DH wants to gatecrash a birthday party DS is invited to

[Areyouboredyet]

DS (14) has been invited to a party for his friend's younger brother next week. It's laser tag and in a town close to where we live. They don't drive so are planning on taking the train. DH is moaning about DS going with friends parents as he 'doesn't know them' but I DO know them and DS knows them and has been at their house a lot over the past few years. DH is now saying that either him or myself should go with them. WTAF? I have work that needs done and to be honest DS wouldn't want his dad anywhere near his friends. AIBU to think he's being mean and should let DS who is almost 15 have a bit of freedom?

He's being ridiculous.

Remove yourself from the conversation. If HE isnt happy then HE needs to make arrangements and have the arguement. Stepping back is more effective.

So he hasn't put any actual effort into the personal life of his son ( not bothering to ever meet a close friend he has) then thinks he has the right to get all overprotective of when in a perfectly normal situation.

Your DH obviously doesn't trust your judgment or your son's!

Thanks you, he's an absolute muppet. The thing is the friend's parents would probably be happy but it's more for DS as it would totally change the dynamics and I don't think he'd enjoy himself as much knowing that his dad was there watching him

No, you misunderstood, he's met ds's friend but doesn't know the parents - he's seen them once when we were at parents evening at school.

Your finest platoons, I don't think he doesn't trust our judgement he's just a bit overprotective as he doesn't want any harm coming to our kids and with news of a 14 year old being murdered in Glasgow yesterday it's a bit close for comfort

Oops sorry 'finest pantaloons' should've put my specs on

@Areyouboredyet

Your finest platoons, I don't think he doesn't trust our judgement he's just a bit overprotective as he doesn't want any harm coming to our kids and with news of a 14 year old being murdered in Glasgow yesterday it's a bit close for comfort

But if he trusted your judgement, when you say "I know the parents and DS will be fine with them", your husband would say "Ok then". Overprotectiveness isn't healthy or a good thing and is a pretty much guaranteed way of pushing kids away!

Your finest pantaloons you may be right but I think it's just the way he was brought up, his family didn't socialise much except with close friends and family. I hate the overprotectiveness I get that the world is sometimes a horrible scary place but our DCs need a bit of space to grow up and enjoy their own lives.

I've left him in bed and gone to the spare room and told him that he's not going because he's being ridiculous!

Does your husband want to play laser tag?

He’s totally unreasonable. You don’t know friends parents at secondary. You may have seen in passing at a school concert or drop off at house. To be honest at almost 15 it’s age where they could easily go alone on train to laser tag in nearby town so your DH should be grateful parent is going at all if he is anxious.

Oh gawd. Your poor son. Imagine the shame.

Yeah he's being absolutely ridiculous.

I could understand if the teens were going alone, but they'll be with other adults. Odd.

He cant do that to his son. The embarrassment of ''my dad wants to come with us as he doesn't trust your dad/mum '' if they were 4 years old I might understand but 14..

@EKGEMS

Does your husband want to play laser tag?

Hahaha this made me brilliant. Thanks, you cheered me up

Thanks everyone, thought maybe it was me but my parents never did that to me and there's been a few times when I've told him he's being pathetic.

Our DS is such a great kid, well behaved and polite, fairly sensible and all the parents I know are happy to have him around their kids.

Shame his dad is a twat!

I hope he has a lovely time op - sans dad!

Hahaha this made mebrilliant. Thanks, you cheered me up

Why is that funny? It was my first thought. Laser tag is fun.

@steff13

Hahaha this made mebrilliant. Thanks, you cheered me up

Why is that funny? It was my first thought. Laser tag is fun.

It was the mental image of DH playing laser tag he'd be out of breath before he even made a shot lol he's nowhere near as fit as he used to be (or thinks he is) lol

Ah, that makes sense. ☺️

@Notimeforaname

I hope he has a lovely time op - sans dad!

Thank you, I'm sure he'll have a ball. I'm going to find dad some DIY to make up for being a twat lol

@Rachie1973

Oh gawd. Your poor son. Imagine the shame.

Exactly my thoughts. Poor DS would be mortified.

I also thought he must really want to play

Oh dear. I have a 14 yo and a 15 yo. They do loads on their own or with friends. I’d drop off if asked but would never go along! That’s just embarrassing!