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Offensive greetings card

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BluebelllsRosesDaffodills · 18/10/2021 15:41

If you received this card, would you find it funny, or think it was rude?
Would you feel it was very poor taste?
Not meaning to offend anyone btw, more curious as to who would buy this kind of thing.

Offensive greetings card
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Thefaceofboe · 18/10/2021 17:07

I was about to comment and say you’re being silly before seeing the card Confused how weird!! I wouldn’t find that funny

BeetleyCarapace · 18/10/2021 17:07

I don't/wouldn't find it offensive.

But I do find it unfunny, poorly written, badly designed, and with terrible typography.

Why are so many greetings cards so shit?

BubbleCoffee · 18/10/2021 17:10

It isn't funny. It appears to have been written by a man with no real knowledge of women or babies. It's the kind of stupid 'banter' you'd hear from someone male, unintelligent and sexist. Women - especially when exhausted and hormonal from having just given birth - don't want to be told their baby is a 'freak', the 'wrong' size, or have their body parts commented on! Yes, I'd be offended to receive that.

SpeckledlyHen · 18/10/2021 17:11

I like a joke and a humorous card but this isn't funny. Falls very short of the mark and the person who sent this to me would go quite far down in my estimations to be honest. The word freak is totally and utterly inappropriate.

Leafstamp · 18/10/2021 17:13

Offensive.

But some people do have a bizarre sense of humour

Puzzledandpissedoff · 18/10/2021 17:13

I'm notoriously hard to offend, but that would just about do it; you simply don't refer to a new baby as a "freak", in jest or not

Thoroughly tasteless ...

SorrynotWorry · 18/10/2021 17:15

I could laugh if it wasn't insulting an innocent newborn baby. Not that the baby realises but parents have feelings too.

Whopper would work better, I think this probably appeals to an extremely small minority.

LonginesPrime · 18/10/2021 17:15

I doubt many people would find that funny about their own newborn baby.

Plus, it's just so nasty and prejudiced.

They were obviously so desperate to be edgy that they forgot to add the humour.

FrankButchersDickieBow · 18/10/2021 17:15

About as funny as a dose of the clap.

Benjispruce4 · 18/10/2021 17:17

Horrible card. Nobody will buy it it and it will be discontinued.

SweetPetrichor · 18/10/2021 17:19

I don't think it's offensive, but it's not very funny either. To be fair, newborns are kinda little alien freaks in the first place. We're not really 'fully baked' when we're born...

Siouxtse1 · 18/10/2021 17:19

Would definitely have chucked it in the bin if I'd received this one. Have kept all of the new baby cards we were given. My children love looking at them- how upset would they be that someone described them as a freak?
I wouldn't send this to anyone. I don't tend to buy humour- based cards anyway (I'm not a fun sponge, but I prefer something a but more witty. This isn't even the lame dad-joke level of most 'funny' cards. It's just mean!

daisyjgrey · 18/10/2021 17:21

I like an comedically offensive card, but that one is less comedic and just a bit...off.

Classica · 18/10/2021 17:22

It's not even funny in an 'oh that's offensive but actually quite amusing' way. It's blokey bants by a bloke who doesn't actually have a sense of humour.

dotoallasyouwouldbedoneby · 18/10/2021 17:24

I'd be willing to bet that the artist/captionist was not a woman nor a mother.
Even if you knew people who would normally have that kind of warped sense of humour, it would be a great 'faux pas' if said child were less than perfect in some way. Most people send new baby cards before seeing the actual baby.
Very poor taste especially the 'freak' word for a new baby.

Stovetopespresso · 18/10/2021 17:26

maybe they're going for the bitter jilted ex bloke market?

there are some funny new baby cards out there (eg happy vagina escape day,) but this one seems...dark....

Derbee · 18/10/2021 17:30

I’m generally not easily offended. But I’d never buy that card, and I’d be horrified to receive it

Pythonesque · 18/10/2021 17:33

@BeardieWeirdie

I don’t like the use of the word freak - “whopper” would be funny. I think it’s only suitable for giving to a very good friend. I wouldn’t like it from a pervy uncle!
My little sister has never forgiven our mother's obstetrician for apparently saying something like "my goodness what a whopper" when he delivered her. (he'd been sure she wouldn't be as big as I'd been, 7lb something at 35/40, but she was very nearly 8 lb at 36/40...)
SoftSheen · 18/10/2021 17:34

That's not something you could ever give to a hormonal new mother, no matter what their sense of humour is like under usual circumstances.

Beehappy21 · 18/10/2021 17:36

Was fine for me until 'freak'... surely nobody would send this? 🥴🥴

YouokHun · 18/10/2021 17:44

I’d be seriously questioning the intelligence of someone sending that card. It’s not so much offensive as just pathetic. Even the funnier risqué/Micky taking cards are risky; you’ve got to be pretty sure of your ground when you decide what’s amusing. A friend of mine sends me “witty” cards, usually smug jokes about being “middle class”, every time I get one she says “found this card - hysterical isn’t it?” and a little bit more of me dies inside. I don’t say anything because she means well but I wish she’d keep them at home and titter over them in her free time and send me a “boring” card instead. I know I’m ungrateful.

mam0918 · 18/10/2021 17:48

I couldnt see the bottom line until I opened the image big but could see the top of the letters so I assumed it was going to be a cheesy 'you poor vagina' type joke with the picture of a huge baby which is tacky/trashy but I wouldn't be 'offended' by.

but yes I would be offended by someone calling my newborn baby a 'freak' (people always claim 'my friends will find this funny' and when I have seen people do stuff like this their friends have NOT found it funny) and honestly would just think anyone making this type of joke is utterly pathetic - aiming an insulting joke at someone who cant fight back is not 'clever' (in the 'poor vagina' version the joke is at the mother who is the persons friends expense not the innocent baby).

Same as the people who always tout the word 'crotchfruit' and laugh at each other with the 'OMG 'crotchfruit' so funny' then just talk shit about anyone who has kids. They really just look Immature, like they need more of a life and a real sense of humour that's not just based of bullying babies honestly.

BUT I feel more sorry for just how pathetic their sense of self is than angry 'cancel culture' at them though.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 18/10/2021 17:49

I'd be offended on two counts. Firstly the word 'freak', and secondly the implication that the sender thought my sense of humour was so underdeveloped that I would find it funny.

That said, I did once send my sister a card that said 'Congratulations. It's been another year since you fell out of a vagina'.

limitedperiodonly · 18/10/2021 17:52

Is it from Scribbler? They've got the market sewn up in the most offensive fuck-awful humour-free cards aimed at people who put Rohypnol in your drink at your birthday party and then say: "Can't you take a joke?"

Lulu1919 · 18/10/2021 17:53

It's not funny
It's horrible
Not sure who would buy and send that to a new mum / dad ???