To be seriously pissed off at my BIL?

[QuestionableMouse]

My nephew was taken into hospital last night with appendicitis. My sister took him to urgent care lunch time yesterday and has been away from home since then. He had the op this morning and my sis asked her partner to take her some food and clean clothes up to the hospital (they're in the RVI at Newcastle - it's ~40 miles from home.)

She rang me this morning in tears because my BIL said he needed to help his dad fix his car before he could set off to the hospital. She'd had nothing to eat since lunchtime when she took the kiddo to urgent care.

He brought her a pasta pot and two packs of crisps. The clothes he took up for her are wet so she can't even get changed.

I've packed her a bag and asked if he can take it tomorrow and he's moaning about the fucking car still. I'd take it myself but my mum is also in hospital and I need to be there for a meeting with the OT/discharge team and I'm also at work.

I'm bloody annoyed at him - his wife and kiddo are stuck in hospital and all he's interested in is his dad's car. (For context BIL has access to two cars and a van so he's not stuck for transport options!)

I can't add anymore to what has already been said, tho I know there's quite a bit of parking space at the RVI.
I just want to say I hope your nephew gets well soon, and that he & your sister are alright!
Maybe the partner will will come down with appendicitis when they're home and your sister will be too busy with their son to visit, or can take him some wet clothes, too. Maybe she'll be so busy that she wouldn't notice that the clothes are her own!!
Well, it's possible he'll spend time in hospital at some point.

He sounds like a knob but surely she can buy some food somewhere

Shoxfordian

IF she has money or a credit card!!

What an arsehat he sounds...
Family before car every time.....when ds2 was ill as a baby my late DH wouldn't have dreamed of behaving like that...

Wouldn’t she take that with her?

Depends. They may be on low income, he may hold them.
It also sounds like it was a mad dash to get her son to the hospital.
Even so, she needs a change of clothes, and not wet clothes!

Wow he sounds dreadful and inept - who doesn’t notice clothes are wet?

What a twat. It’s awful being in hospital at the moment with kids. There’s still so many restrictions on what you can and cannot do. Was in with my 14 y/o DD and I wasn’t allowed to leave her. I needed something out my car and they didn’t want me leaving the ward.

What a wanker! Truly dreadful behaviour. The dad can take his crappy car to the mechanic like normal people, but, they don’t sound normal. I hope she sees the light and LTW.

Your poor sister.
Hope dn is recovering. I recently in v sim position with dc. It was extremely upsetting. It's incredibly painful before and after the op.
DH brought in lots of random useless stuff but he only bc he couldn't find the items I needed. I suspect the wet clothes was incompetence rather than malice. But the rest of his attitude is shameful and would make me feel very sad if that was my sister and nephew

@Chachachawoo

Your poor sister. Hope dn is recovering. I recently in v sim position with dc. It was extremely upsetting. It's incredibly painful before and after the op. DH brought in lots of random useless stuff but he only bc he couldn't find the items I needed. I suspect the wet clothes was incompetence rather than malice. But the rest of his attitude is shameful and would make me feel very sad if that was my sister and nephew

The wet clothes is a lack of care, let's not excuse him with being an incompetent man who can't manage laundry. I'm sure the OPs sister had plenty of clothes he could have taken, he's grabbed something out of the dryer in a rush because he doesn't care enough to take his time and pack a bag properly.

I hope she realises what a useless and selfish twat she is married to. I would of given him both barrels if the was my bil. What a waste of space.

He took the stuff I sorted yesterday and peace has been restored. I honestly think he is panics and had no idea what to do so shuts down. Once I took charge and sorted everything, he was a lot better.

Did she have access to money when she was on her own at the RVI?

I struggle to believe that taking wet clothes wasn't a deliberate act - who does that?

There is plenty of parking in a big multistorey at the rvi but it is quite expense (think I paid £8 last time I was there) but you pay with a card.

@SpindelWhorl

Did she have access to money when she was on her own at the RVI?

Yes, she did.

The wet clothes thing I honestly don't get, either!