Wondering what it means?

[Thewitchonthemoon]

If someone you had been having relations with for around 6 weeks said, ‘Let’s be single together’, what would you take from it?

Let's sleep exclusively with eachother would be my take, but I would ask what they meant rather than guess.

He wants to have his cake and eat it?

Friends with benefits situation rather than a relationship

@CatonMat

Let's sleep exclusively with eachother would be my take, but I would ask what they meant rather than guess.

OK. That's the opposite of what I thought but you could be right.

They want to be your fuck buddy.

What an odd thing to say , how confusing ! I would take it as 'let's sleep together but I'm still single '

I would probably ask them to clarify.

They just want the sex.

I would have no idea what they mean but I would suspect it is nothing I would like.

They just want sex and intend to carry on playing the field.

I did find it strange. I know he isn’t speaking to or seeing anyone else and has no intention to do so which makes it more weird.

Friends with benefits.

Anyone who wanted exclusivity from you and who was willing to be exclusive in return would want to make that very clear. Being single together means you carry on having sex but are free to see, and have sex with, whoever will have you.

So, essentially, what you’re doing now, but they don’t see a relationship coming out of it.

I used to describe myself as happily single when I had fuck buddies. He wants no responsibility towards you or your feelings and can move on without explanation. You aren't in a relationship, you are just having sex. He won't suddenly change his mind, so don't hold on for something else.

That you're a back up until they find someone they prefer

"I know he isn’t speaking to or seeing anyone else and has no intention to do so"

But he doesn't want a relationship with you, but he wants regular sex.

I cross posted with your update. I had an ex like that. Five years spent with mixed messages, expectations (and self esteem) on the floor, even while we lived together.

Unless you want a fwb, it’s not a sun of good things to come.

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He wants a regular shag without any commitment. Which is fine if you're both in the same page, but he should have been more open about it before anything started, IMO. I was with a guy who did similar, and I was fine with no strings, but he was more hassle than it was worth in the end.

Thanks all. There is more to the story and I didn’t want to drip feed, I feel I need to start another thread for the rest of it as it’s complicated and I’d like advice, just wanted opinions on what this meant.

Anyway, I’ve posted about this before but in short, it’s someone who is a mate of my ex. He was saying that it can’t go anywhere because there are too many obstacles, one of which being my ex. But we were all at the same party on Saturday and basically my ex guessed there was something going on. He also told a mutual friend that he really liked me. My ex then gave him a lift home and he questioned him, and he admitted it all basically to my ex. My ex told me how the conversation went. It seems he has no intention of breaking things off. He also asked my ex wouldn’t he prefer someone he knows and trusts to be around our child (We share a 3 yr old daughter) rather than a stranger.

Why don't you ask him what he means?

Problem solved

Friends with benefits, I think. Definitely a non exclusive thing by my reading. However I would also ask them to clarify.

Be very willing to end it if what they say doesn’t suit you. Things won’t become exclusive/ a relationship (if you are looking for that) just by hanging in there.

Discussing things with your ex is a big turn off for me, and I’d probably end it for that alone. Far too messy.

My ex put him on the spot and asked him. Needless to say, he was no happy.

Ugh the idea of the two men discussing this gives me the creeps.

I see what you mean, it’s more that my ex was angry and he confronted him about it rather than having a general chat about it.