DH wants to gatecrash a birthday party DS is invited to

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DS (14) has been invited to a party for his friend's younger brother next week. It's laser tag and in a town close to where we live. They don't drive so are planning on taking the train. DH is moaning about DS going with friends parents as he 'doesn't know them' but I DO know them and DS knows them and has been at their house a lot over the past few years. DH is now saying that either him or myself should go with them. WTAF? I have work that needs done and to be honest DS wouldn't want his dad anywhere near his friends. AIBU to think he's being mean and should let DS who is almost 15 have a bit of freedom?

Your dh sounds a twat

Blimey ! Your poor DS. Is your DH planning to tag along for Freshers week in a few years time or sit in for his first day of work?

What exactly does your DH think will happen at a (supervised) party for a younger boy?

Another one here who thinks dh is being ridiculous.

Leave it to him and ds to sort out
Your dh is zn adult
Can go or not go
And deal with ds reaction

I’m starting to leave my 5 year old at parties. In 3 years time your 15 year maybe moving away from home. You need to give him the skills and experience to allow him to do that safely.

He IS obviously being ridiculous and embarrassing but I love laser tag and would love to play myself so assumed that what the situation was here...

I love laser tag 😳

Your dh is being ridiculous though.

It’s really important that your DH , by whatever means, does not do this.

He is infantilising your son, this level of ‘concern’ is controlling, and your Ds will feel mortally embarrassed in front of his friends. This will make him resent his Dad and could easily lead to secrecy and deception.

What in earth does the poor boy in Glasgow have to do with this? Your DH needs to get a grip / see someone about anxiety if a nearly 15 year old getting a local train with friends snd friends parents sets off this sort of thinking.

Your poor Ds.

Generally once kids are at secondary school people rarely meet other parents. I got to know a lot of their friends but very rarely met parents apart from briefly at parents evening! Your husband needs to calm down!

Your DH hasn't realised that to his 15 yo son he isn't CoolDad anymore, he's embarrassing Dad

I'd be inclined to set teen on him- "son dad said he wants to drive you there and stay instead of going with friends parents and stay, why don't you go tell dad what you'd prefer.." then watch teen go over to dad with all the brutal honesty that teens unleash

Teen: Dad I want to catch lift with my friend. Don't come
Dad: Ah but it'll be just you n me buddie and I can give you tips on lazer tag on way there
Teen: (death stare.... withering eye roll) ... like whatever.... so embarrassing... no one else's dad is going... Sooo lame .. why can't you leave me be... mums not embarrassing like you ... (derisive snort ... eyeroll eyeroll)

@steff13

Hahaha this made mebrilliant. Thanks, you cheered me up

Why is that funny? It was my first thought. Laser tag is fun.

My first thought as well.

Yeah I think he wants to play too. I'd step back and let DH and DS argue it out

Goodness, your poor DS! This would be so embarrassing for him. He is 14 ffs!!!

Your DH is insane. It would be standard at age 6 for one parent to take 2-3 dc to a party to save multiple journeys. At nearly 15 I'm surprised a parent is even involved

Jesus Christ, I’ve been dumping my kids for birthday parties since they were six!

@EKGEMS

Does your husband want to play laser tag?

My first thought

Thanks everyone, he seems to have had a change of heart and isn't going after all. He's still a twat tho xxx

Sorry about the kisses I got distracted by married at first sight and forgot that I wasn't messaging my sister.