in October to be a bit cynical.

Don't be like my sister- we only buy for the kids, which only counted when she had children. Then only until they're 18, which has morphed into when her youngest is 18 (as it wouldn't be fair for two to have presents and the third not..)

I did it! I was inspired by you all and I messaged people today to suggest we stopped. Lots of responses, presumably from relieved people. So far it’s gone down from 30 people to 15.